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Topic: How Important is Respect In a Relationship?
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 3134 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 18, 2010 04:23 AM
If you want ,start with a rating from 1-10. Then, please explain the role of YOUR respect for a significant other/partner/girlfriend/boyfriendIn the past, what happened to your feelings for that person when/if you lost respect for them,in a big way ? Please, give specific examples,if you care to. For example, what do you respect in another person? What would cause you to lose respect for them? Could you ever get it back once it was lost? Did this ever actually happen? ------------------ Pluto conjunct Dejanira, Girlfriend. IP: Logged |
FrozenQueen Knowflake Posts: 533 From: The boundary where 'reality' ends and Dreams begin Registered: May 2010
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posted November 18, 2010 07:05 AM
VERY------------------ अस्तो मा सद् गमय | तमसो मा ज्योतिर्गमय | मृत्योन् मा अमृतं गमय् || ॐ शांति शांति शांति From the unreal, lead me to the real, From the darkness, lead me to light, From death and destruction, lead me to immortality. Peace. Peace. Peace. ♥ IP: Logged |
Diablo Moderator Posts: 771 From: Melbourne, Australia Registered: May 2009
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posted November 18, 2010 10:17 AM
Respect is absolutely paramount. No respect, no healthy relationship. I tried to change that notion when I was younger thinking that respect is easy to regain but really, they were feeble attempts of trying to restore what was lost. Its a bit like a vase that's been broken. You can put it back together bit by bit with either sticky tape or glue, but its not the piece of art it once was. But I've found that once I've lost respect for a person, I can't continue the relationship/friendship. Its like they start to fade from my vision and the existence of my life. IP: Logged |
Peri Knowflake Posts: 1848 From: 49N35 34E34 Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 18, 2010 10:46 AM
I think any serious relationship will not work without Love, Trust and Respect, it's the big 3 of a successful relationship.IP: Logged |
NickiG Moderator Posts: 1780 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted November 18, 2010 10:49 AM
"Its a bit like a vase that's been broken. You can put it back together bit by bit with either sticky tape or glue, but its not the piece of art it once was."i love this analogy "But I've found that once I've lost respect for a person, I can't continue the relationship/friendship. Its like they start to fade from my vision and the existence of my life." i know how that feels...i once had a friend who lost all of my respect..she's no longer in my life ------------------ the better the chase, the better the reward IP: Logged |
Diablo Moderator Posts: 771 From: Melbourne, Australia Registered: May 2009
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posted November 18, 2010 11:00 AM
Oh, there's been many people..both friends and lovers that I've lost respect for. But the one that hurt that most was my parents. IP: Logged |
pisces moon Knowflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted November 21, 2010 02:30 PM
I respect people with a backbone and have little or no respect for dishrags and doormats.My son's father, right or wrong he never let's anyone tell him what to do and how to do it. Though it was infuriating trait when we were together because he did not know how to use discretion when enacting it, and he did some pretty lousy things, I have hated him at points but honestly I have always respected the core trait as misdirected and unbalanced as it was. On the other hand my sisters ex. He makes me shudder because he was such a wimp. She'd say jump and he'd ask how high. Once she cheated on him and he actually apologized to her. There's way more crap but even though he never did anything to me I can't stand him because he is so weak. Even though my sister was very irresponsible by taking advantage of his weakness and I do not view that as a good thing at all, that he allowed her to do it is even worse to me. I could never be with someone who let me walk all over them. Who would do everything in their power to make me happy even at the expense of their own happiness and better judgement. To me that's not love-it's just desperation. IP: Logged |
Lara unregistered
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posted November 21, 2010 02:46 PM
TEN.Respect is paramount. No Respect. No Relationship! IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 2696 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 21, 2010 02:53 PM
Wow. I agree with all of that PM. I am sort of the same way as your son's father. I'm as anti-wuss as they come; however, I also have to juggle being understanding and considerate of others' feelings. It's a tough balancing act. For example, I can't let my girlfriend walk over me, but I do want to be giving. It's not always so easy to reach a healthy, happy medium. A strong man can still be sensitive and caring, as long as it doesn't go overboard. IP: Logged |
DD Knowflake Posts: 7054 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 21, 2010 04:08 PM
What Lara said.I actually can`t comprehend how anyone could even ask this question, or consider being in a relationship without being respected. That doesn`t sound healthy to me. How can you (generic you) say you love someone if you don´t respect them? IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 2696 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 21, 2010 04:41 PM
DD, I see it all the time. The guy shows the girl disrespect in public, so it's probably much worse in private, yet the girl believes he loves her. ------------------ "A heart of gold cannot be borrowed, bought, or sold." IP: Logged |
DD Knowflake Posts: 7054 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 22, 2010 12:08 PM
Randall,yes I`ve seen it happen, too, but it`s just leaving me speechless. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 2696 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 27, 2010 03:27 PM
Nothing can fuction without respect...relationships, friendshps, countries...love me or hate me, but no one can forget me--and I hope that I am respected by most. ------------------ "The earth is not given to us by our mothers and our fathers, it is borrowed from our children." IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 3937 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 28, 2010 12:21 AM
Absolutely required!IP: Logged |
remixel-pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 35 From: Registered: May 2010
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posted November 28, 2010 08:31 PM
Oh Respect is HUGE. I don't think it can be measured or rated, but you most certainly know when it is lacking!IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 2643 From: Ohio Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 28, 2010 10:47 PM
Definitely huge. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 4007 From: acousticgod@sbcglobal.net Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 28, 2010 11:27 PM
It's of the utmost importance.IP: Logged |