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peregrine Knowflake Posts: 1890 From: sand castle Registered: Apr 2012	posted February 19, 2013 08:48 AM quote: Originally posted by bridgetostars23: Something about elegant reminds me of being told, "that isn't ladylike" constantly when I was little and sometimes even today haha and it really bothering me....so....I guess I have a negative connotation associated with it. yes there's a lot of that not farting in public shtick. IP: Logged
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 1890 From: sand castle Registered: Apr 2012	posted February 19, 2013 08:52 AM 1. Send thank you notes 2. Practice good posture 3. Speak more softly 4. Listen without interrupting 5. Wear solid colours 6. Ignore fads, or use them sparingly 7. Have a signature wine that you serve at home 8. Wear only 2-3 accessories 9. Have impeccable manners 10. Read on a variety of topics 11. Maintain a budget 12. Study the arts 13. Have one signature perfume/cologne 14. Show restraint in expressing anger 15. Learn the art of conversation 16. Learn French 17. Wear a trench coat 18. Learn how to wear a scarf 19. Wear a tuxedo, when one is called for 20. Practice quality over quantity 21. Don’t yell or scream 22. Learn to dance the waltz 23. Have one fabulous signature meal you serve guests 24. Remember birthdays 25. Go on picnics 26. Wear dresses/suits more often, and on dates 27. Simplify your life, your home and your calendar 28. Wear pearls 29. Open the door for ladies 30. Let him open the door for you 31. Remember that it’s more important to be kind than it is to be right 32. Serve coffee or tea after meals 33. Arrive exactly on time 34. Don’t complain 35. Dress to travel 36. Be well travelled 37. If you’re a women, don’t wear black shoes between Memorial Day and Labor Day…wear spectator pumps instead 38. Keep your home clean and uncluttered 39. When guests stay over, put a small pitcher and glass for water on their nightstand, along with a book they might enjoy 40. Learn how to host a small dinner party 41. Have one subdued solid colour scheme throughout your home, use accessories to add colour 42. Learn how to make the perfect martini 43. Learn how to tie both a regular tie and a bow tie (whether you’re a man or a woman) 44. Be a lady or a gentleman at work, especially when delivering a difficult message or when tempers flare 45. Wear lovely/handsome hats 46. Don’t point out the mistakes of others 47. Wait your turn patiently 48. Don’t curse 49. Chew each bite 20 times 50. Sip your drink 51. Learn proper etiquette for all situations 52. Accept compliments graciously 53. Be quietly self confident 54. Don’t boast 55. Be respectful of others 56. Have fresh flowers in your home 57. Write a letter rather than send an email to those you love 58. Keep your nails well manicured 59. Maintain your shoes and clothing 60. Don’t ever lose your joie de vivre 61. Be well groomed 62. Remember that money does not equal elegance, nor is it necessary to be elegant 63. Wear less make-up 64. Wear well-fitting clothes 65. Spray lavender on your sheets 66. Be positive 67. Learn to politely say no 68. Be concerned with making others feel comfortable 69. Maintain good health 70. Don’t overindulge 71. Hold yourself to high standards 72. Turn your mobile off at dinner 73. Wear simple, classic hairstyles 74. Think before you speak or act. Ask yourself, can anything good come from this? 75. Apoligize sincerely 76. Have integrity 77. Don’t speak ill of others, or gossip 78. Always take a gift to your host or hostess 79. Tie a scarf on your handbag 80. Take a clutch in the evening 81. Wear well fitting jeans with either a long sleeve white shirt or solid sweater for more casual events 82. Only wear sneakers for exercise 83. Use white sheets, white towels, white dishes 84. Be sure your clothes are pressed 85. Your car’s horn should say “pardon me, but do you see me?”, rather than “get out of my way!” 86. Overdo empathy 87. Light candles in your home 88. Go for walks in the park on Sunday 89. Give others sincere compliments 90. Understand your own worth 91. Learn how to open a bottle of champagne 92. Dress appropriately for the occasion 93. Do small favours for others, without expecting anything in return 94. Say please and thank you 95. Take the time to stop and listen to others, especially children 96. Take responsibility for yourself and your own happiness 97. Keep a journal 98. Give thoughtful gifts, rather than expensive ones 99. Less is more 100. Savour the moment IP: Logged
