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posted December 29, 2012 08:30 AM            

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Who was the primary influence on you? How much do you take after them?

I've lived with my mom the majority of my life and I find myself taking after her in my own way. We're both haughty and arrogant, argumentative and outgoing. We're both socially skilled, generally well-known, yet lone wolf-y...different personalities, but super similar behaviour, and she's the one who raised me!

So is which parent/guardian do you take after? How so? Why?

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posted December 29, 2012 09:05 AM            

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Who was the primary influence on you?

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My grandparents - they raised me until I was 3 but were extremely present for my entire upbringing even after returning me to my mother.

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How much do you take after them?

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I take after my grandparents by honouring what they taught me and what they wished for me to do, and keeping my promises to them. My grandfather was a Libra, funniest man I've ever known... oh but, I haven't inherited any of his talent in delivering humour.... Only his dedication and love of life's simple pleasures... My grandmother, an Aquarius... she tries... haha XD oh she tries... *isn't doing so well at explaining I know* Nanna is a funny character, she's all heart... one big, beautiful, all-loving heart... she has her vices, but I'm one of the few people in the family who aren't put off by her sudden self-centered dramatics, and her moments of Munchhausen syndrome! haha XD we can talk for ages nonstop about any subject.... I think I get that from her, and the fact we're both night owls. XD

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So which parent/guardian do you take after?

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With my parents (biological) I'd say that before becoming a parent and before he became a grandfather, I took after my father most. But, after becoming a parent and after he became a grandfather... I take more after my mother. Mom changed a lot too after becoming a grandmother.... we had a lot of bad blood between all of us for 20 some years... and then it simply didn't matter anymore... I think I take only slightly more after mom... my father was a fickle, inconsistent man in many regards and tried too hard often to fit in and stay hip with his "friends".... my mother was always the type who didn't give a good gd what anyone thought as long as we were all taken care of at the end of the day.
I have a good deal of balance now, I hope.

So my grandfather and grandmother on my maternal side are the ones who hold the most influence over me, even today... but, I have become to a certain extent my mother, but manage to somehow make what my father taught me, all his irrational goals and ideas, mesh with mom's over-the-top Libran standards...

I'm ruled XD by my Aqua-Libra-Libra-Pisces elders! ^^; that's it!

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posted December 29, 2012 09:10 AM            

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Cool, what placements do you share with her?

I'd have to say I am similar to my mother. We are both hypersensitive, but in different ways. Any form of criticism is a threat to her comfort. Even if it a simple suggestion she tries to make one feel like an a-hole for even speaking up. My mom is very loving, and yet very jealous. She's a Pisces Sun with either Virgo or Libra Moon (more like the latter)... while she's sensitive, she's also surprisingly INsensitive. She will not hesitate to say really hateful things if she feels threatened. I'd say around people she don't know well she's very timid. She moves SUPER slow, and my mom is lazy though it may be the meds than Astrology. I have a lot of her worse tendencies, low self esteem, sloth, unbearable mood swings and issues with criticism. But I don't think I am anywhere near as spiteful as she can be. And despite all the bad I've mentioned, I am still different from my mom. We also share Venus-Saturn, and actually the same planets in a T-square. My sister inherited a lot of the same aspects from her, but they are trines, and that little lucky sis of mine inherited her Water Grand trine. >< she expresses some traits of mom, but in a BETTER, HEALTHY way.
The only thing I think I nabbed from my Taurus dad is my soft-spokenness, social mannerisms (according to some) and most of his looks.

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posted December 29, 2012 09:22 AM            

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Both my parents r born on the 16.

I was born on the 7th.

Both my parents are ox years.

I am ox day.

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posted December 29, 2012 09:22 AM            

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Cool, what placements do you share with her?

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My mum and I both have Libra Mercuries, Sun/Jupiter conjunct (her's exact, mine widely), and Venus/S-turn trine. Other than those three things, she has a Pisces Mars and I have a 12H Mars, but that's kind of obscure and it just gets more obtuse from there hahaha!

