Posts: 4462
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012

posted February 12, 2012 06:08 AM            

---

this is an off the wall story and i dont know if it exactly fits this thread but here goes: i got a text at 4am this morning from a random guy who works at this store that i applied for a job at,and he got my number off of my app and just texts me,and he just pointblank asks me if i am bisexual,first off im straight,secondly i dont know this dude at all,so i said no,and he keeps asking,so finally i said d**n it i told you 3 times already im straight and then he says ok geeze just curious. geeze are people really this socially awkward and creepy? it sucks because i really need a job but now i wont be working there? how would you all respond to this?have any of ya'll had any creepy experiences like this?

IP: Logged

Posts: 4336
From: Jupiter
Registered: Jan 2012

posted February 12, 2012 06:43 AM            

---

No and that is messed up. He was going to hire you if you're gay. I wouldn't even care about that job or worry at all that I wasn't getting a job there. Obviously he's gay and desperately looking for a convenient lay. Gross. He could have STD's or HIV you just never know. Do not even feel bad you didn't get the job.

IP: Logged

Posts: 1067
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010

posted February 12, 2012 07:02 AM            

---

If he somehow managed to contact me at 4 AM I'd have let him know what hours I consider appropriate for a stranger to contact me. Then I'd ask him what business it is of his. And if he was a guy I'd probably be snarky (and say this whether he knew my gender or not) and tell him if he wants to get with a guy try Grindr and leave me alone.

I can't really guess his motivations, but part of me suspect he was just trying to be annoying for the lulz because he was bored. But people are weird and can become stalkerish pretty easy so I don't know.

I've dealt with all kinds of stalkerish and creepy behavior including online, though I haven't experienced what you have specifically. Some of it was much worse, like a guy who tried to trick me into giving my address after I said I disagreed about our being soul mates and for him to stop trying to meet me IRL. Another threatened to rape me and chop me up with an ax (though he didn't know where I lived), and that was after I stood up for him (I have no idea what set him off, though he admitted to having a meth habit). I've also dealt with creepy behavior on the job as well (or even just out walking), so what you experienced strikes me as a minor annoyance, and a reason for you to be glad you're a guy if this is creeps you out because for many women it gets much worse.

IP: Logged

Posts: 4462
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012

posted February 12, 2012 07:02 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by ariesdragon:
No and that is messed up. He was going to hire you if you're gay. I wouldn't even care about that job or worry at all that I wasn't getting a job there. Obviously he's gay and desperately looking for a convenient lay. Gross. He could have STD's or HIV you just never know. Do not even feel bad you didn't get the job.

---

yea i dont want to work there now,it just makes me mad because i need a job

------------------
That person who seems to be either a million miles away mentally, or else dissecting you under an invisible microscope, is probably an Aquarian.

IP: Logged

Posts: 4336
From: Jupiter
Registered: Jan 2012

posted February 12, 2012 07:27 AM            

---

I know what u mean. I'm looking for a better job myself. I can only say don't give up and it'll come. Put out resumes everywhere.

IP: Logged

Posts: 4557
From:
Registered: Sep 2011

posted February 12, 2012 08:20 AM            

---

You're kidding me right?
If ANYBODY called me at 4am to ask me such a question, they would meet the signal of a dead line as I would hang up and go back to sleep.

Why did you feel you need to inform a complete stranger about your sexual orientation? They were way out of line to look at your private data and call you in the middle of the night but you don't need to respond to any idiot just because they are related to your job application! LOL

IP: Logged

Posts: 9742
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009

posted February 12, 2012 10:28 AM            

---

Why does a random guy have access to personal/job applications files?
THAT IS CREEPY!

IP: Logged

Posts: 4367
From: Storybrooke, Mr. Gold's Shop
Registered: Sep 2011

posted February 12, 2012 12:30 PM            

---

.

IP: Logged

Posts: 5136
From: Blue Star Kachina
Registered: Apr 2009

posted February 12, 2012 12:44 PM            

---

This is an invasion of your privacy and should be reoprted to the owner/manager of the store ASAP. This fella may be why the store needs help; he is running off the qualified applicants.

You would be compounding the stores problem IF you do not report it.

------------------
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~

IP: Logged

Posts: 9742
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009

posted February 12, 2012 02:34 PM            

---

Definitely call the cops.
In addtion to gods knows what personal information, SS number etc.,
This invasive freak has your address and phone number!

IP: Logged

Posts: 397
From: IL
Registered: Dec 2010

posted February 13, 2012 10:26 AM            

---

Has texting actually made an entire generation completely STUPID? In what world is that EVER not a criminal offense? If he shows up at your door, will you report it then, or just share in a little kitschy conversation? Your address is on your application too. And your social security number. This is not just a little weird... it is HORRIFYING. What occurred was a VIOLATION and needs to be reported IMMEDIATELY.

I'm sorry to hard on you but allowing this sort of thing AT ALL makes this world a more dangerous place for my child and her children in the future. You have the number that called you and you know the place you applied and it is absolutely imperative that demand to make a report with the police and demand that company be contacted and have your information and application removed. You have a responsibility to the rest of us to make a big stinking deal out of this.

IP: Logged

Posts: 4336
From: Jupiter
Registered: Jan 2012

posted February 13, 2012 02:15 PM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by Mystic Melody:
Has texting actually made an entire generation completely STUPID? In what world is that EVER not a criminal offense? If he shows up at your door, will you report it then, or just share in a little kitschy conversation? Your address is on your application too. And your social security number. This is not just a little weird... it is HORRIFYING. What occurred was a VIOLATION and needs to be reported IMMEDIATELY.

I'm sorry to hard on you but allowing this sort of thing AT ALL makes this world a more dangerous place for my child and her children in the future. You have the number that called you and you know the place you applied and it is absolutely imperative that demand to
make a report with the police and demand that company be contacted and have your information and application removed. You have a responsibility to the rest of us to make a big stinking deal out of this.

---

Ya aquaguy give them the number and that dude will be up isshh creek

IP: Logged

Posts: 1067
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010

posted February 13, 2012 06:38 PM            

---

If you do report this to the police, let us know if anything comes of it. Frankly, I'll be pleasantly surprised if they so much as even bother to question anyone at the store. (But then maybe they'll take this kind of harassment more seriously if done by a man against another man...or you could live in a jurisdiction that actually tries doing its job even when they're not likely to reap individual benefits from it.)

I'm also curious what reporting this to the company will do.

IP: Logged

Posts: 4462
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012

posted February 14, 2012 12:02 AM            

---

i wont be reporting it,because come to find out a girl i had worked with at another place had given him my number and told him i was bi,and i know he was telling the truth because he told me her name and it was a girl i had worked with and theres no way he could have known that otherwise ,because i didnt tell him.i am puzzled as to why she would do that as i barely knew her and had never given her reason to act in such a way

IP: Logged

Posts: 1067
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010

posted February 14, 2012 12:21 AM            

---

Did he ever explain why he called you at such a time and demanded to know your orientation? Did you ask?

What he did is not normal or acceptable behavior (whatever your orientation). Doing it as a joke is messed up enough, doing it for any other reason is...well, as you said yourself, creepy at best. I can't help but wonder what the hell he was thinking.

IP: Logged