posted April 21, 2004 03:12 PM              

There are women who are content w/monogamous marriage & never seriously consider taking a lover. There are women who fantasize about an affair, but don't wish to bring the fantasy to fruition. Some are so bound by their upbringing & need to conform they do not admit, even to themselves, that they are bored, frustrated, & unfulfilled by unswerving, full-time physical & emotional exclusivity w/their mates. Some may "cheat" on their husbands & feel guilty; others may commit adultery & live happily. Many practice serial monogamy. A few have an open marriage for some months or years, freely pursuing sexual & nonsexual friendships, supposedly, w/out guilt.

It's important to feel that one has choices in life. Victor Frankl, in describing life in a German concentration camp, theorized that the survivors were those who by sheer will & creative genius improvised imperceptible ways to be different. A human being needs to be aware of her or his individuality & to feel a degree of choice. Free will is a part of life, & psycho-astrology supports this view.

Marriage can be happy or sad, fleeting or long-lasting, arid or fruitful, hot or cold, open or closed - it has a thousand nuances.

All the recent experimentation & choosing may, & in some minds certainly does, lead to confusion. The family does not operate as it did in the 1950's. It has changed radically more than once since the beginning of the industrial revolution. It will surely change again.

Virgo tends to stay faithfully married to one partner - or at least, one at a time. Hers is mutable sign, and she often marries more than once. Because the world is offering her more options, & because the times seem to require a growing awareness, she has begun to question her lifestyle more than ever before. And because she has a compulsively inquisitive nature, she is apt to investigate thoroughly.

Typical situations to make her become nonmonogamous::

1. Perfectionism. She often marries the illusion of perfection in love & romance. If her husband turns out to have bad breath or small ambition, if he becomes too busy to generate the glamour or security she needs, she may get restless.

2. Absolutism & judgmental attitudes. She is exceedingly fond of absolutes & may depend on them.

3. Fear of intimacy. She may wish to guard her inner most self, particularly her fears. She may seek sexual partners who are less likely than her husband to penetrate deeply & truly get to know her.

4. Anger w/her mate. Virgo Woman often endures more pain than most, but she too has her limits. If her husband consistently hurts or disappoints her, she may seek solace elsewhere. Though she may be justified, she is still likely to feel guilty.

5. Pragmatism. If her husband leaves her high & dry in bed, or looks like a permanent loser, she is capable of cutting her losses.

6. New age Lady Chatterley syndrome. Many a shy Virgo maiden lives her life w/out earthquake-like orgasms or poetic ecstasies. When the opportunity repeatedly arises for her to experience these, she may profit. Sometimes she is swept away despite herself, though she may never see the lover again after one peak experience.

7. Sexual self-doubt. Nonexclusivity may be sought as a cure for this condition.

8. Search for new technical know-how, curiousity. Nobody can beat Virgo in the technical aspects of lovemaking. She has a knack for absorbing information about various sex positions, exercises, breathing techniques, & games. If her husband insists on sticking to a meat-and-potatoes sexual diet, she may find more sophisticated lovers who delight in uninhibited sexual play.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
Too traditional for sexually open marriage. Unlikely choice but may be an instructive experiment.

MENAGE A TROIS::
Virgo may try it, especially w/her man & another woman if she has bisexual or homosexual leanings.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
If she is exposed to this concept right way, w/the right people, & in the right environment, it may appeal to her. It combines the opportunity for traditionalism w/the chance to break out & experiment. It offers some protection & a limited but reassuring reliance on structure.

COMMUNES::
Unlikely. If by chance she tries it, she will probably want to see to it that the living quarters are clean & the administration is proceeding smoothly.

posted April 21, 2004 04:08 PM              

At least from what I have seen,

posted April 21, 2004 09:10 PM              

Who would be better at plotting & experimenting w/New Age lifestyles than the Aquarius woman? her innate sense of liberty of the mind for all makes her a prime candidate for forming & perpetuating new lifestyles. Her need for acceptance & her civilized nature sometimes inhibit her from promoting much of what she thinks would help people & enhance their lifestyles.

She is so group-conscious. Though she works hard to help others, her own life is sometimes in need of "rehabbing." She is inherently nonpossessive, but when her refined taste for quality & "good things" becomes prominent, she can get hung up on ownership. She can even become rather greedy. Perhaps this is because she often spends so little time w/her own personal life that when she does, it is rather like an obsession w/privacy.

COMMUNAL LIVING::
She is an excellent communal inhabitant. Her idealistic nature tends to enhance the good life that communal living can bring about. On the other hand, her sometimes opinionated attitude can cause dissension. She will generally choose people who are pupil-like to share her commune; other leaders tend to challenge her & expose her vulnerabilities in the area of leadership.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
Aquarius' lack of possessiveness, her need for space of her own, & her intolerance for jealousy all make her available for this option. Her shyness & her civilized upbringing can cause some problems.

MENAGE A TROIS::
This arrangement requires some intimacy on two levels w/two different persons. If she can find a three-way setup that doesn't require too much closeness, warmth, or intimacy she will try it. She will probably suggest this lifestyle to a friend who is complaining of boredom in her sexual relationship w/her husband, & if she is a sex therapist, menage a trois will rank high on her list of things to do.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
As in communes, she will fit in nicely, especially if she can overcome some of the sexual inhibitions she has. It may be a good opportunity for her to learn intimacy & to ask for the things she needs.

