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Topic: Oh dear, Mars in Capricorn - Into cruelty and sex someone help!!!
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Cynnared
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posted November 09, 2011 12:48 AM
  
This is a freaky sounding thread. I am the owner of a strong Mars in Cappy in the 8th and there is none of that stuff going on with me. Cruelty and rough sex I find repulsive and pretty hard to stomach. I'm about as plain and boring as missionary style and could live life as a celibate.I agree with an above poster - this cruel and strange sex is not normal and be careful. Though it sounds like a BSDM think where they have a chamber downstairs set up with unusual sex toys and set ups...... IP: Logged |
scrappydog
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posted November 09, 2011 01:39 AM
I'm more concerned with what aspects would make a man sexually agressive than just the sign. Curiously I've known several men with closr mars-venus aspects that were Horribly passive during sex, boring! I read that venus can overpower and "dilute" the mars aggressiveness. All three had the conjunction. I had a mars, sun, nept closely conj in scorpio that was probably the best sex of my life. Mars-pluto can definately be agg. I wonder about mars-uranus? I have this one and I enjoy it.IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 09, 2011 02:47 AM
Cynnred - quote:
not normal
Really? According to..... who exactly? A lot of people are into aggressive things sexually. It's not uncommon by any means. quote:
Cruelty and rough sex
Well most things described here really wouldn't seem so cruel to a majority of people imo.. Maybe the choking thing is taboo -- but not so much the other things.
I mean, if this is not your thing - that's fine... but to call it abnormal is going overboard. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted November 09, 2011 02:49 AM
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Originally posted by Malena:
Wow!! I am a Mars Capricorn (female) and I love being choked, held down, muffled. I've never tried doing it to a guy but I wouldn't be averse. I'm not really into pain itself, it's the control/struggle aspect that really turns me on. Like the greater the struggle, the more satisfying the release. I don't like "submitting" to my partner right off the bat, I like it when he sort of holds me down and EARNS my submission.Obviously this is all IF I trust the person... I would be upset if a guy just did some weird violent thing out of nowhere, or did something I specifically told him not to, or wouldn't stop if I asked. I don't automatically consider it abusive to slap or choke during sex if it's what both partners want to do. What is abusive to me is doing something you know your partner is not OK with. But that can take a lot of forms, even "vanilla" sex.
Very well said, if two people mutually want to play out a fantasy or like certain kinky things its their right to play out those fantasies and kinky things with each other.... I think the media portrays america as very sexual but in actuality america is pretty repressed. The media is an example of availability heuristics not of the actual state of Americans and their sexuality.... and why are so many Americans repressed? bc they are taught since little that sex is dirty and should only be done for procreation and once you are married. Conditioning people to think this way makes it easy to keep the masses under control. We are conditioned to obey and follow the status quo and NOT TO QUESTION. This is why the economy is in such a whole and it will get worst as the masses continue to stay sleep. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 09, 2011 02:49 AM
I think some of you girls are imagining a nasty, aggressive, mean spirited jerk.... when in reality I would only have sex with my best friend - whether we do it aggressively or otherwise.I only have sex with someone when I love and trust them - but the "style" and what turns us on... that is up to our individual preference. Rough sex is *HOT* - It feels FREE and natural to me.. and very animalistic...
There is nothing about it I find strange or scary. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 09, 2011 02:51 AM
amelia - quote:
Very well said, if two people mutually want to play out a fantasy or like certain kinky things its their right to play out those fantasies and kinky things with each other....
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amelia28
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posted November 09, 2011 02:51 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
I only have sex with someone when I love and trust them - but the "style" and what turns us on... that is up to our individual preference. Rough sex is *HOT* - It feels FREE and natural to me.. and very animalistic...
There is nothing about it I find strange or scary.
