posted September 25, 2012 11:13 PM            

during a recent FB rant about no one in particular but of a recent experience I had, my ex decides to IM me to tell me that "not everything is for public scrutiny." the post had nothing to do with him and he wasn't in my mind when I said it but it must have struck a nerve in him and caused an emotional reaction.

"It's so disheartening to be penalized for being a single parent when your child is going through something....the remedy isn't always that simple and I am just a little offended by the solution."

so the solution to me that was suggested was that I find a "father" for my child.

For those that may not know, I was dealing with my ex for almost three years. For the sake of being protective of my son (he is autistic, adhd and other health issues) I did not allow my ex to be involved in my son's life. while we had professed our love for each other, spent time together, etc, he was not able to promise that this would be forever for a lack of words....I cannot allow someone to be involved with him if I am not sure that he will always be there. He needs consistency and someone who I can trust to be constant and we go thru alot of ups and downs. I don't want my turmoil to be his turmoil.

After a bunch of back & forth, i told him to mind his own business...this is what he says:

"PUBLIC AS IN OPPOSITE OF PRIVATE AND SCRUTINY AS IN UNDER WATCHFUL EYES AND I WAS SPEAKING AS FAR AS IN HOW IT MAY SOUND DIFFRENT THAN WHAT U MEAN ,AND ANY ADVERSE REACTIONS AND UR ABSOLUTELY RIGHT IT'LL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN
(DIFFERENT )
(AND I SAID THAT B4 U DID ) THAT ITS NONE OF MY BUSINESS BUT I DIG UR KIDS ENERGY . (NOTED )"

now it seems to be that somewhere in whatever I had said struck him to the core but I don't think he needs to be surprised. I also let him know that whatever I had said, should be scrutinized because these are professionals who are suggesting that my son needs this kind of "treatment." I also said that, this begs of something else a lot deeper and if he can control being emotionally retarded for the moment and discuss the real issue, he is free to call me at any time. I told him that he is more concerned about how it made him feel and no one is going to think less of me for what I wrote. no one even cares about him and not many people on my FB knew I was seeing him.

I just ended chopping his head off because I felt extremely judged in the situation when it had nothing to do with him to begin with. I haven't spoken to this man in over a month and this is what he wants to contact me with???

Now he has blocked me on FB...no biggie. I was gonna delete him anyway. He just beat me to it.

Thanks for letting me rant...I am just so p***ed off about it and the nerve of that man

posted September 25, 2012 11:27 PM            

Not only is the Sun in Libra squaring Pluto in Capricorn and opposing the Moon in Aries, it is also opposing Uranus in Aries. This strongly suggests a sudden change in circumstances that appears to have come straight out of left field. Many will be saying, "What the hell happened?" This Full Moon is the crescendo of tension built from Uranus square Pluto. It's a very rough and tumble Full Moon and my advice is to lay low, keep your game face on and take care of your personal business. This is not the time to make waves and act out and it is most certainly not the time to say, "Honey we need to talk". If you insist on pressing relationship conversation during this time, the conversation could take a turn for the worst and you won't know what hit you. BAM! Again, "What the hell happened?" We are dealing with an Aries Moon that is full of itself, which says, "Me, me, me! Enough about me. What do you think of me?" versus the Libra Sun which is companion and coupled focused that says, "We, us and our." There is also a strong monetary component in the mix with the two signs highly driven by security, Cancer and Capricorn. I mention Cancer because Cancer is the opposite sign of Capricorn and Capricorn just happens to be the apex of the T-Square between Uranus, Pluto and the Sun. I would completely lay off the booze during this time because the last thing you need is booze contributing to an already difficult situation thereby inflaming the difficulty by seismic calculations. This is exponential. If you thought the Saturn / Venus square was tough a couple of weeks ago, consider it a cosmic set-up and learning experience on how to handle this Full Moon in Aries and T-Square."

"Until Monday, October 1, 2012 Uranus in Aries square Pluto in Capricorn at 06 degrees. Now folks listen up . . this is not the first 'exact' square this year (2012) between Uranus and Pluto. This square continues has been in and out of 'exact' degrees several times the past couple of months and even when it is not in 'exact' degrees it has been within 1 degree. This particular square was exact on Wednesday, September 19, 2012 at 1:57 AM EDT and lasts until Monday, October 1, 2012. This should not be a surprise because we have been sitting in this square for months now. I have written about it in your Daily Horoscopes when it reveals itself in an 'exact' degree. Not only has it been a square between Uranus and Pluto, it has also been involved in a T-Square back in July 2012.

