posted December 18, 2010 04:55 PM            

Communicate
Every person is unique and these differences will surface every time you need to a agree or make a decision. It could also occur when the woman wants to talk but her husband does not want to. She might think that it is her fault and that he does not love her when she might have just married a quiet guy.
Communication is the most important part of any relationship. Women tend to talk a lot and when the men don’t, they get angry or upset. Both sides need to talk about what is bothering them in an environment were they feel safe and won’t be judged.
Talk about how you feel and if your husband or partner does not share their feelings, find a way that is comfortable for them. They might be scared that you will judge them or simply resigned to the fact that you talk all the time and will decide for them anyway.
Talk to one another and really listen. Try not to butt in when your partner is talking. Give your undivided attention and take note. That is a sign of love and respect.

Make time for each other
Do thing together, make food, wash up, work in the garden, wash the car or dance in the lounge on your favourite song. With life happening all the time, it is so easy for you just to let your relationship suffer. Even if it is just an hour before you turn off the lights to go to sleep, have that time for each other. You can do anything you want in this time, as long as it is just the two of you.

Accept each others differences
There is a popular saying that you should walk a mile in another persons shoes before you judge them. As I have mentioned previously, differences exist, you really have to try to work through the differences. Learning about someone, how their mind works, how they see the world and make decisions for themselves, their family and their life can be part of the process of realising and remembering why you love that person.

Don’t judge
This is especially an important factor when it comes to point 2 and 4. Create a safe space for them to share their feelings, fears or thoughts. It is really easy to judge, especially when we are angry and frustrated. We just need to treat others as we would like them to treat us. And besides, no-one has the right to judge.

Remember the old days
Re-enact the days when you first fell in love. It might have been days when you went to the park, bought them gifts, ate out, played pool, and went to the movies. All those little things really help. Maybe he helps you to hold the pool cue or you hold each others hand in the movies or you get a fright and grab his hand without even realising. Those little things can go a long way to bring back a little spark.

Pamper each other
This is definitely one to get the spark back in any relationship. Take a night out every week or month to do this with your partner. Massage each other, bath together, filing the bath with oils or anything that will set the mood for you guys, candles even, where you wash each others backs. You can even wash their hair. There is definitely a good chance that the spark will be burning bright after this.

Go on a holiday
A change of scenery is a good way to get away from all the stress at home. It will allow you the opportunity to get new perspective on old problems. Even if you just plan or talk about it, at least you can have the dream together. This will also give you some time to be alone with each other.

Don’t let yourself go
Take care of your appearance, not only for them but for yourself as well. Buy nice clothes, do you hair or change the style.
Couples that have been together for long say that they don’t worry how they look in front of their partner anymore because they have seen them at their worst. But we are visual beings and sprucing yourself up a bit to remind your partner why you are the best thing that has ever happened to them, will really not hurt at all.

Appreciate
Saying thank you often seems like such a small gesture, but in essence, it really means a lot the person hearing it. Say thank you for seemingly small things like: Thank you for helping the kids with their homework tonight, thank you for coming home a bit earlier, and thank you for picking the kids up while I was in a meeting. Thanks for making food or even taking out the dirt bin.
All these small bits of appreciation make the other person know that what they are doing does matter to someone. It makes there lives have a bit more value.

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Being loved by all is little fun
Unless you're also loved by one.
~Robert Brault

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posted December 19, 2010 03:44 PM            

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Being loved by all is little fun
Unless you're also loved by one.
~Robert Brault

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posted December 21, 2010 08:45 AM            

I think an eternally exciting relationship would be where you let him get to know you ,little by little, and he did the same

posted December 26, 2010 09:56 PM            

oh if i may add, each perosn needs to make an effort to contact the other in the early stages of the relationship...dont let just one of you contact the other, it makes the one who doesnt do the contacting look like their not interested, which they probably arnt and it frusterates the one who does all of the contacting

posted January 11, 2011 09:43 PM            

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Originally posted by charmainec:
“I really felt anonymous. Everyone was really aloof. It felt claustrophobic.”

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isnt that a contradiction? LOL

posted November 09, 2011 05:30 AM            

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Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.

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