posted August 16, 2013 12:25 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
I could never trust my loved one or me in the hands of an apathetic non caring person. Poor Lexxi.... I really hope it gets better for you. That is super scary...

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posted August 16, 2013 12:26 PM            

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posted August 16, 2013 09:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries Eagle:
Some minority of doctors are just plain stupid dorks who don't know how much sensitive their job is, they just apply what they read in the textbook like robots.

I always encourage to look for more than just one dr. advice and take the best advice also one should do their own research (if they are capable of). the internet is open to research all type of drugs and their potential side effects and such.

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Thumbsup A.E.!!

Lexxi.... I know things are not 'fine' yet for you, but I'm glad you and he got through the crunch!

The hospitals around where I am make these stupid and uncaring errors a LOT! I was on a public bus months ago and made comments about this--- AND got a clapping ovation and CHEERS from the people crowded onto that bus! oh yeah....

The thing is.... MISTAKES are being made CONSISTENTLY with "certain populations" of people. People that these medical folk DO NOT view as EQUAL to them as Humans.

I had said this in a post from last spring.... I KNOW some people who were in the medical profession who told me "how" the staff can "code" patient records--- and it's their own little communication about 'how to feel' about 'this' patient you have.

One Code put on patient admission records were the letters for was is called "SPOSH"

SPOSH = sub-human piece of sheet

In the past 6 years I was seen twice in the E.R. --- The first time I tried to CORRECT their records! They had wrong info inputted into their computers. The second time I went years later, the RECORD was STILL incorrect!! Now WHAT IF I were "unconscious" and unable to speak or communicate. They would be GIVING me drugs that could kill me!! If they weren't 'paying attention' I could be in horrible torment and NOT be able to SAY!!

There needs to be REFORMS made in Hospital Care.... I mean "Care"!
It should be a punishable offense to treat ANYONE like they are S P O S H !!!

I would like to see Staffs Rewarded for Kind Treatment of SPOSH-material. I want to see a "peer-reporting" system in place for Staff who 'know' this goes on, and who want the ABUSE to stop.

There should be PENALTIES for emotionally harming the patients..... NOT just physical medical mistakes.... I'm talking Human Rights!! The Right NOT to be Abused if you are SPOSH!!!

posted August 16, 2013 11:17 PM            

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Warm thoughts and (((huggs))) for you Lexx

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posted August 17, 2013 12:21 PM            

when you say I have never failed in making any diagnosis;
and have had to continuously convince drs of the correct diagnosis. , I suppose that can not smooth relations... however, that on the other hand, is very wrong ( I get the crap treatment from much of the medical community.
I am very short and very heavy, and have a beard and mustache. (I keep snipped very short, and its light not dark these days)
I have heard the medical people "jokes";
and giggles.
Losing over 150 pounds makes me look rather Sharpei; and that just cracks them up.
And the boob jokes....geeeez!

one of your problem is you are uranian (may be not astrologically, although I think you have lots of 11th house activity, and aqua moon or asc, no? ) anyway, one can be uranian for many reasons, and uranus makes you smart, and different.. and sometimes it means having to carry your cross in a world of ^people who don't understand you. I bet that it is frustrating to know what is wrong medically but having to rely on others to heal yourself... may be you can work on that, it certainly won't prevent you having new medical troubles, but may help you handle them in a more peaceful way...

well that is all I hope for you, if perfect good health isn't on the cards..

posted August 17, 2013 12:26 PM            

much love to you Lexx, who show to us what being strong means, and what being humane is...

when I read you complaining, I feel so deeply for you that you will have at least helped me in reaching that part of me...

take good care FOR you

posted August 17, 2013 01:23 PM            

Let him be for now, Lexx. There doesn't seem to be anything that you can do. Keep an eye that he doesn't do something foolish, but let him sulk alone. He will come back to you when he's done.

Wishing you much strength!

posted August 17, 2013 06:08 PM            

As for me, super-bluntly & raw and honest, I'm feeling REALLY piiised that he's being 'that way' for my friend Lexxi!

I know similar stories about partners who deliberately emotionally 'manipulate' the Other like that. To me, it's not right...., but I guess we have to look at the "full" picture, at the humane complete picture.... which means that This is not just about Lexxi's wellness, but about HIS mental-physical well-being as well.

I'm SOOO GLAD that people like you (Hera) are around here to give some good balanced humane advice... I feel Lexxi is a saint to put up with this behavior at a time when 'they' (as a couple) need combined STRENGTHs right now!

I guess in fairness to him, as I look through his viewpoint:

This is HIS way (right now) of GRIEVING (and coping) with his deepest feelings about the 'whole' situation & circumstance. (The astrology of his mourning right now fits soooooooo perfectly with all of this. Really amazing.)

His psyche is in the depths of PROCESSING and trying to make sense of his own Life and Mortality.... The hurts and failures of his own dreams & wishes for their lives; perhaps, he's looking at 'how' this should have never happened to them, to him. What do you 'do' when it's all gone soooo wrong???

Sometimes we need those times of withdrawal... Healing happens for some when they enter into a solitary "Hermit-mode".... A breaking down. Then after the withdraw to deep inside of self, where life is dissembled, it can then be re-assembled. One's life, one's purpose is sorted and regained.... to go on with life, again.

What I dislike is that Lexxi (as an individual) is sooo adversely affected by this... as she 'needs' him, also. But Lexxi is a tough woman.... fierce. If anyone can do this, it is she!! PLUS, her deep Soul 'knows' what's happening and 'why'.... Strength to you, my Friend!!!

Much love and healing to all.....

