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Topic: For the sake of it, dating
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somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 627
From: a red, dead scorpion
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 12:51 AM
  
It's probably terrible, I know, I know. I probably get it from my mom, lol. She used to go through relationships, and people would even propose to her, she'd tell them to get real and keep the engagement rings lmfao!Your views? I used to date people with the knowledge I wasn't all too serious, or that I wasn't even intending on investing too much. I mean, I know myself, obviously, and you can generally tell what direction you want it to go in, no? But what do you do if you don't want the committed direction but still want the thrills and relationship-y fun? Personally, I guess I'm okay being a little bad that way (willing to be selfish, despite most likely ending up hurting someone). I suppose making my intent clear would have helped, but I was young and reckless, don't judge!
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6213
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 01:01 AM
I dont see a problem with it provided you make your intentions clear and the girl/guy is cool with it. some people can do and enjoy the casual dating thing and other prefer to keep it serious.IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 627
From: a red, dead scorpion
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 01:09 AM
^Very good! That's how I feel about it, now.  IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
Moderator Posts: 1847
From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 01:22 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I dont see a problem with it provided you make your intentions clear and the girl/guy is cool with it. some people can do and enjoy the casual dating thing and other prefer to keep it serious.
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Odette
Knowflake Posts: 1699
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Registered: May 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 01:26 AM
Honestly - I just don't care enough to do this.
I don't feel like it's something I need or want in my life.If it's not serious - it just seems kind of useless to me.. like a waste of my energy..? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 4150
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted March 15, 2013 01:51 AM
That's what I don't understand... it's probably my Moon trine Saturn and Moon opposition Pluto, Venus square Saturn talking (Oh, and let's not forget Saturn in the 7th) but how can two people who get along not go anywhere? If you get along, and you're happy spending time with each other...it just makes sense you'd fall in love, wouldn't it? I really want to understand the way that functions in some people. Like how you just wake up and choose who you want to love and who you don't.IP: Logged |
freebrainstorms
Knowflake Posts: 796
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 15, 2013 02:20 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Honestly - I just don't care enough to do this.
I don't feel like it's something I need or want in my life.If it's not serious - it just seems kind of useless to me.. like a waste of my energy..?
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SaturnineMoth
Knowflake Posts: 2046
From: Gaea's Omphalos
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 03:05 AM
I think I was more like Odette in my dating years, honestly. Can't really date now that I'm married (that might be difficult, eh)... but were I still free, had I not married... or were I to become free to date again... I don't think I'd be all too interested in lengthy relationships at all. Perhaps that's all my progressions playing out though. (Air certainly is less obsessed with settling into things, especially too early on.) Either way, I've come to value my freedom a lot more since being in two long term committed relationships, and having years of experience wasting time investing in things that didn't work out or last, or lasted but were unhealthy in the end; this has done a lot to change my perception and values... as does becoming a parent. I don't have to watch my biological clock anymore, and any of those ideals placed on me as a youth have already been met and dealt with in my eyes... ("young ladies grow up, marry, and have children" "peer pressures"- that societal nonsense)... so, I don't feel influenced by anything anymore to really be actively seeking commitment or partners in general. Dating changes when people mature~ older men and women are markedly different in approach, ambition, and expectation when they date compared to the younger dating population... guess, I've changed too. ^^ and, I gotta' say... it's pretty nice. lol
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Faith
Knowflake Posts: 4047
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted March 15, 2013 09:01 AM
^ Ditto to much of what Saturnine said. I wouldn't seek out a long term relationship if I were single again. I would try to remain single...though I wouldn't go dating, either...more messy and complicated than it's worth, IMO. Anyway, I've been drained from relationships for too long and independence would seem like a holiday. Of course, sometimes love just happens and takes people by storm. I don't know what I would do in that situation, but I wouldn't be as much of a fool as I was before; even though my Venus-Neptune conjunction will never go away, I've learned how to use my brain more, and I've learned how to read composite charts.  IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
Moderator Posts: 1847
From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted March 15, 2013 09:54 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Honestly - I just don't care enough to do this.
I don't feel like it's something I need or want in my life.If it's not serious - it just seems kind of useless to me.. like a waste of my energy..?
I agree with that for myself personally.
However if others want to play the non serious field;
as long as they are honest and upfront with others;
then I say OK for "them".
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PixieJane
Knowflake Posts: 1822
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted March 15, 2013 04:50 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I dont see a problem with it provided you make your intentions clear and the girl/guy is cool with it. some people can do and enjoy the casual dating thing and other prefer to keep it serious.
Saved me from having to say it. IP: Logged |
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