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FireMoon
Knowflake Posts: 610
From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted January 10, 2013 05:41 AM
  
Afraid of turning into my parents to be completely honest. Can anyone else relate to repeating the mistakes of your parents or worrying that you will? *edit IP: Logged |
Hera
Moderator Posts: 5006
From: the OR
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 10, 2013 07:59 AM
Hell, yes. I think most of the self-aware people are worried they might repeat their parents' mistakes or become them. They're also the ones who generally break the vicious circle. Family lines can hold a lot of abuses, addictions, negative programming and sometimes it is hard to break free from them. However, in my case at least, I think there has been a little bit of improvement with each generation. While I know that I won't repeat the bad stuff, the abuses, the manipulations and such, there are things that are so deeply ingrained in me that sometimes are very hard to shake, like my father's escapism and fear of success or my mother's rigid narrow mindedness, poor appearance and overall self-respect. These are still things I need to work on.. I think though a big part of the process is acceptance and forgiveness. They say we understand better when we become parents ourselves. Maybe, maybe not. I am not perfect and of course I will make mistakes. But I think we gained a valuable awareness by witnessing our parents' mistakes and would probably pay more attention to many other little and big things that they didn't. People have more knowledge and awareness about family and child psychology nowadays and are more inclined to protect our future generations from psychological damage than they were in the past. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 4511
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted January 10, 2013 08:23 AM
Oh hell yeah. Excuse my language. Too many things to mention, and some too sensitive to mention.IP: Logged |
sand
Knowflake Posts: 9314
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Registered: May 2011
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posted January 10, 2013 08:30 AM
I have Saturn in Scorpio opposite my sun. I think sex is/ was very sacred to me that it be to only one person because my parents divorced because of infidelity. I think I'm doing well in that regard but I understand him astrologically and as I grow older. We are very alike. The hedonism is the commonality between sag and taurus. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 868
From: charlotte, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted January 10, 2013 08:02 PM
Well, leave it to me to be a bit unconventional however:If one wishes to not be like ones parents, one should never consider how they did things. It's the old scientific study dictum: "When you study a thing it changes you and you change it" What happens is, those experiences, from ones' parents, become the view of life, "they did this and it was bad, they also did this and that was good" In essence, one takes on their forms instead of creating your own form, and thus, your own terms for life. IP: Logged | |
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