GAY/BISEXUAL LIFESTYLE::
Her freedom-seeking nature, her avante-garde attitude, & her inquisitive mind can propel her into either of these lifestyles. She can accept the challenge of the homosexual lifestyle & the entanglements it can bring about. She will no doubt have the same intimacy problems w/another woman that she has w/men. She will also attempt to be the aggressive partner in a woman/woman relationship. She is quick to recognize the maleness & femaleness in everyone, and this affords her an opportunity to exercise the sexual duality that she knows exists.

posted April 22, 2004 01:48 PM              

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She is possessive, & her need to be exclusive is permanent. She is quite happy w/monogamy.

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posted December 13, 2010 05:52 PM            

I have been in many relaxed open relationships without the issue of jealousy.

I have had 2 NDE's and so view death in a completely different light than the norm.
No drug addictions, don't even smoke or drink.

For me power is in the heart..and when combined in a balanced manner with the rest of the whole (including sex) it becomes incredibly powerful.

posted December 14, 2010 01:20 AM            

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Being loved by all is little fun
Unless you're also loved by one.
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posted June 10, 2011 07:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
I have to ask for Leo

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posted July 16, 2011 01:45 AM            

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Originally posted by BearsArcher:
If you are looking at astrology to find out why you suck.. then you SUCK period.

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posted July 16, 2011 05:00 AM            

LOL... Did you finally find the snake hole to crawl out of? Funny how you won't post for awhile and then when I post, the grub in you finds a way out of the hole.

Sweet dreams....

posted July 17, 2011 03:16 AM            

"And yes, you can copyright that ANYTIME you like because God forbid you have an original thought that wasn't stolen from a book or another poster. Kisses!"
---I like this comment, too, cos I never see you on the main board commenting on charts.
Another chuckle.

posted July 17, 2011 03:40 AM            

It's like strange women every so often just wanna knock me down, and get so defensive over nothing, painting me as so evil.

They're seeing their own evil nature they just don't have the insight or balls to admit it. It takes a lot of guts to own up to it.

I found this today,

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The Like-Me Principle (TM) proposes that whatever you like about me, you like about yourself and whatever you don't like about yourself, you don't like about me. Whatever you like or dislike can be something you possessed in the past or present or something you want or wanted to possess but did not assert.

Think about it. We rarely see, take notice, pay attention in others what we do not see in ourselves. How else can we know what we don't know? And so the saying goes: It takes one to know one. Whether we behave in that way now or in the past, we recognize what we possess, possessed, don't want to or want to possess (but are not asserting) in others for better or worse.

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Of course you'd have to be open enough to step outside of your personal drama for a bit, Bear.
I know it's so hard for you to not turn defensive every time I post something to you, for you always like to add something extra to me like the lil snake comment.

posted July 17, 2011 08:31 AM            

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The Cancer Woman is apt to be highly family-orientated, to want and need family love in her life. At the same time, she is able to use sex simply as a source of pleasure, and she leads an alternative or secret life more often than appearances might suggest. She has some hedonistic tendencies, and they conflict with, but are not always checked by, her self image as a good mother and wife. Still, the Cancer Woman is apt to be inherently loyal above all to her brood. She may not be sexually faithful to her husband, but if there is a such thing as monagamy with a family (nothing is more important to her), then we can say she is almost always monogamous.

She is apt to wish to remain monagamous all her life, for monagamy appeals to her value system. She was probably raised traditionally and has come to regard monagamous marriage as the way of life. But the maturing Cancer Woman often discovers sexual urges she never dreamed of, a lush sensuality and a need for excitement. As life goes on, she may continue to want stability, but may also want excitement. She may feel guilty about extramarital sexual fantasies, but she frequently fashions a secret life for herself---in her head or in reality.

The following represent typical situations which could influence the Cancer Woman to become nonmonagamous:

1. Sensual, sexual, or emotional desiccation. She needs the waters of sensitivity, caring, and sexuality refreshed regularly.

2. Thirst for excitement and variety, either due to lack of experience and early marriage or to the nonspecific feeling of being left out of the mainstream.

3. Moodiness or capriciousness.

4. Revenge (the "I'll get back at Harry" game)

5. Disappointment in her mate, either as a lover or a father/provider. She may seek a new father for her children by this route.

6. Falling in love with a different man.

7. Falling under the spell of a fantasy or of a group that holds extramarital sex as the norm. She is impressionable. (B%tch, please. )

8. Seperation or pre-divorce blues.

Alternative Lifestyles

Single Woman/Intimate Networks: The Cancer Woman rarely adopts this as a permanent lifestyle. She likes to be surrounded by her lovd ones and wants total commitment.

Open Marriage The Cancer Woman finds this nothing short of ridiculous. She probably won't judge those who like it, but she wouldn't want to try it for herself.

Menage A Trois: For Cancer this is a possibly fascinating experiment that can provide her with sexual stimulation and sensual enrichment; it can also be a vehicle for trying out bisexuality or acting out her favorite fantasy---that of being with two men.

Communal Living: She may enjoy communal living very much. I've met many who have. The Cancer Woman is apt to do a great deal of work in the communal kitchen, to mother the other members, and to be the fourth leg of the table in almost any communal endeavor. She is practical and wise, and if she feels appreciated, she may stick to this lifestyle, which is for the most part a sixties phenomenom. Communes can still be found in certain coastal communities in a few scattered spots in the rest of the nation; a Cancer Woman frequently lives at the heart of the healthiest.

Gay/Bisexual Lifestyle: The Cancer Woman is not irrevocably heterosexual. I have met many gay cancers, and even more who clim to be bisexual. Of course, the majority are strictly heterosexual but are atleast conceptually tolerant of this lifestyle. Cancer's gay tendency may be partly an extension of her intimate familiarity with feminine matters, her attraction to females, and her finely developed sensitivity.

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