*okay... now taking self by collar and walking to the shame corner for my [protective] gut-response-- but it's okay*

*btw, autocorrect is ALSO changing my words.... and I don't like that either!!*

posted August 17, 2013 07:10 PM            

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just wishing you manage to get through this phase as soon as possible Lexie, and that he be ok.

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posted August 17, 2013 07:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:

Let him be for now, Lexx. There doesn't seem to be anything that you can do. Keep an eye that he doesn't do something foolish, but let him sulk alone. He will come back to you when he's done.

Wishing you much strength!

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posted August 17, 2013 07:48 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
Hera! I feel your advice is soooo TOTALLY WISE! It's the right approach to take....

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Yes, best to let him go into the gloom, and I always call the police/ambulance for when things have gone beyond my being able to handle him.

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As for me, super-bluntly & raw and honest, I'm feeling REALLY piiised that he's being 'that way' for my friend Lexxi!

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
He is not doing it intentionally, and he usually forgets it.
His head pain is a rare type seizure migraine with knockdown to the floor cannot get up moments. His brain misfires, he become unresponsive and he never remembers it afterwords what happened when full blown.

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Originally posted by mirage29:

I know similar stories about partners who deliberately emotionally 'manipulate' the Other like that. To me, it's not right...., but I guess we have to look at the "full" picture, at the humane complete picture.... which means that This is not just about Lexxi's wellness, but about HIS mental-physical well-being as well.

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Originally posted bt Lexxigramer:
Yes he is a mess and to outsiders he looks like he is drunk and or near comatose. After an episode comes the post period with anger/frustration/and very scary. Then depending on what meds he gets manic/depressive, too weirdly happy, and very nice and friendly, then it moves to antisocial, and the seizures return. It is a vicious repeating cycle with him suffering from these seizures and intense pain, often needing a cane, often too ill to even walk with the cane, and so well;
our lives suck and he has given up more than I have.
I hate that I get dragged down into his despair too. He forgets how much harder things are are for me physically, and gets more depressed when he remembers I am worse off than he is; and realizes he has been being mean and scary zombie uncooperative again. And that depresses him even more.

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Originally posted by mirage29:
I'm SOOO GLAD that people like you (Hera) are around here to give some good balanced humane advice... I feel Lexxi is a saint to put up with this behavior at a time when 'they' (as a couple) need combined STRENGTHs right now!

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
I do feel I put up with much much more than he does. He does very little to help with the household and so forth. Then b-tches about it being a mess and how depressing it is that I get more done on any given day than he does. He has little motivation, always falls back into the depression when the headaches hit, and they do every day and night.
Other issues are that we are not emotionally a couple. We pretty much ended the marriage aspect and lover aspect some 7 years ago after his first seizure when I had to resuscitate him. He has not been the same since then.
So except for legally married;
there is no husband wife thing here. Friends yeah, good friends.
But he is gay and 15 years younger and depressed about being disabled and depressed
about not ever having a real gay love interest.
It is a complicated situation here.

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I guess in fairness to him, as I look through his viewpoint:

This is HIS way (right now) of GRIEVING (and coping) with his deepest feelings about the 'whole' situation & circumstance. (The astrology of his mourning right now fits soooooooo perfectly with all of this. Really amazing.)

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posted August 17, 2013 07:52 PM            

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His psyche is in the depths of PROCESSING and trying to make sense of his own Life and Mortality.... The hurts and failures of his own dreams & wishes for their lives; perhaps, he's looking at 'how' this should have never happened to them, to him. What do you 'do' when it's all gone soooo wrong???

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EXACTLY. And if he kills himself again;
there is nothing I can do but try to pay attention like before and call the police and hospital to do something.

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Sometimes we need those times of withdrawal... Healing happens for some when they enter into a solitary "Hermit-mode".... A breaking down. Then after the withdraw to deep inside of self, where life is dissembled, it can then be re-assembled. One's life, one's purpose is sorted and regained.... to go on with life, again.

What I dislike is that Lexxi (as an individual) is sooo adversely affected by this... as she 'needs' him, also. But Lexxi is a tough woman.... fierce. If anyone can do this, it is she!! PLUS, her deep Soul 'knows' what's happening and 'why'.... Strength to you, my Friend!!!

Much love and healing to all.....

*okay... now taking self by collar and walking to the shame corner for my [protective] gut-response-- but it's okay*

*btw, autocorrect is ALSO changing my words.... and I don't like that either!!*

This world NEEDs more Compassion and Kindness.... Thankyou Hera

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posted August 18, 2013 11:53 AM            

First, I agree with hera, let him do his thing.

Men are the worst to be around when sick, but women want to take care of them.

The caregiver can not care if not taken care of.

I darn near offended a friend at work the other day, and redily apoligized.

Her mom died 2 weeks ago, she is having to go back and forth from Texas to Alabama to take care of her mom's affairs. Then her long time friend who had breast cancer, now the cancer has mets to the brain and there is little hope. So my friend is on the phone, O, and her friend is in Hawaii, where my friend is from, trying to do this and that...

I wasnt in a good mood that day and I said, O, the Pisces rising, ever the martyr...(she is an Aries with a Pisces asc and so is my eldest and I have seen this with her...)

Anyway I told my friend, STOP! I know you care and I know you need to help but you are going to kill yourself doing it!

And this is what I want to offer you Lexx...

Take care of thyself first, he is a big boy, and I know, I absolutely know he has big time health problems, but so do you.

Having said that, there is a degree of healing self via healing others, that is a Pisces thing, but for you, please take care of yourself else he may not have anybody left to take care of him.

Love ya, hon...

teri~