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scrappydog
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posted November 09, 2011 09:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scrappydog     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Enough talk about what sign ur mars is in, its much deeper than that. What would be some major ASPECTS for this type of thing, to enjoy giving Or enjoy recieving?

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posted November 09, 2011 09:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Atlantis18     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted November 09, 2011 10:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mintgirl123     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How rough are you talking? lol
I like sex to be alittle more um animalistic (though making love is great too)

I have 8th house pluto in scorp conjunct eros 1 degree
sun sextile pluto 1 degree
sun conjunct mars (loose orb)
aries rising
uranus exact conjunct MC

I'm quite different behind closed doors lol! Though I got moon conjunct venus in libra too, so I can be soft too.

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posted November 09, 2011 10:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lindisfarne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My mars in cancer opposes my Neptune/Uranus in Capricorn

My mars in cancer squares my jupiter in libra

I don't know why I love being submissive and enjoy being dominated

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posted November 09, 2011 10:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mars in Cancer seems like it would like to be more submissive. I think domination would be Pluto.

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posted November 09, 2011 10:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for northernlad     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Mars in Cancer seems like it would like to be more submissive. I think domination would be Pluto.


That would make sense, but I have a Mars in Cancer and I can go both ways. Sometimes I'm in the mood to be more submissive and other times I'm in the mood to take the bull by the horns (I suppose if I were with a Taurus... ) Perhaps it's because I have Mars trine Pluto?

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posted November 09, 2011 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tuxedoMask     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
How rough are you talking? lol

yeah, seriously...
i know someone that drew the line at it getting to the point of drawing blood..
people have different limits.

..jus sayin

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posted November 09, 2011 10:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Heavy Mars and Pluto aspects. Mars enjoys a good fight and Pluto rules taboos and transformations. I'm not rough but I'm definitely assertive. I'm a Libra Sun and I don't like anything rough, especially not intimacy. Here are a few of my placements. These pretty much account for my aggressive tendencies.

Mars in Aries
Mars in the 1st
Sun opposite Mars
Mars square Uranus
Mars square Saturn
Mars Quintile Pluto
Pluto in the 8th

Here's a description of Mars square Uranus from astro.com, It's an abbreviated description by John Townley from his astrology book. I related strongly to this description. (Uranus rules my chart)

"You usually try to cover up your natural impatience, but when the dam breaks, it releases a flood of physical passion that takes a lover by storm. There is a very hard inner core to your style of loving. Although it seems to be very tender, underneath it has a biting, pungent quality. You show a certain meticulousness in lovemaking, such that not a single possibility is missed in a nights play."

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posted November 09, 2011 11:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tuxedoMask     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by NativelyJoan:
Heavy Mars and Pluto aspects. Mars enjoys a good fight and Pluto rules taboos and transformations. I'm not rough but I'm definitely assertive. I'm a Libra Sun and I don't like anything rough, especially not intimacy. Here are a few of my placements. These pretty much account for my aggressive tendencies.

Mars in Aries
Mars in the 1st
Sun opposite Mars
Mars square Uranus
Mars square Saturn
Mars Quintile Pluto
Pluto in the 8th

Here's a description of Mars square Uranus from astro.com, It's an abbreviated description by John Townley from his astrology book. I related strongly to this description. (Uranus rules my chart)

"You usually try to cover up your natural impatience, but when the dam breaks, it releases a flood of physical passion that takes a lover by storm. There is a very hard inner core to your style of loving. Although it seems to be very tender, underneath it has a biting, pungent quality. You show a certain meticulousness in lovemaking, such that not a single possibility is missed in a nights play."


it's odd because i think every time i've seen mars aspecting uranus in a chart, i see it making an aspect as well to saturn. read up on the saturn one and how there are looooooots of inhibitions and things of that sort trailing back to the father and what they represent as an authoritative figure disapprovingly watching. don't know if you have any of the 'fears' that placement hints at but i've found lots of people to inhibit their sexual expression because of it.

there's some kind of thing where they look at things being of nature as even something unnatural like plants being indoors or something.. i've never understood that.

it's almost as if saying humans and the things humans do weren't a part of nature and i think we very much are..

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posted November 09, 2011 11:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lindisfarne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by tuxedoMask:
yeah, seriously...
i know someone that drew the line at it getting to the point of drawing blood..
people have different limits.