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posted December 29, 2012 09:37 AM            

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Who was the primary influence on you? How much do you take after them?

I'd say its a tie between my mother and maternal grandmother. My mother and I both have Venus & Air in the first house, Earth ASC's, and cardinal/mutuable Suns & Moons. My grandmother and I share the sun/moon connection of gemini. My grandmother had more of a influence on me earlier on in life because when my parents were at work my grandmother watched me and taught me everything, how to cook, to sew and embroider, etiquette and to gamble
When I was older I spent more time with my mother who encouraged my intellectual and creative side.
My mother is very artistic and her father was also a artist during his day before he entered the military. So basically my love for art and abilities are genetic. I'd say I am a combination of them both my sassiness or tongue and cheek humor comes from my grandmother. My independent defiant nature comes from both my mother and grandmother.

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posted December 29, 2012 11:38 AM            

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Raised by my mom. Never met my father so don't know if I am like him. As I grow older, I notice that I'm becoming more & more like her. I'm starting to become aggressive. She's scary at times...You better give back her money on time or else. She's pretty much a fighter in life & she never plays the victim, which I admire. My grandma is also like that aggressive & sometimes violent. Passed down from generation to generation..,What we have in common:
- erratic behaviour & crazy mood swings
- hot temper
- both independent
In synastry our mars are exactly conjunct at 0 degrees.

I wish I got her looks though...Damn genetics. Oh and I wish I could cook like her but I can't even cook to save my life. She's also a clean freak, sometimes I wonder if she has OCD. I on the other hand am the messy type of girl. She's the housewife type, I want to be more of a career woman. I vow to hire a cook when I grow up & a cleaning lady. I aint't got time to be a housewife.

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posted December 29, 2012 11:48 AM            

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Probably my Grandmother more so than my parents, who split up then got back together.

Though moms was psychic pisces so it left me with a taste for that sort of view on life

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posted December 31, 2012 01:05 PM            

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I don't think I'm much like either of my parents, yet I have my mother's rising sign and my dad's moon sign so obviously I've got something in common with them lol.

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posted December 31, 2012 04:49 PM            

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I don't know the specifics of my dad's chart, but I know he's a Sag, and as I have a lot of Sag in my chart I think that helps us relate somewhat. Both of us can be blunt, getting downright snarky when exasperated, though we both are fine with the other being blunt, even snarky, to the other (we prefer it actually, which means we can relax and be ourselves around each other, even if it's very rare for us to get together in the first place). And both of us get along best with Mom when getting intoxicated with her. That's about all we have in common (though I inherited a touch of red hair from him, me being strawberry blonde and Mom being platinum blonde, with red & brown hair dominating on Dad's side and blond on my Mom's side).

Mom and I have little in common, though interesting enough we both share a Leo ascendant but manifest it in different ways. For example, at age 5 I cleverly made my own breakfast for myself and that set me on the path to being independent (my Sag energy no doubt helps with that) and finding power in myself whereas Mom found she could use cuteness and later seduction to get others to do her bidding, so her power came in manipulating others who hold the real power (in her view). And perhaps that's why she's so proud to have been a model, a declaration of her beauty and thus power whereas an independent soul like me finds the treatment she endured submitting to others degrading. But I think it also allowed her to prove her iron will and self-control to herself by enduring the shoots and crappy attitude problems of her bosses, and thus another form of control in her chaotic life. In either case, we both can be very proud, yet it's interesting in how what we take pride in such a radically different way and actually cringe in imagining ourselves as living like the other.

Interesting enough I got along with my granny and a cousin whom Granny raised along with me, both Aries...and both of them seem to like me better than they do each other, and one thing that infuriated my Aries cousin was when Granny would leave me in charge while she was gone as I "had better sense" and he was a 17-year-old guy while I was a 14-year-old girl. To this day I get along with both of them very well, and there are some interesting parallels between my life and Granny's that are strange.

