posted January 07, 2011 09:35 AM            

Amusing how "normal" he was when we were together or so appeared, maybe I didn't pay careful attention to the signs.

posted January 07, 2011 10:23 AM            

My most recent ex was/is a bomb waiting to go off. I knew it before we got as seriously tied together as we are now, but even then, I was too scared to leave him. My self esteem was really low when we met, and he knew it and played my "hero" so I felt helpless without him and beleived everything he said.

He told me once that he wanted to kill me, cut me open, and on our way home from dinner one night, he swerved his truck towards a telephone pole and said next time I brought a certain topic up (him basically cheating on me) he would crash us and kill me.

He cheated on me when I was pregnant too, and I almost lost the baby over it. Our story is messed up, we both messed with each other, but I beleive if I hadn't been so emotionally manipulated at that point, it wouldn't have gone as far as it did. Pre term labor at 28 weeks and he dissapeared after that until she was born. I was STUPID to get back with him at that point, and spend another almost year with him until I smartened up and asked him to leave.

It's been so hard since then, but my life has improved so much, and I KNOW I am strong enough to handle it all on my own if I have to.

posted January 07, 2011 10:51 AM            

Glad you're both ok and got out of it alive.There are cases where others had tragic endings.There was a case here recently where a guy killed his ex girlfriend, her new boyfriend and himself.

posted January 07, 2011 04:01 PM            

Charm...was that him who posted to you on here with a list?

Lexx, woah, speachless!

I will join!

some of you know about my ex- some don't.
I never spoke about it on LL while it was happening- no one would have ever have guessed it.

He is waiting for court- probably going to jail for what he did and what is still trying to do to me now.

The police woman I am dealing with now is wonderful. I first went to them desperately not long ago trying to get someone to listen to the most horrendous voice mail messages he left me- I was almost turned away and I started crying and pleading that someone bloody listen to me!!! So the young constable did, took me into a room and listened to them, it took her 1 message before she wanted to go get him and charge him. She called my ex on the phone and told him the messages sickened her. Since then she has done everything in her power to help me, she is a good lady, she listened to my entire story and I felt empathy emanating from her good soul. I have only told half the story of what happened with him here, the other parts I would not know how to word without making some of you feel like puking.

posted January 07, 2011 04:34 PM            

But, 5 years ago, the first person I dated after separating was a psycho.
Literally, I can't form words right now.
One of the things he did to 'get me back' for going on vacation without him (which he was supposed to go, and I PAID for his share, but he didn't feel like getting up that early in the AM when it was time to go) was to go to Chicago with a long time female/rival bartender, and they made a PORNO MOVIE TOGETHER. Yes, really!

It was low budget, but they got paid.

Then I moved on to the person I am still seeing on and off, right now.
But 'Porno Pisces' (his nickname among friends ) called me the following Christmas and wanted to talk about 'what went wrong'.

Obviously I didn't want to talk about that.
And I was on a date when he called.
That made him pretty mad, so he decided to call my still legal husband and give him details about our 7 month relationship.
And he also hit on my Mom.

What's worse? He requested me to be his friend on FB, and I said yes.
I told myself that the only person who I would deny on FB was my first husband and that is because he was extremely violent.

Anyway, back to Porno Pisces, who I hadn't talked to in nearly four years now..
I accept his friend request, and write absolutely Nothing on his wall. Ever.
I don't hit like to anything he posts.

Second day we are 'friends' I post a video of a song I like, and writes underneath it,
"What are you trying to tell me?"

HUH?

posted January 07, 2011 04:57 PM            

Why is it they do these things that will obiviously drive one away and still expect that they will be taken back? Oh yes, that's where the crazy part fits in.

posted January 07, 2011 06:08 PM            

My ex started his own little 'HATE CLUB" saying all kinds of crap about me, then later wanting to be my "friend", saying he was getting help blah , blah blah, aplogizing for his behaviour and that he is changing.

When I made it clear that I still didn't want him back he went right back to doing what he apologized for errrrrrrrrrrr.

All sorts.

posted January 08, 2011 10:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Lioness:
Geezz People.. Im starting to be thankful I have Uranus in the 7th...
They just suddenly go away...

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