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lindisfarne
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posted November 09, 2011 03:21 AM
Why are people trying to compare kink to something unhealthy and abnormal?Whats abnormal about playing out each others sexual fanatasies? nobody is getting hurt here, is mutual. How exacty is that abnormal, and/or unhealthy? :P IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted November 09, 2011 09:08 AM
I'm personally a big fan of Mars in Cap. It beats Mars in Scorpio IMO (the only 2 Marses I had the pleasure of experiencing with). My last 2 boyfriends had Mars in Cap, oddly around the same spot, 20-22 deg, conj my Asc and trine my Venus in Taurus. The attraction was ELECTRIC, magnetic, call it whatever you like, it was insane. Both dominant types, a bit into rough sex, but nothing of the sorts described here. But then again I only slept with one of them (first one, the Bull), once. Perhaps if we would have stayed together longer, similar stuff would have come into the open. Last bf, the Sag, was def dominant type, but confessed he'd also like to be dominated and this only stroke him with me, he wasn't like this with his previous lovers. But then again, I'm Aries Mars.  It's a shame we never got to that part, I think the sex would've been amazing. Question: are the Cap Marses you know into anal? Or what aspects/placements make one into that? IP: Logged |
hannarama
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posted November 09, 2011 09:51 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Okay I really get shy talking about my sex life so I'll keep it short lol.I don't know if it's just my boyfriend or if anyone can explain this to me I hope someone else has had this experience... But as my guy and I become more and more sexually intimate I have noticed a few alarming things. I'm not sure if he is noticing it or not maybe he enjoys the sex a little too much and gets carried away, or he just completely lets go and fulfills all his fantasies and sexual desires with me I don't really freaking know but he started choking me! It was like a violent type of thing... to be honest is turned me on so fast. I'm actually really into that Stuff but I'm way too coy to just come up and admit it. He also seems love grabbing and smacking and slapping, which I don't mind it's like he is kind of reading my mind here LOL I really love that kind of stuff I hope no one here thinks that's weird but i realy am. He seems to really love choking me though. My mars opposes his Cap Mars, mine being in Cancer. I will literally do anything he wants/asks when it comes to sex, I'm very submissive. So are Cap placements just into some type of cruelty with sex? Or is it just mine? One of my friends dated a guy with Mars in cap and she told me some weird stories about how he just loved being very dominant in the bedroom and loved control... so any insight here haha! Also is anyone else into this stuff?
If that's you being shy I can't imagine the stories you have when you're not! Also, this would scare the **** out of me. Also, I have Mars in Gemini. In the 12th - which kind of sucks. IP: Logged |
Cynnared
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posted November 09, 2011 02:32 PM
This Mars in Cap in not into anal.....I don't like the feel of it and it was a downer - every time I farted it felt like I crapped myself. quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
I'm personally a big fan of Mars in Cap. It beats Mars in Scorpio IMO (the only 2 Marses I had the pleasure of experiencing with). My last 2 boyfriends had Mars in Cap, oddly around the same spot, 20-22 deg, conj my Asc and trine my Venus in Taurus. The attraction was ELECTRIC, magnetic, call it whatever you like, it was insane. Both dominant types, a bit into rough sex, but nothing of the sorts described here. But then again I only slept with one of them (first one, the Bull), once. Perhaps if we would have stayed together longer, similar stuff would have come into the open. Last bf, the Sag, was def dominant type, but confessed he'd also like to be dominated and this only stroke him with me, he wasn't like this with his previous lovers. But then again, I'm Aries Mars. It's a shame we never got to that part, I think the sex would've been amazing. Question: are the Cap Marses you know into anal? Or what aspects/placements make one into that?
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Betty Boop
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posted November 09, 2011 02:46 PM
Did you use lots of lube? It shouldn't be *that* bad ^
Hera - Sag&Scorpio influence = Extra into anal!
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 09, 2011 02:51 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Question: are the Cap Marses you know into anal? Or what aspects/placements make one into that?
This Mars in Capricorn does not stick his ying yang up where its not intended to go. To each their own. Whatever you choose isn't my business. So, no one tells me what to think because its none of your business. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted November 09, 2011 04:14 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Did you use lots of lube? It shouldn't be *that* bad ^
Hera - Sag&Scorpio influence = Extra into anal!
Figures! Ex was Sag Sun with Scorpio Asc. Cap Mars too, but I guess it didn't come from there. IP: Logged |
Cynnared
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posted November 09, 2011 04:57 PM
I don't have to explain myself to you. Way it goes now. Logically it would be saner to agree to disagree and move on with it okay. quote:
Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Cynnred - Well most things described here really wouldn't seem so cruel to a majority of people imo.. Maybe the choking thing is taboo -- but not so much the other things.
I mean, if this is not your thing - that's fine... but to call it abnormal is going overboard.
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Betty Boop
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posted November 09, 2011 07:09 PM
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. Logically it would be saner to agree to disagree and move on with it okay.
Did it seem like I wanted to do something other than this?
lol You don't have to explain yourself at all when it comes to your own decisions in life.. But when you were saying it is not "normal" -- it didn't sound like "not normal FOR you personally" -- but rather "not normal" - generally... as though everyone should conform to your version of normality. But maybe I misinterpreted ^ I don't have the time right now to go searching for statistics.. but all I was saying is -- I'm positive 'rough sex' is not at all uncommon or rare.
