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Topic: Some romance advice
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Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted December 22, 2012 12:26 PM
  
Well, I'm interested in a Virgo young lady who is very shy and somewhat withdrawn generally.Was chatting with her last evening and whilst doing so I had a couple of ladies give me the smile and small hand wave As in smile, face glows, small wave, then go do something. Had the feeling Ms Virgo was not to pleased over all of this, so I asked her: "Have you ever forgotten someone's name"? Did not realize she was so insecure she assumed I'd forgotten her name in the face of all of the uhm, attention, that was being received. Of course I did not forget HER name, but she seemed very very insulted. Talked the rest of the evening but felt a chasm had opened. What to do now? IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 4916
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 22, 2012 02:21 PM
Just explain you're a Sag and you get FITM syndrome from time to time 
*FITM= Foot In The Mouth
On a more serious note, try from now on to assure her that she has all your attention, look not at other females, speak not with them, wave not at them and for goodness' sake don't smile or flirt with them.
And you might even work the Sag honesty in your favor and clarify that it was THEIR name you had forgotten. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted December 22, 2012 02:29 PM
Thanks Hera, I suspect this is a non starter to begin with she is to self centered for my tastes.Rough rough background for her, and suspect it is a self defense mechanism. However I think this is not my cup o' tea at this stage in my life. She said some ugly stuff as in I was "ignorant" etc and pointed me to a Andrea Dworkin book. *sigh* typical for me, always pick the wrong ones. Plenty of offers (so to speak) always wind up picking the wrong girl. IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 4916
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 23, 2012 05:59 PM
Hmm then just pick someone else! lol It should be fairly simple, I don't suppose you're falling for the Virgo damsel yet, no?IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted December 23, 2012 06:58 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Hmm then just pick someone else! lol It should be fairly simple, I don't suppose you're falling for the Virgo damsel yet, no?
Had fallen a bit for her, the other issue is my goodness I attract the women I'm not into and the ones I am into..are not into me. Ladies can, uhm, be very direct at times Knowing my love pattern what will happen now is Ms Virgo will then make it plain she is into me but that well has been poisoned from my pov. Opened the door to my affection, she slammed it shut, and will more than likely want to re-open it. This is the sort of thing that runs me off of the rails so to speak, not her per se, more I simply MUST keep things in perspective.
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Hera
Moderator Posts: 4916
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 24, 2012 09:09 PM
Then interrupt the vicious circle. Tell her no. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Knowflake Posts: 1440
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 24, 2012 10:11 PM
If I were a man I'd cut a woman out of my life the moment she pointed me to an Andrea Dworkin book to help me "know the truth." I've read a couple of books by her and seen a handful of interviews and speeches and known a few women who revered her and so I'd recommend a man to go with a disciple of hers the same way I would recommend a Jew go with someone who found great wisdom in Mein Kampf. (Of course READING her or citing something she said is one thing, but recommending her without any caveat, especially to a man, is something completely different, and very likely a demonstration of hostility.)IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 3375
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted December 24, 2012 10:11 PM
Padre, you're a Sag right? I'm an Aries and I do the same thing (picking the ones who don't like me.) I think you (we) just like the chase. What fun would it be to automatically win someone's affections? That's not FUN! There's no strategy involved, no teasing, nothing...it's just "Oh, you like me too. Let's get some coffee and talk." Pfft. I talk to a million people a day with nothing at stake. There has to be steak for a fire sign to be interested!Just saying I feel ya. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted December 24, 2012 11:51 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Padre, you're a Sag right? I'm an Aries and I do the same thing (picking the ones who don't like me.) I think you (we) just like the chase. What fun would it be to automatically win someone's affections? That's not FUN! There's no strategy involved, no teasing, nothing...it's just "Oh, you like me too. Let's get some coffee and talk." Pfft. I talk to a million people a day with nothing at stake. There has to be steak for a fire sign to be interested!Just saying I feel ya.
Heh, Aries Ascendant (Triple fire) as well. I did some research on Dworkin, tbh she sounded mentally unstable. I pride myself on being able to at least try and understand where people are coming from even if I don't agree with them. Dworkin sounds like a colossal waste of time, "Men are Evil" etc etc. IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 199
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 31, 2012 03:03 PM
Gotta love Virgo's...All my friends are equally divided between Gems and Sags and I don't see either working with a Virgo. Especially not Sags! IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted January 01, 2013 11:38 PM
Interestingly enough, I chatted with Ms Virgo on New Years and shared a toast to the new years.One thing stuck in her mind after all of the time we have talked: "OMG, you said I was embryonic, no one has ever said that to me, it made me feel good". Bad bad at this love stuff.
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Lunae
Knowflake Posts: 95
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 02, 2013 09:20 AM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
Had fallen a bit for her, the other issue is my goodness I attract the women I'm not into and the ones I am into..are not into me.Ladies can, uhm, be very direct at times Knowing my love pattern what will happen now is Ms Virgo will then make it plain she is into me but that well has been poisoned from my pov. Opened the door to my affection, she slammed it shut, and will more than likely want to re-open it. This is the sort of thing that runs me off of the rails so to speak, not her per se, more I simply MUST keep things in perspective.
You're not alone in that, Padre. I also fall for those who are not into me. I'm always like the 'friendzoned' type. XD IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted January 02, 2013 10:56 AM
It's not like that Lunae, I learned along time ago that my happiness does not depend on anyone but myself.Eh, if nothing happens, so what? Life will go on. IP: Logged |
Lunae
Knowflake Posts: 95
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 02, 2013 12:45 PM
True  We have to move on in order to grow. How are you now with Ms. Virgo? IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted January 02, 2013 01:02 PM
Same mixed signals as always.Coquettishness is not a huge attractor for me at least, have better things to do. Lots of fish in the ocean so to speak so I'm not overly worried. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 796
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted January 06, 2013 01:02 AM
This was interesting, met Ms Virgo again and the topic of sex came up and mentioned:"It is not that I don't have offers for sex, it is just they are coming from the wrong people" She said "no, no, no sex for you" A big Reddit fan, she wanted me to read a sub topic about men's rights, but thought I'd wind up being the moderator of the forum!  Oddly enough, neither she, nor a mutual friend would tell me her Reddit screen name..suspect they are hiding something. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 5051
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted January 06, 2013 01:50 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Padre, you're a Sag right? I'm an Aries and I do the same thing (picking the ones who don't like me.) I think you (we) just like the chase. What fun would it be to automatically win someone's affections? That's not FUN! There's no strategy involved, no teasing, nothing...it's just "Oh, you like me too. Let's get some coffee and talk." Pfft. I talk to a million people a day with nothing at stake. There has to be steak for a fire sign to be interested!Just saying I feel ya.
and this is why most women end up falling for players and getting their hearts broken... just being honest here lol... the whole "mysterious" crap never ends wellIP: Logged |
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