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Stawr
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posted October 30, 2011 08:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I always come to Sweet Peas just need to vent.lol My mood is sh!tty right now.

Some of you may know, that a guy stood me up on a date. Well exactly a week ago he apologized. I forgave him...but pretty much let him know I was upset, and to not pull that again...and have the balls to tell me if you need/want to cancel. (I didn't word it like that...but I pretty much got that point across)

We started texting everyday again. And I'm thinking when are we actually going to hang out? ITS BEEN 3 WEEKS. Like helloooooo I like you.

He told me he has a lot of stuff going on with his job and money issues and stuff.

So I'm giving him his space, but still letting him know I'm there...but no pressure.

Well it's hard for me to text him a lot during the weekends cause I wanna see him dammit.

Luckily I've been keeping busy and happy with plans this weekend with friends. (except for today)

At the party I went to last night, the friend who introduced me to him asked me how we are doing. I told her that we talk every day again. She told me that he said that I don't text him very much...and that he is always the first one to text me.
NOT TRUE!
I swear sometimes we text each other for like 4 hours straight...I really text him back not that "k, good, cool, oh" stuff. I swear I text his ear off sometimes.

And I do text him first sometimes...so I got heated when I heard he said that. I'm still upset.

Not only that but he has some damn nerve, saying that...especially since HE STOOD ME UP...he ignored my text...until the next day when I said "let me know by 5 if your still up for tonight."

Like I think that's really messed up.

I get annoyed when guys talk about how I am not meeting their expectations when I am not even their girlfriend. And we are not even dating right now...I'm waiting though.


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Stawr
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posted October 30, 2011 08:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
this guy is older than me, so I would think that buy now he would realize it's not a good thing when someone is constantly blowing up your phone...

I thought that way a few years ago...In high school I remember I flipped cause my short lived boyfriend went a day with out talking to me.

Also my last ex boyfriend use to call me every 20 minutes. I felt super loved! But then I later realized that he was doing that because he is mentally unstable and has nothing better to do, and was keeping tabs on me.

I'm wondering if this new guy bases how much I like him based on how much I text him...???...Isn't he kinda old for that?

Do you think how much someone texts you...is a basis on how much someone likes you?...I don't think it is anymore.

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NativelyJoan
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posted October 30, 2011 09:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think if people like you or love you, it's obvious through their actions. Whatever they may be. I personally think texting or phone conversations are obnoxious, I'd much rather just plan to meet the person, face to face to have a conversation. I don't pull disappearing acts unless I'm not interested.

This guy seems immature. He might be older but clearly he still has trouble trying to manage his life. You're never too busy to let someone know you can't meet up with them or too respond in general. If you care about someone, you'd do them the decency of contacting them. Don't immediately take silence as a sign of indifference, but be aware that in certain situations it might just be that. We all need space and it makes seeing each other that much more exciting.

My advice is drop the guy like a sack of rocks and find someone who's loving and honest and who won't play hide and seek with you. Life is hard enough without the added stress of confusing relationships.

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Stawr
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posted October 30, 2011 11:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ah, thank you NativelyJoan. I know right...why is texting such a big deal? I would like to see him in person...I'm sick of just texting.

I come from a stable family unlike him. Well my life is more put together than his.(but then there are people that come from unstable family's and their life is more put together than mine. lol) Maybe he feels wired asking me to hang out with him since he doesn't have a car and I do, and I'm a young woman...or he is extremely lame. lol

But yeah...this guy is not in a place to be dating me or really anyone right now.
I realize that...I don't mind just hanging out like we where...but now I'm just like ehh...the damage has been done.

But yeah...I find it super annoying when a guy wants to complain that I don't talk or pay enough attention when we are not dating, not in a official committed relationship(not even f()ck buddies/fwb.)
All that it is, is I like you and you like me, and we both know...but ya know sometimes people have to figure out what they wanna do about it...people gotta get to know each other...I've had other guys do that...and it does scare me when a guy says that I don't talk to him as much as he expects me to, and I usually do run.
I haven't even bothered to text him today.(but seriously what a hypocrite to ignore me one day, but then complain I don't talk to him enough)

I might eventually drop him like a sack of rocks...I tried before but then he apologized...it was good. (But I agree there is no excuse to not tell someone you're going to cancel on someone. Unless they died. Or some other huge disaster. But work problems...really? That is a really dumb excuse.) ...I definitely feel like I am getting to that dropping point.
...and starting to feel like he is an emotional f()ckwittage (Bridget Jones Diary book reference lol)

Again thank you NativelyJoan, I shouldn't even be worrying about stuff like this.

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