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Ami Anne
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posted November 18, 2010 04:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message
If you want ,start with a rating from 1-10.
Then, please explain the role of YOUR respect for a significant other/partner/girlfriend/boyfriend

In the past, what happened to your feelings for that person when/if you lost respect for them,in a big way ?

Please, give specific examples,if you care to.
For example, what do you respect in another person?
What would cause you to lose respect for them?
Could you ever get it back once it was lost?
Did this ever actually happen?

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posted November 18, 2010 07:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FrozenQueen     Edit/Delete Message
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Diablo
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posted November 18, 2010 10:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diablo     Edit/Delete Message
Respect is absolutely paramount. No respect, no healthy relationship.

I tried to change that notion when I was younger thinking that respect is easy to regain but really, they were feeble attempts of trying to restore what was lost.

Its a bit like a vase that's been broken. You can put it back together bit by bit with either sticky tape or glue, but its not the piece of art it once was.

But I've found that once I've lost respect for a person, I can't continue the relationship/friendship. Its like they start to fade from my vision and the existence of my life.

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Peri
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posted November 18, 2010 10:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message
I think any serious relationship will not work without Love, Trust and Respect, it's the big 3 of a successful relationship.

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NickiG
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posted November 18, 2010 10:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message
"Its a bit like a vase that's been broken. You can put it back together bit by bit with either sticky tape or glue, but its not the piece of art it once was."

i love this analogy

"But I've found that once I've lost respect for a person, I can't continue the relationship/friendship. Its like they start to fade from my vision and the existence of my life."

i know how that feels...i once had a friend who lost all of my respect..she's no longer in my life

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Diablo
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posted November 18, 2010 11:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diablo     Edit/Delete Message
Oh, there's been many people..both friends and lovers that I've lost respect for. But the one that hurt that most was my parents.

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pisces moon
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posted November 21, 2010 02:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pisces moon     Edit/Delete Message
I respect people with a backbone and have little or no respect for dishrags and doormats.

My son's father, right or wrong he never let's anyone tell him what to do and how to do it. Though it was infuriating trait when we were together because he did not know how to use discretion when enacting it, and he did some pretty lousy things, I have hated him at points but honestly I have always respected the core trait as misdirected and unbalanced as it was.

On the other hand my sisters ex. He makes me shudder because he was such a wimp. She'd say jump and he'd ask how high. Once she cheated on him and he actually apologized to her. There's way more crap but even though he never did anything to me I can't stand him because he is so weak. Even though my sister was very irresponsible by taking advantage of his weakness and I do not view that as a good thing at all, that he allowed her to do it is even worse to me.

I could never be with someone who let me walk all over them. Who would do everything in their power to make me happy even at the expense of their own happiness and better judgement. To me that's not love-it's just desperation.

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Lara
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posted November 21, 2010 02:46 PM           Edit/Delete Message
TEN.

Respect is paramount. No Respect. No Relationship!

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Randall
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posted November 21, 2010 02:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Wow. I agree with all of that PM. I am sort of the same way as your son's father. I'm as anti-wuss as they come; however, I also have to juggle being understanding and considerate of others' feelings. It's a tough balancing act. For example, I can't let my girlfriend walk over me, but I do want to be giving. It's not always so easy to reach a healthy, happy medium. A strong man can still be sensitive and caring, as long as it doesn't go overboard.

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DD
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posted November 21, 2010 04:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DD     Edit/Delete Message
What Lara said.

I actually can`t comprehend how anyone could even ask this question, or consider being in a relationship without being respected. That doesn`t sound healthy to me.
How can you (generic you) say you love someone if you don´t respect them?

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Randall
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posted November 21, 2010 04:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
DD, I see it all the time. The guy shows the girl disrespect in public, so it's probably much worse in private, yet the girl believes he loves her.

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DD
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posted November 22, 2010 12:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DD     Edit/Delete Message
Randall,

yes I`ve seen it happen, too, but it`s just leaving me speechless.

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Randall
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posted November 27, 2010 03:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Nothing can fuction without respect...relationships, friendshps, countries...love me or hate me, but no one can forget me--and I hope that I am respected by most.

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LEXX
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posted November 28, 2010 12:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message
Absolutely required!

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remixel-pixelpixie
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posted November 28, 2010 08:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for remixel-pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Oh Respect is HUGE. I don't think it can be measured or rated, but you most certainly know when it is lacking!

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teasel
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posted November 28, 2010 10:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message
Definitely huge.

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AcousticGod
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posted November 28, 2010 11:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
It's of the utmost importance.

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