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Padre35
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posted April 05, 2013 11:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

For me, I tend to be able to generate trust and rapport with people.

IE, tend to make "friends" easily.

Often this means befriending couples, and as what happens..couples tend to fall apart.

As a "friend" though, one hates to see it, as they appeared from the outside to be doing quite well, then the bickering stage starts, then the relationship is really sorted out after the initial attraction is no longer novel.

On this I am torn, on the one hand things do tend to lose inertia and what made a good couple can lose steam, on the other hand I dislike seeing friends suffer from being apart.

Is it really worth it to interject oneself into such a situation, or is it better for all involved if one just stays out of it all?

Leo Moons, or so I've read, are something of homewreckers, and this I've been accused of, however my impulse is far far different.

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Lexxigramer
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posted April 05, 2013 11:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mutual friends of my previous marriages/relationships would eventually either stop being friends with any of us.
Just a kind of drifting away thing,
because they were friends with the "couples"
we were, not each individual.
Other ones were cool in that they came right out and said:
I am still your friend, I am still his friend;
I am not choosing sides.
Well sooner or later they do kind of gravitate away from one of the people from the previous couple unit and are closer to only one of them.
Big thing is;
do not choose sides unless one is an abusive nasty person and you know this personally, not via someone's "talk".
I hope that all made sense.

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Padre35
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posted April 06, 2013 12:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Made perfect sense Lexxi.

There is a dichotomy between "the good old days" and "..so what is happening now.."?

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Lexxigramer
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posted April 06, 2013 12:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Indeed.

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Faith
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posted April 06, 2013 06:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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