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could live life as a celibate.
I'm the same. There is only one guy in the whole world who I actually have a desire to have sex with. Otherwise I am really not interested. And I can easily never have sex to him either, because my imagination can be self-satisfying (Mars/Nept).
However - when/if I do have sex... I'd prefer it to be my idea of GOOD sex - which is *rough*.
Vanilla/missionary etc... does not turn me on in the slightest. I had to reply to this.. because I felt like you were saying that people who like rough sex - are necessarily strongly into sex and want to have sex all the time... which is the opposite of me. I don't have a strong sex drive. IP: Logged |
Tanya0510
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posted January 29, 2013 05:55 AM
I have my Mars, Saturn & MC all conjunct in Cancer & I like rough sex, the tying up, spanking... but no choking! Maybe its cuz I'm a Taurus with venus in Taurus.. leave our throats alone! lol!IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted January 29, 2013 06:40 AM
Interesting..I dated a Sun/Mars/Asc in Taurus and he liked being choked. He also had a sexy neck, and I -never- thought I'd say that about anyone again. Then met another man with same. Also Mars in Taurus ^_^ Both trine my Venus. Figures.IP: Logged |
peregrine
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posted January 29, 2013 06:55 AM
I like choking and I am a Taurus sun. Pretty much any position where you hold on tight and go hard. Choking and kissing too I like. IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 29, 2013 09:04 AM
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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
Why, just because they don't fit your idea of what a libido and sexual activity should be? What if I did that to you? Actually, let me do it so you know what it feels like : I'd argue that anyone who actually gets off on being physically and verbally ABUSED during the sexual act, probably has more 'issues' than someone who just isn't that into sex or abstains from it because of their personal faith.This world is warped anyway - it's so preoccupied with rutting that anyone who actually has anything else on their mind or isn't always on their back, is seen as frigid, repressed or abnormal in some way.
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 29, 2013 09:09 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Regardes,You are religious, you don't want to be in a relationship or want to have sex. Have you ever been attracted to the idea of becoming a monk or a nun? Amelia
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Cynnared
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posted January 29, 2013 11:32 AM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Okay I really get shy talking about my sex life so I'll keep it short lol.I don't know if it's just my boyfriend or if anyone can explain this to me I hope someone else has had this experience... But as my guy and I become more and more sexually intimate I have noticed a few alarming things. I'm not sure if he is noticing it or not maybe he enjoys the sex a little too much and gets carried away, or he just completely lets go and fulfills all his fantasies and sexual desires with me I don't really freaking know but he started choking me! It was like a violent type of thing... to be honest is turned me on so fast. I'm actually really into that Stuff but I'm way too coy to just come up and admit it. He also seems love grabbing and smacking and slapping, which I don't mind it's like he is kind of reading my mind here LOL I really love that kind of stuff I hope no one here thinks that's weird but i realy am. He seems to really love choking me though. My mars opposes his Cap Mars, mine being in Cancer. I will literally do anything he wants/asks when it comes to sex, I'm very submissive. So are Cap placements just into some type of cruelty with sex? Or is it just mine? One of my friends dated a guy with Mars in cap and she told me some weird stories about how he just loved being very dominant in the bedroom and loved control... so any insight here haha! Also is anyone else into this stuff?
I have Mars in Cap and I am about as boring as a nun having sex - plain boring missionary style. What you have described, I have not seen it - and my Mars is afflicted. but I am a female too, but still with this placement - no happening here. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted January 29, 2013 11:51 AM
I don't think its bdsm is abnormal and I have mars trine saturn. I don't mind this kind of ruff housing, I think its fun sometimes. Maybe Op can dominate him or try and choke him and take control. Honestly I hate when people just lay there, do something or gtfo.
Actually I have to find some mars in capricorn natives for myself.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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posted January 29, 2013 12:07 PM
shoot, this thread is pretty intense, freaky and again freaky, at least some responses sounded freaky to me but then my mars is in Virgo. Prudish, awkward virgo. IP: Logged |
AriesKat
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posted January 29, 2013 01:06 PM
Mars in Cap here and I love this kind of sex....I like to feel like the guy is taking me and there's a bit of struggle to get in my panties......grabbing, spanking, choking all in all rough sex. It's fun and more satisfying IMO IP: Logged |
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