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From: London England
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posted May 03, 2011 10:07 AM            

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Can the betrayer ever regain their previous level of trust.?

For this Capricorn.. noway nohow,
Once someone has let me down, I really want little further to do with them.

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posted May 03, 2011 11:34 AM            

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For me ,with strong Gem ,strong Scorpio and a Cancer moon,it takes a LOT for me to turn my back on someone.
If that person had crossed that line,they would have to seriously repent.
If I knew it was serious,I could take him back.
Repent means to own what you did and turn in the other direction .

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posted May 03, 2011 12:55 PM            

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I'm a Capricorn. Tough question. A precedent is set by the initial betrayal, so I would perhaps always retain some caution unless they really did an amazing job of showing their loyalty.

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posted May 03, 2011 01:17 PM            

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I have given second chances, but it's rare, and it's never the same level of trust. As a general rule, once betrayed, I cut the betrayer off completely.

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posted May 04, 2011 08:10 AM            

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Can the betrayer ever regain their previous level of trust

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They can never regain the *same* level of trust with me.
Once I am aware someone is capable of something, I assume they will always be capable of it and I keep an eye out for it.

That doesn't mean I couldn't forgive or continue a relationship or friendship -- but I would always be wary. I'd never trust them again in the area in which they betrayed me.

For instance, if someone failed to keep an important secret, I would never open up to them again. But I might trust them with other things. There are many ways one can betray someone's trust.. and many areas in which one can be trustworthy or untrustworthy.

I have Moon&Mars in Cap.

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posted May 04, 2011 07:05 PM            

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I subtly destroy people who have betrayed me, I drop a comment in the right ear at the right time..

I know its wrong to do. yet it feels so good.

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posted May 08, 2011 01:56 AM            

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I usually don't forgive the betrayer, though I may forget over time. I need time away from the person before I can so much as look at them again, and if I continue to associate with them, they never regain the same level of trust with me.

We're a tough lot, aren't we?

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posted May 08, 2011 05:29 AM            

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Originally posted by sunshine9:
I usually don't forgive the betrayer, though I may forget over time. I need time away from the person before I can so much as look at them again, and if I continue to associate with them, they never regain the same level of trust with me.

We're a tough lot, aren't we?

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We have to be tough,though its a shame really. I much prefer peace and amity.

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posted May 29, 2011 01:41 AM            

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Every person has a place in your life, a betrayer will also bear that brand in my capricorn eyes.

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posted May 31, 2011 12:28 AM            

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Yes very true.cap sun here
once someone crosses the line with me,i will either cut them out of my life forever (my definition of that is never trusting them again),or make them believe i trust them,(though it couldn't be farther from the truth) i keep my friends close by my enemies closer.my trust is very valuable,and if you cant respect that,you will never have it again,though i wont let you know that.

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posted May 31, 2011 03:26 AM            

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Yeah, i had a capricorn boss who got crossed by his lady friend and he sold her a dud house. Nice aha.

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posted June 01, 2011 12:01 AM            

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That's a hard one. If I work from the surface up towards entertaining the thought of forgiveness, without of course ever forgetting... maybe

Capricorn (Scorpio rising, Leo Moon)

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posted August 16, 2011 07:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
[B]I have given second chances, but it's rare, and it's never the same level of trust. As a general rule, once betrayed, I cut the betrayer off completely
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Hear hear! once someone has taken the p--- out of me,its like they no longer exist!
I have disappeared on quite a few people in my time.Onwards and upwards!!

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