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NativelyJoan
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posted March 29, 2012 10:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a big supporter of change in all it's forms. I've never had a problem accommodating change within my own life. It could be my dominance of Air and Fire and not really needing stability, being very suited with changing wind directions. I'm a person who's very in touch with their environment and change is always happening within my life and around me. It happens so frequently I'm used to it and when the boat starts rocking I just get comfortable and hold on tight for the ride.

It's difficult however when the changes I face in my life indirectly have an affect on the people in my life. I'm speaking specifically of positive change. For example me moving to a new city or getting a promotion at work and changing offices etc. It seems as though my friends have a harder time dealing with this change then me and as a result stop talking to me or distance themselves from me. Maybe they're just being a bit selfish wanting things to stay the same because it's easier that way or maybe I'm over thinking this. I don't know. It's crazy because I'm the biggest cheerleader for all of the people in my life, when they rejoice I rejoice when they shriek in agony as do I. I tend to sacrifice my self for them when they need me which is a habit I've been working on especially being a people pleasing Libra.

But I can honestly say without hesitation that when I deal with change I feel certain friends or people that I've established connections with begin to pull away. For whatever reason they begin to emotionally distance themselves from me. It's as though they go back into their shells however remain the same person to everyone else they're around except me. What I've noticed with these particular friends is an aversion to instability and change. Which depending on what kind of person you are that makes a bit of sense. However it could even be me pulling away or what they perceive to be me taking distance from them and as a result they do the same. I'm not really sure. I am frustrated though because as always I'm going through many changes in my life right now, for the most part good changes, and one of my good friends is pulling away from me. Which is just awful because even though I can accommodate change, dealing with it is never easy and it always helps to have the people you care about around you. I'm trying to be there for her but it's hard because I also need to be there for myself. She could be going through something in her own life that she hasn't told me about but I wish she would so we could be there for each other.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt their friends pulling away when change occurs in their lives? How do your family and friends deal with positive change in your life? Do they disappear or are they there for you? How much would you say they react based on your reaction to them because of how you're dealing with these changes?

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RegardesPlatero
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posted March 29, 2012 12:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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RegardesPlatero
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posted March 29, 2012 12:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RegardesPlatero     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Randall
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posted March 31, 2012 09:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Am resistant to change but usually happy with it in the final analysis.

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T
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posted March 31, 2012 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Uranus conjunct MC. Change is my middle name. Usually abrupt change. You learn to go with the flow, having that placement.

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