..jus sayin


a little too rough.......
not gonna lie sometimes i get a little too curious that I feel like biting someone off, literally. it's so weird.

op are you talking about sadism??

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posted November 09, 2011 11:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by tuxedoMask:
it's odd because i think every time i've seen mars aspecting uranus in a chart, i see it making an aspect as well to saturn. read up on the saturn one and how there are looooooots of inhibitions and things of that sort trailing back to the father and what they represent as an authoritative figure disapprovingly watching. don't know if you have any of the 'fears' that placement hints at but i've found lots of people to inhibit their sexual expression because of it.

there's some kind of thing where they look at things being of nature as even something unnatural like plants being indoors or something.. i've never understood that.

it's almost as if saying humans and the things humans do weren't a part of nature and i think we very much are..


I know what you mean and I think those of us who have Saturn and Uranus in Sagittarius (1985 - 1989) deal with aspects that effect both simultaneously.

I have issues with authority but that actually has to do with my Sun squaring Saturn. I also have Saturn in the 10th. I had an overbearing, controlling dominant Saturn father, who was absent most of my childhood. My father was restrictive and my mother was expressive and open. This environment mirrored what I was dealing with personality wise also.

With Mars squaring both Saturn and Uranus, it's like a balancing act between two extremes. Saturn Restricts and Uranus breaks apart. As a result of having them both square my Mars I'm able to walk the line evenly between the two. However Uranus is dominant in my chart, and my most aspected planet. I'm more in touch with Uranus but don't worry I still feel the effects of my Saturn aspects just not as powerfully as Uranus. When I was younger I'd swing between being completely sexually uninhibited to sexually inhibited. It was crazy, and as I've grown I've learned how to find a balance between the two.

Any issues I have with sexuality have more to do with past abuse then anything else. Which I'm still learning how to find peace with today. Saturn doesn't restrict me anymore than Uranus un-inhibits me. I'm a free spirit at my core and even though Saturn has tried to tie me down, Uranus always manages to set me free. It's a balance.

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posted November 10, 2011 01:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BelligerentPygmy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Uh...I have :

Mars in Cancer, 6th house
Mars square Jupiter
Mars square Saturn
Mars square Pluto
Uranus conjunct MC

Pretty much all the aspects named off in this thread. And I'm not into ANY of this type of s**t...like, at all.

Just wanted to say that before people start assuming everyone with those particular placements, is into that stuff. Not true.

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posted November 10, 2011 02:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
mars conjunct pluto in scorpio sextile venus and saturn in the 8th in cap.....it depends on what day of the week it is, LOL

some days i like it rough (and even painful) and other days i like it slow with lots of snuggling

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posted November 10, 2011 02:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for downtomars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am not into full on BDSM but I find that I am more of a passive partner when it comes to rough sex – I like the man to be The Man, take control and be the aggressor.

I dated a man who had Mars in Cancer conjunct his Saturn and he was more of a passive partner as well (Sun in Taurus too, so…) and it didn’t work out too well for us sexually. Sensually, it worked quite well but sexually . He had other stuff going on too <fetishes> that I wasn't into...

I did learn from that experience that I need a complimentary type in the bedroom. It was something I didn't think about until I didn't have it...

I have Mars in Gemini
Mars in 5th house
Mars trine Moon
Mars trine Pluto
Mars opp Neptune
Mars Biquintile Uranus
Mars Biquintile AC

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posted November 10, 2011 04:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Voix_de_la_Mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by tuxedoMask:
yeah, seriously...
i know someone that drew the line at it getting to the point of drawing blood..
people have different limits.

..jus sayin


Haha, my last sexual partner left bleeding, bruised, and barely walking.

I think it's as much to do with who you are with though, than your personal preferences - some people bring it outta ya, some don't.
As for aspects ... Pluto conjunct ascendant maybe? I dunno.

EDIT: Oh, and I'm female - thank goodness!!!

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posted November 10, 2011 08:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scrappydog     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm begining to think that people who enjoy this but like being the passive partner often have neptune aspects to venus or mars, but especially mars.

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posted November 30, 2011 02:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Beautiful Disaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I enjoy being submissive and dominant with my partner.

Synastry: Mars in the 8th house.

My clothes get aggressively ripped off and I get slammed onto the bed alot.

