posted September 10, 2013 04:14 PM            

Normally I would have just let them handle it because it was their business, but all three of them were worked up to the point of tears and she even had to leave her station to go take care of herself. The way I see it, is once it affects my store, it's my problem. She couldn't understand that.

And no, it's not a love triangle situation.

The girl is a drug addict. She shoots-up meth, and is trying to recover, supposedly. From her actions and reactions to things though, I think she's just doing it less and hiding it better The guy who ISN'T her boyfriend, we'll call him N, is also a drug addict, but is addicted to pills as well as meth. Her boyfriend, we'll call him O, he can't have anything like that around him or in his life because he has his niece as a foster child. Being with O and living with him is the whole reason she was quitting in the first place. She asked N if he "had anymore of that" and N told her he wouldn't be a contributor to her shooting-up and possibly killing herself. Well, O heard part of their conversation and assumed that N was trying to push drugs on the girl. O flipped out on N, actually physically threatened him, thinking he was defending his girlfriend. Both of them understood my mediating and interference in the situation when I stepped in because it was disrupting the flow of my shift. Work was literally stopped because of this incident..

When I tried to talk to her about it, though, she freaked out. Telling me that she hates how it seems like I'm always in control and that I think I'm better than her, better than everyone.. She's correct about the control part, but that's because it's my job to be so. The part about me thinking I'm better than everyone else really irked me. I do my best to keep my ego in check at work, and I do my best not to judge people because of their past, or even current situations, because I never know how I'd be in their particular circumstances..

Funny thing is she's not the first person to tell me this. The first was a lady who came into the store trying to get free food for an order she'd never placed. I don't know what it is I do or say or imply with body language that gives off this air.. Could it possibly be them feeling inferior and projecting their feelings onto me?

posted September 11, 2013 08:20 AM            

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Originally posted by LionFish:
Could it possibly be them feeling inferior and projecting their feelings onto me?

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I'd say so. I'll even go out on a limb and think that in this specific case she had her self-confidence shattered by parents and bullies (kids made to feel insecure by parents often carry themselves in a way that attract the bullies to tear them down even further) and thus got into harder drugs to be liked by other social rejects who feel they have no better prospects anyway, and I understand meth can give many people a sense of power that they otherwise don't have so that the mix of peer pressure against her wounded psyche and need for that sense of esteem imparted by meth led her into addiction. Nevertheless, the messages she was raised with are still in her mind making her feel inferior though the people who made her feel that way are probably no longer part of her life, and so she's still defensive & angry and in this case projected those people into you and yelled at you as if you were them.

posted September 11, 2013 09:41 AM            

I dont think she was projecting, cause I dont really think she is in touch with her real feelings, one cant be strung out. Or high for that matter.

My query is how are known users allowed to even retain employment?

As a nurse and a Pisces as well, I run into users all of the time, did my share of substance in my younger years, been around them since I was 15 ish.

Meth is especially a bad drug. There is a book I have, where the author talks about addicitons, etc. and has (he is a MD) taken PET scans of brains of users of various different substances.

Meth, eventually leaves the brain looking like swiss cheese, as does coke and benzos.

Anything that comes out of this chick's mouth, till she has been clean for a while, is not going to be valid....she is not in touch with herself and her brain is not functioning optilmally.

Just my 2cents worth.

posted September 11, 2013 04:40 PM            

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Originally posted by hippichick:
Meth, eventually leaves the brain looking like swiss cheese, as does coke and benzos.

Anything that comes out of this chick's mouth, till she has been clean for a while, is not going to be valid....she is not in touch with herself and her brain is not functioning optilmally

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As someone who lived next to a couple of dope houses this makes so much sense. Some of the people who came acted like they belonged in a sanitarium! It didn't help me sympathize with them when they suddenly remembered how to behave when the cops would finally show up.

posted September 15, 2013 11:07 AM            

Pixie I think you're right about the self-confidence thing. She's so unsure of what she does and needs constant reassurance that she's doing the right thing at the right time.

hippi, my place of employment doesn't drug test for hire so we can't use drug testing as a reason to terminate. If drugs are used on work premises, or sold, or whatever they might be...then there is grounds for termination, but simply being an addict isn't enough for us to not employ..sadly enough.
"Anything that comes out of this chick's mouth, till she has been clean for a while, is not going to be valid....she is not in touch with herself and her brain is not functioning optilmally."
I feel like this is the best way to look at it. Instead of being insulted by what she said I guess I should feel bad for her, but I don't. Just like I don't judge.. It's not my place to have feelings towards the choices she's made in life. Plus I kind of feel like showing sympathy for her in the situation she's in might somehow in her own mind condone her drug use.. idk

posted September 16, 2013 03:02 PM            

I, too, feel bad for her.

But you cant be drawn into her crap.

Negative energy is negative energy, the lower vibes attract the same.

Till she chooses to lift herself, I would cover myself with light and love and sheild yourself before being in her presence.