posted July 23, 2015 07:26 AM              

Every forum has just a few of the type of member I'm about to describe. I'll call them "forum gurus", okay?

Forum gurus exhibit these characteristics:
1. They've been on the forum for a really long time, but rarely post.
2. They're loved and admired by the rest of the forum members, almost unanimously.
3. When they do post, their posts are kept short and are overwhelmingly positive and sympathetic. They rarely lodge a complaint against anyone or anything, and when they do so, they use the mildest language possible.
3. When they do post, there's a good chance that what they post will be a famous quotation.
4. They never miss an opportunity to post to Happy Birthday and Get Well threads.
5. They never get sucked into flame wars, though occasionally they'll make a single post to an ongoing heated debate. Interestingly, that post will never be near the beginning of the thread. Generally, at least 5 pages of hate need to be generated before they bestow their borrowed wisdom upon the unfortunate combatants.
6. They reveal very little about themselves, so no one actually knows them except for that one forum member that knows them AFK -- and that person is as tight-lipped as a dead Scorpio with rigor mortis. (Blackmailed, possibly??)

So:

Are they really as wise as their appearance and reputation suggest? Or is the only wisdom they have the borrowed wisdom of the Quotations Page?

Despite the sympathy they exude in their responses to the sick and troubled, do they really have any emotional investment in what goes on? Or are they just sociopaths with good public relations skills?

After all, if a person didn't really care, it would be damned easy for him or her to always pause and cool off before replying to anything he had an emotional reaction to. And that delay in response would give him time to think about what response would ingratiate himself with the largest number of forum members and alienate the fewest.

posted July 24, 2015 11:23 AM            

And did you ever consider that those same people would back off, or consider their responses before posting, so as not to hurt feelings - including your own?

posted July 24, 2015 01:09 PM              

Here's the answer to your questions, btw: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum25/HTML/005105.html

posted July 24, 2015 01:38 PM              

teasel, I come here for good things, to do good things, and in return i get my feelings stomped all over by people like Faith and Leeloo. WHILE I'm straining myself to the limit to be patient and appeal to their best selves. and they'll have none of it, they insulted and insylted and insulted, and laughed and high-fived each other. Yes, they eventually ran my patience out; only after that did i fire back. go read it! it's all there to see.

posted July 24, 2015 01:58 PM            

I once knew a person like this one, he liked to make war than peace. The main thing is to break the laws, to see the bad where it has nothing, let you down.

I see that this kind of person only want attention...

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Originally posted by teasel:
Well, this post basically pokes at anyone who has shown some kindness - wishing someone happy birthday, wishing them well, listening to people when they're hurting, those who have the sense to stay away from the fighting.

I am not asking this to be combative: why do you feel the need to see so much that's bad in everyone? Why do you feel the need to tell just about everyone here that they're wrong, what they should post, who they should be? Note: there is a difference between disagreements in certain threads, and having it happen in every thread. People argue in some, and get along just fine in others.

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posted July 24, 2015 02:09 PM              

If you're a decent person, DaniPepper, answer to the situation I just brought up. I want to hear how you rationalize it into being okay.

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I come here for good things, to do good things, and in return i get my feelings stomped all over by people like Faith and Leeloo. WHILE I'm straining myself to the limit to be patient and appeal to their best selves. and they'll have none of it, they insulted and insylted and insulted, and laughed and high-fived each other. Yes, they eventually ran my patience out; only after that did i fire back. go read it! it's all there to see.

i get my feelings stomped all over by people like Faith and Leeloo -- That in itself I can handle. What I can't handle is that that was okay with everybody. Just business as usual, nothing to see here. How can this be a good place?

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posted July 24, 2015 02:34 PM            

LL is a place where you can learn things, and I saw what you are trying to do here. I know, that you terrible wants to push people down, only for elevate your own ego. You just think you are smarter and better than anyone here, making these kind of comments, but let me tell you one thing: everyone has their time to learn the bad and good in life. Life is action/reaction. If you do a good thing, you'll receive a good thing in return. do you know to where I want to reach?

But please, don't take me as a know-all person. If you see this world as a bad one, it is your opinion. If I see this world as a place where we can learn things, it is my opinion. The thing here is that you offend people for free. You don't see that is that's ok with people, let them like this. No one can save a person who doesn't want to be saved. I see that you want to open the eyes of people with a knife, stead of dialoging. As I said, people have their own time to "wake up".