posted August 06, 2011 04:08 PM            

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Originally posted by ghanima81:
Pire, you are spooky. Well said, mate.

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posted August 06, 2011 08:50 PM            

I think the part about feelings not being enough for an Aquarius to sustain a relationship is spot on, and this is probably why aquariuses usually end up staying friends with their exes, because there's usually a backing friendship behind the relationship. I personally always feel torn between this attitude and the depth of emotion my pisces ascendant brings out in me.

Also I wanted to add to mine that even though I'd say Aquariuses think people should be friends before lovers, we have a VERY wide idea of what constitutes a friend. I've noticed that about myself and two of my other Aquarius friends - that we all talk about the various people in our lives as all our friends. It's like once we engage with someone on a mental plane in a positive way, and you know, have been around them enough, then that person becomes entwined in our network and becomes acknowledged as "my friend so and so said....." instead of "this guy i know from ____" as most of my other friends do.

posted September 12, 2011 07:06 AM            

and btw "Cancers" give the appearance of domestic.. and truely desire the stability of "home" ..but I haven't met one yet..male or female ...who didn't expect someone else to provide it for them...while they took the credit.
Cancer = Control
IMO

posted September 13, 2011 06:47 AM            

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Originally posted by AquaGem:
Ok...
just read a post stating the "Aqua" Mother home was "cold"...
the "Cancer" Aunt home was "warm"...and preferred.
As an "Aqua" ... I understand that perception on a superficial basis.
I am NOT domestic...daily chores,cooking,cleaning, etc. bore me to tears! My house is messy,but clean "underneath"...
But...my house is the home of many friends to my teenage children because they are accepted for who they are. They know they can talk to the "Aqua" Mom about anything..good or bad without judgement.
Teenagers come to my house for hugs, and to be told they are beautiful,smart, handsome,creative....because they are!!
"I love you" is standard verbal expression.
As an "Aqua"... my motto is "make yourself at home." They are free...to be themselves.
My only expectations are to clean up after yourself....after all...I really am not domestic ..lol

and btw "Cancers" give the appearance of domestic.. and truely desire the stability of "home" ..but I haven't met one yet..male or female ...who didn't expect someone else to provide it for them...while they took the credit.
Cancer = Control
IMO

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Aqua, I completely agree on the Cancer.
My last partner was a Cancer, and I admit I was a bit worried about being 'mothered' - oh how wrong I was! I was the mother!
I supported him emotionally, financially, and spiritually until I took a mini breakdown and blew up in his face.
I had to work through a very intense hatred and repulsion toward him before we could be friends again.
The nail in the coffin was that when I started showing signs of being drained and unravelling through running around after him, I expected (wrongly) that maybe he would be able to be strong for me, and support me for a short while until I got (mentally and emoitonally) back on my feet - WRONG - his demands and emotional blackmail and manipulation just went into overdrive - I felt he was demonic - as he realised that his support system was going down the tubes. To raise the bar so high when I was so vulnerable instilled a deep resentment in me towards him and all romantic feelings I ever had for him literally went out in that moment, like a light. They have never come back.
I just couldn't believe he could look at me, and see how broken I was, and STILL want to possess and grab at anything he could get from me for himself. So selfish.

posted September 15, 2011 01:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
Offering your mind and all your secrets on a platter (this will be returned, with interest).
Advocating the mass burning of wedding bands, Proclaimer's CDs, and TVs.
Dreaming BIG.
Seeing all as your equal.
Knowing the difference between love and ownership.
Balancing autonomy and sharing.
Throwing preparation to the wind, because even the Aquarius doesn't know what's gonna happen in the next 5 minutes, nevermind 'the future'.
Appreciating the small stuff, not sweating the big stuff.
Eye contact.
Making no assumptions about the Aquarius, the relationship, their view of you, etc - ASK.

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