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Topic: Doomed from the start
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Hera
Knowflake Posts: 5756
From: Aries fantasy land ^_^
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 14, 2013 01:33 AM
  
You know those connections that seem doomed from the start? Like you talk to them and wonder what planet are they from. It's not that you have little in common, it's just that they have these little habits that are just so annoying and foreign to you it's just a matter of time before you go separate ways. I am mostly talking about romantic relationships, though I suppose it fits in other areas also. So there's this guy that initiated a conversation with me and I know it just won't go anywhere. He seems so childish and gives so much importance to things that I would ignore in a blink of an eye and insists on them too. Thing is, I initially gave him a free pass thinking I might be too selective at times but he is taking advantage of it and becoming more and more daring which I dislike. So now I am thinking I should have just rejected him from the start. Because now I'm going to have to do it and he'll think it's because he challenged me and I couldn't take it, when in fact I couldn't care less about what has him so worked up. Is it just me and my hermit ways at work here? I mean, some people just smooth over things like this because they're social creatures but I guess I really am that picky about my company. Ugh sometimes I think I'm going to grow into one of those old cat ladies. Without the cats, coz I work too much. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 4238
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted April 15, 2013 03:40 AM
Hi Hera  Long time no see!Yesss, I had this feeling with my closest Guy friend. We have...
Mars square Mars exact
Venus square Pluto exact
Sun square Venus DW (0-1degs)
Sun square Mars DW (1-2degs)
Venus square Mars DW exact
Mars-Pluto DW (0-1degs) I never believed in love-hate until I met him. Our friendship resembles the saying "you can't live with them, and can't live without them." The funny thing is I'm the one who always lashed out, like a school girl picking on her crush to get attention. The thing that irriated me the most about him was how romantic and flirtious he can be with someone and have absolutely no feelings behind it. The good part is he's very religious and dedicated to staying a virgin till marriage. So I guess the overly affectionate traits come from his Cancer/Leo mix.
However I couldn't control my jealously, so we stopped talking to eachother for 2 years. Recently he's been trying to contact me but I'm doing everything in my power to stay away. The problem is I hold the scorpio trait that relationships are all or nothing. I'm not the type of person who's romantic for the fun of it. So I know if I ever contacted him again nothing would change...our relationship was definitely doomed from the start lol.
I think it's wise to be picky, and not settle for what's there. Following the art of astrology, I would ask a psychic about your love life. Because honestly it seems no matter how many times we think we found "the one" there not. (What are the aspects you guys share btw?) IP: Logged |
Hera
Knowflake Posts: 5756
From: Aries fantasy land ^_^
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 15, 2013 07:14 AM
Wow, that's a lot of squares there, MF! I think it's good to be picky too, but I think in a way I take some things way too seriously. I should be more relaxed and laid back about them. Thing is, sometimes I am, when I am mostly in Aries/Sag mode. But then comes Cap/Sco combo and I am all dark and gloomy and withdrawn. I have no idea about my synastry with this guy, he approached me a couple of days ago so I don't even know his sign, but he insists on some spelling mistakes he thinks I made (I disagree) and I am thinking geez.. I'd rather stare at a blank wall than talk to him, because there's no much difference. Maybe he's a Virgo  . No, actually he couldn't be coz Virgos put their Suns in my 8th, nothing boring to me there. IP: Logged |
Moonfish
Moderator Posts: 4238
From: Tropical Ocean
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted April 15, 2013 02:57 PM
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Oh true  my second thought was that he might be a Gemini, but then his Sun would be in your 5H right? That's definitely not a boring placement either.
Hmmm, well by the look of it you guys might have a harsh aspect between Saturn-Mars (him being the mars person). The way you feel about him is exactly the way I feel about my cousin who's Mars opposites my Saturn.
I agree, it's good to relax sometimes and let things take there course. && Hey, at the end of the day you gave him a chance IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
Knowflake Posts: 1276
From: New England
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 15, 2013 11:26 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
Is it just me and my hermit ways at work here? I mean, some people just smooth over things like this because they're social creatures but I guess I really am that picky about my company.
As far as romantic relationships go, you've got to be discerning. I agree with you there. If it's doomed from the start, you quickly call it quits and move on. No point in wasting either of your time. I've been called picky many times when it comes to relationships. It's ok though, I've got Venus trine Saturn.  But when it comes to friendships, I try not to judge. I'm friendly to most people. It seems to me as though you're just going through a gloomy social period in your life. I think you need to find ways to make things better for yourself by focusing less on the personality hang ups of others and turning energy specifically to working on yourself. I mean that in the nicest possible way and it seems you've already started to do that by admitting you might be too picky. 2009 - 2011 were tough years for me socially. I had Saturn transiting through my 7th house (and then my 8th what a horror that was), right over my Sun. Most of my friendships (even childhood friendships I'd had for decades) fell apart. People I trusted turned their back on me and it happened simultaneously. It felt like the cosmos were punishing me. I had to learn what it meant to really enjoy my own company and it wasn't easy considering I'm a Libra lol. I was very pessimistic and critical of many people in my life during that time. Not to mention I was a bit of an emotional mess. But I tried to use that experience to better understand myself and my social needs as a person. I needed to have better relationships and friendships that were healthy, balanced and had depth. Losing all those friends was actually a good thing for me because those friendships weren't healthy and things needed to change. You mentioned that some people let things go because their social creatures, I don't think I agree with you there. I think they are aware of negative traits in others but they don't allow that to hold them back in making new friendships. No one is perfect and no one will ever live up to our own ideals of what it takes to be a good friend or person. You have to accept people the way they are. Near the end of my Saturn transit in 2012 I felt like I was back to my usual optimistic self again. All of a sudden I was open to connecting with people at work, with meeting new people. I still had my cautions and criticisms but they were no longer holding me back. I've made some incredible new friends and it's really helped having that support. My social circle is small, and the people in it aren't perfect. They can be shallow, selfish, irritating, warm, generous, funny, and inspiring. But they're good people, I wouldn't trade them for anything. Don't give up on the chance you'll find people to connect with whether in love or friendship. I really do think you're just going through a dreary period right now socially. You'll get through this. IP: Logged | |
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