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 1890 From: sand castle Registered: Apr 2012	posted February 19, 2013 08:53 AM ^idk what to think about that. i scream and chew each bite 2x. IP: Logged
piscesfishgoddess Knowflake Posts: 169 From: Australia Registered: Feb 2013	posted February 19, 2013 09:45 AM Edit - removing troll comment. IP: Logged
sweet-scorpion Knowflake Posts: 1387 From: PA, USA Registered: Apr 2012	posted February 19, 2013 04:02 PM Elegant. I'm a Libra Sun and despite my Scorpio Venus-Jupiter conjunction I simply strive to be elegant and refined, versus smoldering 'sexy'. Although I do wear leather a lot... but that isn't that un-elegant right? Darn that Scorp Venus... IP: Logged
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2325 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012	posted February 19, 2013 05:04 PM Sexy. When I think elegant I think Gwyneth Paltrow. When I think sexy I think Jennifer Lopez. It's a no-brainer. IP: Logged
Lazyscarecrow Knowflake Posts: 1200 From: Silent Hill Registered: Aug 2011	posted February 19, 2013 05:07 PM I can relate to a lot of what you said, bridgetostars. About not really getting the whole fashion thing and being "lady-like" in some terms. I'm really not sure. Most people would want to be sexy. I don't like being objectified but the more life goes on the more I realize that people will always be objectified/judged one way or another... elegance is something I definitely don't have and could probably benefit me. Maybe I'll choose elegance this time. IP: Logged
ail221 Moderator Posts: 3224 From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home Registered: Feb 2012	posted February 19, 2013 05:30 PM Elegant. Gemini venus IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 40040 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted February 19, 2013 06:17 PM Sexy. I already know I am smart ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
Lexxigramer Moderator Posts: 1719 From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Feb 2012	posted February 19, 2013 07:49 PM Elegant IP: Logged
lilithpluto Knowflake Posts: 1764 From: pluto Registered: Dec 2011	posted February 20, 2013 11:14 AM Elegant. IP: Logged
Faith Knowflake Posts: 3971 From: Registered: Jul 2011	posted February 20, 2013 02:13 PM I think elegance without sexiness is possible. But sexiness without elegance is impossible. If you try to be sexy, but you have no elegance, you just look cheap or ridiculous IMO. So I would choose sexy, which includes elegance. IP: Logged
SaturnineMoth Knowflake Posts: 2008 From: Gaea's Omphalos Registered: Aug 2012	posted February 20, 2013 02:35 PM Elegant. elegance can always be sexy. sexiness is not always elegant. it's quite simple really... Lindsey Lohan may be sexy (let's give her the benefit of the doubt here, maybe 95% of the time she "can" be sexy) but, the real Elisabeth Taylor... that is elegant... THAT is sexy... "Snooki" can be sexy.... compare... Halle Berry can wear a trashbag... and still look elegant... and sexy... ---- sexy works for strippers... elegance for models... note not a size issue there are just are sexy plus size strippers.... and elegant plus size models to be sure. the woman who looks like a stripper-sexy, is less likely to be brought "home to mama", less likely to land a "upper-level/higher respected/paying" position in vocations, and less likely to be taken seriously by the world at large... than the woman who looks elegant. ~confidence can be found in both sexy women (as in those who desire/portray one of these looks as a standard), and elegant women equally, I believe.. but the world around them will appreciate that confidence differently... and so, appraise their sexiness/elegance differently... right!? as for gender equality... /sigh women are so forgiving... and "man"kind is so much kinder to its brother... it's hard to make an accurate example. ~ such is the world we live in.... a man's appearance is not as important as a woman's unfortunately, but it's truth... unless he is going for a position of some authority/consequence... he can look haggard and hellish, or dignified and handsome, or anything in between, however he wishes, so long as he's wearing a shirt, trousers, and shoes... he'll have the upperhand no matter which "look" he goes for. :/ anyway - it's all personal preference, in general... neeee? I vote elegant. ^^ IP: Logged
