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posted November 22, 2010 01:10 PM            

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*****Sorry, I was rushing on my lunch break, left off an "e" on the word "People", one of mods may feel free to fix

What is the best way to meet someone new?

Bars? Online? Happenstance? Friends with good intentions? Activities involving mutual interests?

I find that this is the most difficult part of the dating process.

If you could lock all of the single men and women in one major metropolitan area together for 4 hours in a huge arena with tables set up by topics of interest, man that place would be match making central! Just helping people FIND each other is the hard part.

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posted November 22, 2010 01:24 PM            

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Whenever I am out and about doing my own thing and not really anticipating that I would meet anybody....

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posted November 22, 2010 04:58 PM            

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Just cuz I left out a letter doesn't mean you have to ignore my thread people! Sheesh!

I swear you're all Virgos

Cyn--

Yes, yes, I know, trust in the universe and all that, but really, how many are still doing that and nothing has happened? I feel like I need to help things a long a bit at this point.

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posted November 22, 2010 05:00 PM            

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LOLs, i only have one virgo placement of any kind...uranus singleton in 7th...i think anything applies really

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posted November 22, 2010 05:15 PM            

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Maybe I should try that standing outside naked with beer thing someone mentioned in another thread...or does that only work with Aries?

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posted November 22, 2010 05:18 PM            

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posted November 22, 2010 05:36 PM            

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Well, dating sites aren't for losers anymore. They are filled now more with active professionals who just don't have time to date a lot of bad matches to find a good one; it streamlines the process. Around 20 percent of all relationships are now started on dating sites. But most of the people I've dated have been from my circle--friends of friends or friends of family. Plus, about half of relationships are with people met at work (which makes sense that half your life is spent at work--after subtracting sleep). So...if you don't work a job or have a profle on a dating site, you only have a 30 pecent chance of meeting someone. Haha! The more social you are, the more open you will be for the Universe to draw the right opportunities to you to meet people that will benefit you in life...whether as friends...or as more.

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posted November 22, 2010 05:43 PM            

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I have found that life brings me the most interesting people when I least expect it.
Though I leave it open as to where I might meet these people, I have a standard rule to avoid bars.
I've been happily single for several years now, and have found that the more I enjoy it the more I am pursued.

Perhaps meeting someone where I most naturally spend my time in my daily life : In a jungle, a spiritual gathering group, Meditation group, Reiki community etc..or surfing, swimming in the ocean.
I'd probably not be interested in spending time with someone who hates nature, or is uninterested in spirituality or philosophy.

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posted November 22, 2010 06:08 PM            

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The more social you are, the more open you will be for the Universe to draw the right opportunities to you to meet people that will benefit you in life...whether as friends...or as more.

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This is a growing problem...I am actually really busy. And when I'm not busy, I'm tired and somewhat reclusive.

I'm a working executive. Also a graduate student. And a single mom. Not necessarily in that order. When I do have free time, I just want to hang out at home LOL. My friends are already accusing me of neglecting them. So what little free time I have, I try to divy up between my son, my family, and my friends. I do fun things with all 3.

I do want to be in a relationship though. I would make time for that person. But where to fit in this "socializing" that is apparently required to meet people?

I do try to go to happy hours with coworkers occasionally. Haven't met any good prospects yet. I have some good hobbies that I think might be good grounds for meeting someone (I attend a lot of sporting events), and if I did meet a guy there it would be a wonderful basis to begin a relationship because he would think I was the greatest girlfriend ever but that hobby is somewhat expensive and also time consuming.

At work, I am surrounded by hot and attractive men but none of them are single. That's also a growing problem I face. As I approach my 30s, the available pool of men is shrinking. Singles are harder to find.

ARRRRRRG!

Randall--I have an eHarmony profile. I am really noncommital and ambivalent with it though. I do have pictures and answered my questions thoughtfully and have gotten some replies. Sometimes I answer back, sometimes I don't. Those that contact me haven't really sparked my interest, and those that do, whenever I initiate contact they don't write back. I was wondering if it's because I log in so infrequently. It's been somewhat disappointing.