We also have pluto conjunct venus, sun opposition mars, venus conjunct mars, mars conjunct neptune.


5 years on and off.

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posted November 30, 2011 04:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Betty Boop     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I'm begining to think that people who enjoy this but like being the passive partner often have neptune aspects to venus or mars, but especially mars.

True in my case. Mars conj Neptune!

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posted November 30, 2011 03:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I LOVE it, I love being dominated in the bedroom...but as I have posted here before..

I am quite the matriarch in my family...single mom, have had to work for everything I have gained in my life (in one way or another), I am so friggin independent drives most men crazy....

I can do anything I put my mind to. Fix plumbing, change tires, etc.

I am a nurse, charge nurse alot, and care for patients and families, and the entire friggin unit, 36 hours a week..come home and take care of my house, my cats, my daughters dog, my yard...

SO, when it is time to let go..YAY!!!

Let somebody else take care of me..let my man tell me what to do, instead of me telling everybody else what to do, how to act, how to care for themselves..please just let me let go...

Seriously lock me up in a castle tower, for a day only...and let me let go.

I am Pisces sun, friggin Aqua like no other, with my Mars in a tight stellium with Mercury and Jupiter in Aqua opposed to Uranus himself, forming 3 T-squares to my Taurus moon..all which aspect my Scorpio rising..

Yea, buddy...let me let go~

great thread!

o and Venus 0 deg Aries, but I hover between a Pisces Venus and a Ram...

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posted June 23, 2012 12:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lazyscarecrow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
DEFINITELY Mars in Cancer...I have known a few guys with this placement and they told me they enjoy being roughed up in the sack. Maybe not using those words though. lol.

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posted June 23, 2012 01:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cap Marses like to be controlling, though secretly wishing to be controlled ^_^. I think most Cap placements are like that. I've got Cap Asc. I have 2 Cap Mars exes who were like that. Scorpio Mars might get the rep for this, but wasn't true in my experience. Quite sweet ^_^.

As for me.. I think I can go both ways but this is uncomfortable for me since I have a history of rape attempts that I am not yet at peace with. I guess I do tend to attract that sort of energy, though, because I haven't dealt with it and I know it goes back to my father..

Mars in Aries opp Pluto and Saturn
Mars trine Moon and Neptune
Mars conj Mercury
Mars sextile NN


Been told by a Leo Mars that I am intimidating sexually. Guess it will be more true once I pass over to 30s group. Only dignified Marses had what I need (Cap and Scorpio) - so far at least.

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posted June 23, 2012 09:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mars in Taurus a.k.a the bull probably sensual yet animalistic, rough or dominating behavior may be involved but that's natural. Sex in many forms isn't taboo. But a Mars in Taurus my be more selective about who they share that side with.
Mars 1st House or 12th house Whole sign or Pladicus
Mars Trine Uranus, Neptune, and Aphrodite.
Sun, Mercury & MC Square Mars
Mars Semi-sextile Moon.
Mars opposite Valentine.
Mars Conjunct Sappho.
Pluto Trine Amor.

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posted June 23, 2012 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sunnigrl83     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like rough sex, and I enjoy being more submissive. I've never actually participated in bondage, but I do have a big interest in it. I have mars in cancer. I also have read alot about having Venus in Virgo tends to give u a urge to be a submissive slave. I also have that.

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posted June 23, 2012 03:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lazyscarecrow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ail221:
Mars in Taurus a.k.a the bull probably sensual yet animalistic, rough or dominating behavior may be involved but that's natural. Sex in many forms isn't taboo. But a Mars in Taurus my be more selective about who they share that side with.

Hey, is your Mars in Taurus?
Mines is and I agree with this description, especially the bolded. Dominance really goes either way with me, I like playing that role but not all the time...that gets old.
I also think Mars opposite Pluto can either manifest as "dominant" or at least attract the energy.

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posted June 23, 2012 03:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
Hey, is your Mars in Taurus?
Mines is and I agree with this description, especially the bolded. Dominance really goes either way with me, I like playing that role but not all the time...that gets old.
I also think Mars opposite Pluto can either manifest as "dominant" or at least attract the energy.


Yup I am a Mars in Taurus. Dominance goes either way with me as well. Personally I am very secretive and slow about expressing my sexuality. But once I start there is no stopping me.

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