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posted January 02, 2013 08:02 PM            

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For all intents and purposes, my paternal grandfather was my father. He raised me and I'm a lot like him-which is a good thing. Without him I would never have known-never mind seen the other side of the coin, the one that showed how to live your life as a responible adult. The one who taught me respect is earned by treating others with respect and thinking about other's well being as well as your own. He's the one who taught me when you make a promise to someone you keep it. He was a great person and it's becuase of him I'm sure there are people out there who don't suck. I'm not as wonderful as he was but I think I carry on his legacy pretty well.

He was an Aquarius sun Taurus moon, pisces chiron. I don't have his time of birth.

I'm taurus rising, virgo sun, pisces moon

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posted January 02, 2013 09:25 PM            

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Physically and personality-wise, I'm more like my mom. My siblings always say how much I act like her. XD My mom outrightly denies it (dunno why) but clearly, I am a spiced up photocopy of her XD

She was a huge bookworm back when she was my age and also loved to write. She's headstrong and possesses a LOT of willpower. She has a super bad temper and a sharp tongue, which I also got from her (well, only the temper though. My sister inherited her tongue XD) She likes our house neat and orderly and she would usually nag if she sees anything in disarray. i used to be like that but my lazy bum self got the better of me but I'm the more OC one compared to my siblings.

My mom's not too demonstrative of her affections but I do know she cares about us a lot because if she didn't, she would have left a long time ago.

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posted January 02, 2013 09:56 PM            

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She's headstrong and possesses a LOT of willpower. She has a super bad temper and a sharp tongue, which I also got from her (well, only the temper though. My sister inherited her tongue XD) She likes our house neat and orderly and she would usually nag if she sees anything in disarray.

My mom's not too demonstrative of her affections but I do know she cares about us a lot because if she didn't, she would have left a long time ago.

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Omg haha that sounds EXACTLY like my mom! My mom is definitely a powerful, boss lady type of mom. She freaks out if I leave a stain on my clothes, kitchen, etc. And she also has a bad temper, which can sometimes be embarrassing especially when she makes a scene in public.

My mom is also the type who doesn't show emotions.I'm fine with that, I don't like cheesy emotions (puke). She has sacrificed alot for me, she moved out of Asia alone,leaving family behind just so I can have a better life. She doesn't give me hugs & we don't exchange 'I love you's' but I do know that she cares. She shows it by her cooking & providing me with material security. She sometimes buys expensive stuff for me just so I won't experience the poverty she experienced when she was young.

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posted January 02, 2013 10:14 PM            

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Omg haha that sounds EXACTLY like my mom! My mom is definitely a powerful, boss lady type of mom. She freaks out if I leave a stain on my clothes, kitchen, etc. And she also has a bad temper, which can sometimes be embarrassing especially when she makes a scene in public.

My mom is also the type who doesn't show emotions.I'm fine with that, I don't like cheesy emotions (puke). She has sacrificed alot for me, she moved out of Asia alone,leaving family behind just so I can have a better life. She doesn't give me hugs & we don't exchange 'I love you's' but I do know that she cares. She shows it by her cooking & providing me with material security. She sometimes buys expensive stuff for me just so I won't experience the poverty she experienced when she was young.

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Same here! I'm happy that she cooks for us and I do love her cooking She and my dad are partners in the kitchen (though they don't admit it because they have completely opposite styles when running the kitchen and that causes a banter between them). They both can cook and it's sad I never inherited that talent XD

What's your mom's sign btw?

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posted January 04, 2013 09:21 AM            

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Originally posted by RedScorp:
Who was the primary influence on you? How much do you take after them?

So is which parent/guardian do you take after? How so? Why?

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LOL.. you've posted about your parents as well.

I take mostly after my mother in terms of our thought processes and ideaology; she spent the most time raising me while dad worked a lot of the time when I was growing up. I have my dad's personality and determination though - he is gentler in dealing with people, and is undeterred by time or discomfort when it comes to working toward a goal.

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