I did go back in today and look at some new prospects and send some more Icebreakers out. I also reviewed my selection criteria to make sure I wasn't inadvertently weeding out good matches. I started to widen it a bit and then I changed my mind and left it as is LOL. I may reconsider again, I need to think about it some more. I guess I need to decide what it is I truly want. I keep waffling between who I think is perfect for me and who I think my loved ones will approve.

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posted November 22, 2010 06:16 PM            

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eHarmony sucks. Royally. I know a lot of people who have tried. They all say they have no connection whatsoever with their matches. Try www.plentyoffish.com which is the largest site and is always completely free. But for the people in this Forum, maybe the best place to meet someone is a sex party. Haha! j/k

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posted November 22, 2010 06:29 PM            

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Ooooooooh thanks! Going to check it out later tonight!

You're just a love machine lately!

Thanks love!

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posted November 22, 2010 06:48 PM            

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I've always been a love machine. I just have been more open lately. Sweet Peas is almost magical in that regard. It has that effect on people.

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posted November 23, 2010 02:01 AM            

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In offline life not always easy.
I prefer to meet folks in places other than bars.
Internet is great!

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posted November 23, 2010 02:01 AM            

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Yes, there is an amazing sense of love, magic, and freedom here!

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posted November 23, 2010 10:55 AM            

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Randall,

You rock!

PlentyofFish is amazing! There are a lot of people just looking for a score on there of course, but it has potential too! I'm totally addicted My Virgo soul loves all the choices and different ways you can screen, plus it's FREE! And it totally knows me!

I've already had like 7 guys contact me and they are decent selections. For free! I can email and IM and sort and sift and match and discriminate until my little heart is content.

It has way more people on it than eHarmony too. I wish I knew about this before I wasted my money with that crap.

Muchos besos for the opportunity.

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posted November 23, 2010 12:02 PM            

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Glad I could assist. Anytime, Starr!

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posted November 23, 2010 12:19 PM            

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OMG Funny you mentioned that site Randall, I have had a profile there for some time now lol.
I don't do dating sites anymore accept for that one. A lot of guys just looking to score, but a few there are more serious. I like to scan the profiles to see who seems seedy and who sounds more mature.

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posted November 23, 2010 12:27 PM            

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Hello everybody,

In the netherlands we've also got datingsites.
It's how i've met my ex boyfriend. At that site you can see the starsigns in the profiles.
Funny name for a site plentyoffish. There are sharks and dophines in the sea, perhaps a mermaid.
Do you select on starsign? Or are you open for all 12 sunsigns?

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posted November 23, 2010 12:34 PM            

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P2

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posted November 23, 2010 12:44 PM            

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PS is right. Be careful, my ex was also a bith strange.

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posted November 23, 2010 12:51 PM            

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OKCupid is not too bad.
Not just for dating but just making friends and or having good conversations.
Met a nice girl who may be my sister who was killed in 1987.
Changed my location though to a city an hour away because I was getting hit on in droves by people minutes away from my place.
My account is inactive at this time.

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posted November 24, 2010 02:34 AM            

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It's not hard to meet people. Just be friendly and talk to people everywhere you go, everyday. It's really that straight-forward. I'm not being sarcastic if it sounds like it (sometimes Aries Merc translates a bit blunt online). Serioulsy. Just walk up and speak to someone or crack a joke, smile.

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posted November 24, 2010 03:45 AM            

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I think that a big part in meeting people is being able to be rejected and not being too blown away.
When I have had the most "luck" in meeting people, it was at times that I felt secure in myself.
Then, I could meet people ,most anywhere,males and females.

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posted November 24, 2010 11:13 AM            

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Us guys have it tough; we're expected to ask the girl out, and most girls don't realize how big of a deal this can be.

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posted November 24, 2010 12:55 PM            

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PA,

I'm only that bold and friendly when I've been imbibing a bit LOL. Then saying hello to someone in line at the mail office or the grocery store is no big deal! But they're always married

Randall, I agree. I have a lot of male friends who I've watched over the years as they've agonized on how to approach the perfect girl. Society puts a lot of pressure on males to take the lead in relationships.

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