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Topic: ladies what do you think of compersion fantasy
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Chironrising
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From: Chicago, IL, USA
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posted January 05, 2012 03:20 PM
  
what do you think of men with compersion fantasies? Are they messed up or is this simply the next step in our socio sexual evolution as a species...should they be acted on or is this unhealthy...are they a sign of repression, or can they be cured?IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
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posted January 05, 2012 03:26 PM
You're gonna hafta define that first. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted January 05, 2012 03:29 PM
^ same.
I would look it up myself but the way you perceive it makes me kinda afraid too XD IP: Logged |
NickiG
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posted January 05, 2012 03:32 PM
i think what chiron means is getting turned on watching your partner having sex with someone else------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate? when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history IP: Logged |
Chironrising
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posted January 05, 2012 03:32 PM
When the male or female is turned on erotically by the notion of their partner sleeping with another in front of them. Some people act out this fantasy. IS it harmful? Also...is it a desease, or is it something that is normal or what? Just doing some research on it...I'm researching haphaestus and I Read that his wife slept with apollo and that he actually liked it...so taht when the child grows and still wants to please teh parents he develops an inferiority complex and has cuckold fantasies...Anyone have experience dating a guy like this? Or doing this? IP: Logged |
Chironrising
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posted January 05, 2012 03:33 PM
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Originally posted by NickiG:
i think what chiron means is getting turned on watching your partner having sex with someone else
Wise beyond your years - you are gorgeous. IP: Logged |
NickiG
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posted January 05, 2012 03:33 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Chironrising:
Wise beyond your years - you are gorgeous.
careful, dont flatter me too much, i have a leo moon  ------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate? when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history IP: Logged |
Chironrising
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posted January 05, 2012 03:38 PM
LOL! so does my friend who is a gemini ascendant...and every time I Flatter him he does the corckscrew shimmy twist side step dance move.IP: Logged |
Moonfish
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posted January 05, 2012 03:39 PM
Oh okay, I have Scorpio sun/mars/pluto 8h conjunction. I'm the jealous type so that would not work for me at all X(
Though if I knew that other couples were doing it, and they were into that than hey.. that's them, but it will Never be me. Overall, I guess it's okay as long as everyone involved feels the same as he does.. IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
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posted January 05, 2012 03:39 PM
It's just a fantasy, not a sickness. There ARE a lot of people wanting to act it out but alas the economics of the dating market don't make it too viable...To tie it to astrology, I suspect heavy air sign or Uranian influence, or at least transit from Uranus, since it contains an element of detachment. IP: Logged |
NickiG
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posted January 05, 2012 03:40 PM
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Originally posted by Chironrising:
LOL! so does my friend who is a gemini ascendant...and every time I Flatter him he does the corckscrew shimmy twist side step dance move.
oh hey! i dont know if you know this or not but i'm a gem asc too, lol ------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate? when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted January 05, 2012 03:42 PM
transferring to the Sweet Peas ForumIP: Logged |
Chironrising
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posted January 05, 2012 04:03 PM
I didn't....So...thank you for your responses...I'll let me friend know.IP: Logged |
NickiG
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posted January 05, 2012 04:14 PM
lol, your welcome...if it helps, i'm also a scorpio sun------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate? when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted January 05, 2012 04:49 PM
CompersionCompersion is a state of empathetic happiness and joy experienced when an individual's current or former romantic partner experiences happiness and joy through an outside source, including, but not limited to, another romantic interest. This can be experienced as any form of erotic or emotional empathy, depending on the person experiencing the emotion. The concept is now widespread within the polyamorous community, and was originally coined by the now defunct Kerista Commune in San Francisco.[1][2][3] The related adjective is compersive. It is common for people within the polyamorous community to state that jealousy comes with the territory of open romantic relationships.[4] Compersion has often been referred to as "the opposite of jealousy"[2][5] and some advocates state that through time and experience, it becomes an efficient method for combating jealousy. Polyamorous views on jealousy and compersion In romantic relationships, jealousy refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and/or anxiety over an anticipated loss of a partner or of that partner's attention, affection, or time. Because polyamorous relationships often exist within cultural frameworks of monogamy, where jealousy is understood as a natural reaction to perceived competition for a partner's attention, affection, or time, treatments of jealousy in polyamorous literature are quite extensive. In her book Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, Dr Deborah M. Anapol describes five different types of jealousy - possessive, exclusion, competition, ego, and fear - before discussing compersion.[2] The books The Ethical **** and Opening Up also devote entire chapters to discussions of jealousy. Investigative reporter and sex educator Eric Francis wrote on his Planet Waves website that an individual could look for their own compersion within jealousy itself: "Right inside the jealous episode is a fiery core of erotic passion. It may surprise you how good it feels, and if you get there, you can be sure you're stepping right into compersion." Formal definitions PolyOz defines compersion as "the positive feelings one gets when a lover is enjoying another relationship. Sometimes called the opposite or flip side of jealousy." They comment that compersion can coexist with jealous feelings.[5]
The Polyamory society defines compersion to be "the feeling of taking joy in the joy that others you love share among themselves, especially taking joy in the knowledge that your beloveds are expressing their love for one another."[1]
The InnKeeper defines compersion as "A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. ... Compersion does not specifically refer to joy regarding the sexual activity of one's partner, but refers instead to joy at the relationship with another romantic and/or sexual partner. It's analogous to the joy parents feel when their children get married, or to the happiness felt between best friends when they find a partner."[6]
From Opening Up, Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio writes that compersion is, in part, "the ability to turn jealousy's negative feelings into acceptance of, and vicarious enjoyment for, a lover's joy." (p. 175)
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Chironrising
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posted January 05, 2012 05:51 PM
So then is compersion in pornography positive or negative? Does it cure jealousy? IP: Logged |
NickiG
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posted January 05, 2012 06:02 PM
porn is completely different from watching your partner having sex with someone else...i could watch porn all day long if i were in that kind of mood, but when it comes to my bf, no way in hell------------------
I once saw a sign that said "sin is death" but if "all deaths are suicide (linda goodman)" and suicide is sin, then shouldnt "death is sin" be more appropriate? when organic is used to describe food then you know we have come to a dark age in history IP: Logged |
Chironrising
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posted January 05, 2012 06:12 PM
Excellent answer. Thank you. I feel the same way...IP: Logged |
amowls**
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posted January 15, 2012 04:11 AM
I don't think its messedup nor do I think ANY sexual fantasy or preference is a "disease." Like is it any weirder than guys who want threesomes or like bdsm? No. If my boyfriend wanted to watch me **** someone else, I'd probably be into it. IP: Logged |
SensibleHeart
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posted January 16, 2012 12:31 AM
figuratively speaking, what tickles your pickle (and most importantly, i hope, your partner's too) in the bedroom should be defined by what you and your partner are comfortable with. I think things like this become "diseases" when they are imposed on a defenseless second party, as in pedophilia. Now the psychology behind these things... i think that would be interesting to delve into nowadays because of the psychosexual influences of the pluto in scorpio generation. IP: Logged |
SensibleHeart
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posted January 16, 2012 12:37 AM
because in that case, it would really just depend on what would be considered most taboo? look at how interested people have been in anal sex the past ten years. its becoming less taboo. on to the next foible!IP: Logged |
Lindaland