T Knowflake Posts: 8506 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted February 20, 2013 02:40 PM Faith & Saturnine YOu said it better than I did. IP: Logged
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 1890 From: sand castle Registered: Apr 2012	posted February 20, 2013 05:40 PM -_- IP: Logged
Dreaming111 Knowflake Posts: 1405 From: Registered: Oct 2011	posted February 21, 2013 04:39 PM I pick elegant. Sexy generally doesnt give me an elegant vibe, but an elegance screams sexiness under control to me. lol I have never seen an elegant person who wasnt sexy to me. Btw, the British royal family in my opinion are trashy. I think they did a docu on them and it was proven that the throne is not legally theirs and was taken through cheating, manipulation and death. Im not surprised. The only two I like were Princess Di and Prince William (1983). IP: Logged
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1622 From: Registered: May 2012	posted February 21, 2013 05:11 PM Sand - are you saying you think you're not elegant? Personally I'm an actress at heart so if I need to be elegant and proper in some circumstancesI can do that and if I want to be totally sexy and out there in a different context, Ican do that as well.. Capricorn is all about timing.. There's a time and place for everything. I'm surprised you think you're not elegant though. I wouldn't have said that about you. You are definitely not the opposite of elegant:trashy lol you don't come across as that on LL. you're very calm,composed.. I get a calm, relaxed vibe - very Taurus like... I would say that's more on the elegant side. IP: Logged
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1622 From: Registered: May 2012	posted February 21, 2013 05:12 PM Edit dp IP: Logged
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 1890 From: sand castle Registered: Apr 2012	posted February 21, 2013 05:41 PM oh i do. but i don't have to put a lot of effort into it compared to sexy lol! or probably coz i don't think men with their huge a$$es and hairy arms are sexy at all. in theory i find it hard to do without taking clothes off. IP: Logged
Sailor Gemini Knowflake Posts: 51 From: Magellan Castle Registered: Mar 2013	posted March 07, 2013 05:54 PM What I can do with/without ease: 1. Send thank you notes; puh-lease 2. Practice good posture; who doesn't? 3. Speak more softly; everyone tells me to speak up... 4. Listen without interrupting; I always feel compelled to 5. Wear solid colours; always 6. Ignore fads, or use them sparingly; always do 8. Wear only 2-3 accessories; same 9. Have impeccable manners; my Mom was more on the stricted side 10. Read on a variety of topics; it's natural for me 11. Maintain a budget; NOOOOO! Aphrodite 2nd 12. Study the arts 14. Show restraint in expressing anger; I've felt like I wasn't supposed to be upset 16. Learn French; Is Spanish close? 20. Practice quality over quantity; Taurus ASC 21. Don’t yell or scream; It's a miracle when I do 24. Remember birthdays; I'm the only one who did 28. Wear pearls; Birthstone 30. Let him open the door for you; not at all hard 31. Remember that it’s more important to be kind than it is to be right; Again, I've felt compelled to 32. Serve coffee or tea after meals; always 33. Arrive exactly on time; never a moment late 43. Learn how to tie both a regular tie and a bow tie (whether you’re a man or a woman); no to the first 44. Be a lady or a gentleman at work, especially when delivering a difficult message or when tempers flare; so hard to do, but I manage 46. Don’t point out the mistakes of others; same as above 47. Wait your turn patiently; same as a few others 48. Don’t curse; never been a habit 50. Sip your drink; who doesn't? 52. Accept compliments graciously; Aphrodite Rx in Gemini... not so much 58. Keep your nails well manicured; everyone's jealous 59. Maintain your shoes and clothing 61. Be well groomed; much to everyone's annoyance 67. Learn to politely say no; sometimes I just can't 68. Be concerned with making others feel comfortable; always 70. Don’t overindulge; pretty hard... 71. Hold yourself to high standards; always have 82. Only wear sneakers for exercise; I comfortable shoes... 84. Be sure your clothes are pressed; always 95. Take the time to stop and listen to others, especially children; always 97. Keep a journal; I've tried 100. Savour the moment; it always annoyed everyone -------------------------------------------- sorry, I couldn't resist. Point is: elegant over sexy ------------------ Oh my Gods. IP: Logged

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