Pluto has enormous volatility and explosive energy. Pluto is like the pyromanic of the zodiac and likes to fire things up. It is destructive but also reconstructive because it enjoys watching things take on a full blown transformation. Uranus is the higher octave of Mercury, which rules communication, computers and gadgets. Uranus rules electricity, lightning and the energy it takes to make electrical gadgets run. Uranus naturally rules Aquarius. When you look at the Aquarian symbol, the maiden is not pouring water out of that vessel. She is pouring energy out into the world. Aquarius is NOT the water element that most people think it is. Aquarius is an air sign. Pluto is a generational planet which affects an entire generation of people, which is why Pluto is written into your generational horoscopes (link above). Having said all of this, when Pluto squares Uranus, a generation of people will use their power (Pluto) on mass levels. This is societal. Folks this is revolutionary! It's radical! This reformation! Society has had enough!

This square also has a sexual component to it. Pluto naturally rules the 8th house of sex, so the issue of sex, sex abuse and perverted sex is going to come up. I saw on The Today Show where women are buying more rope and the 'experts' (whoever the heck they are) believe it is a direct result of the erotically charged book, "Fifty Shades of Grey". This square between Pluto and Uranus is about sexual function because Uranus powers something and in this subject matter, it powers SEX! Sexual abuse is going to rise up like a dang volcano and society has had enough. The YouTube video of the boy beaten with a belt by his stepdad while playing catch is just as example of society saying it has had enough. Thank God because I'm a bit tired of 'save the dog, kill the baby' mentality. That just ****** me off . . but that's just me. Everyone has their cause and what they choose to raise their fist over. That's mine!

Pluto is very political and I don't want to get off point here with my statement . . so I'll bring it back . . society has had enough of the perverted freaks, abuse of children, abuse of women and yes, abuse of men. There are plenty of women who get mouthy, fiesty and physically abuse when they get loaded. Heck, there are plenty of aggressive, mouthy women when they aren't loaded. Oh how feminine! Watch the news folks and you will see more of these related stories. Pluto and Uranus are generational planets (in your generational horoscopes) and this generation of people has just had ENOUGH! The wrongs experienced by a generation of people are going to be 'righted' (set right). But there is a twist . . the individual themselves must work to control that power in their own personal Life before they start raising their fist blaming others. Often times the abuse doesn't stop with the generation before it, the abuse continues on through the one who was abused. This generation finally puts their foot down and says, "No, it stops with me. I will not do it and you cannot do it anymore, to anyone else."

posted September 26, 2012 12:07 AM            

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posted September 26, 2012 12:35 AM            

At the same time, i think it may be healthy for your son to see people in your life and see how to interact in one-on-one relationships.

After about perhaps a year, or a few months, i'd say to slowly introduce him to some people in your life in a very casual way.. It's just my take on it, though.

We don't know how old he is but as he matures --though it is a delicate situation-- it's good to slowly introduce them into the world and as a parent, i think that sometimes it may be necessary to also introduce them to things you may consider to be bad for them, too.

It may be a little tough to do, but if you are a single parent, thinking of how you can best prepare them to function in the world in case you couldn't be there for them is the best thing a parent in your shoes may do.

posted September 26, 2012 09:26 AM            

I used to get the same crap from my bfriend re: my (sometimes awful 20 yr old daughter) till I told him, thanks but not thanks for his unwanted, unasked for advice.

Yea, I have been judged on my parenting skills by someone who has never been a parent and lives in his mom's basement at 45.

Would have never struck up a relationship with him living in his mom's basement, but he did have his own place here and moved 1200 miles away from me, back home to his mom's.

Anyway, I just dont understand some folks. IF I vent I just want support, I just want somebody to say, "Its ok...I love you," etc. Just enough to make me feel I have someone on my side.

But no...I get instructed~ WTH?

I get ya girl...

I often use the quote to walk not a mile but a thousand in my shoes, THEN try to judge me...

blessins

posted September 26, 2012 09:47 AM            

My son is surrounded by great males role models, my male friends are wonderful to him. He also has 3 big brothers who love him to death. (They're 14,16 & 20). But he never has had a dad....his left before he was born. Structure & consistency is super important to him and can throw him off the ledge when he doesn't have it. He knows what a dad is, he knows the kind of bond that they're supposed to have but could you imagine him having that relationship with him and my ex is not fully able to reciprocate those things because he is an emotional mess at times? It would break my heart to have my son's heart broken.

posted September 26, 2012 04:27 PM            

I know that jenny mccarthy has a son with autism. A friend of mine actually had her over for dinner; otherwise, i would've more than likely never found out.