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Topic: A question for women. Men are welcome here too.
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Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 11:22 AM
  
Women, have you ever made a move on a man? If no, what was the boldest thing you ever did in front of a man you liked? If yes, how did he react? Did you end up dating or not? Discuss.  IP: Logged |
Gemmy
Knowflake Posts: 424
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Registered: Oct 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 12:48 PM
Do you mean physical?I've never done that.But I did admit to being attracted to a guy once.When I first noticed him he had a gf,so I didn't tell him right away.After they broke-up I sent him an email.I didn't know him personally,just on fb.(I know a little crazy)  But he responded within 10 min.We text,spoke on the phone,and 3 days later met for the first time.(I know a little crazy)  . We've been on and off ever since.(This was Feb. of last year).But it's off for good now. Sorry if I didn't give a proper answer.But as someone with social anxiety/avoidance issues,this took a whole lotta guts. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 1246
From: walking with my head in the clouds!
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 12:54 PM
I love it when women make moves! It's so exciting! But then again, I prefer to be chased than to outright chase. IP: Logged |
mockingbird
Knowflake Posts: 1723
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posted June 10, 2013 01:18 PM
I asked him to the movies.
(We went and I got my first peek in a projection booth b/c he knew the manager.)Two weeks later, I asked him out for drinks.
(We went and ended up talking at a diner until the wee hours.) That same night, I asked if I could kiss him.
(We did after I explained what my friend had looked up regarding our university's policies regarding relationships.) We're married now (4 years) with an 11-month old daughter.
(She's napping  ) IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 01:34 PM
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Originally posted by Gemmy:
Do you mean physical?I've never done that.But I did admit to being attracted to a guy once.When I first noticed him he had a gf,so I didn't tell him right away.After they broke-up I sent him an email.I didn't know him personally,just on fb.(I know a little crazy) But he responded within 10 min.We text,spoke on the phone,and 3 days later met for the first time.(I know a little crazy) . We've been on and off ever since.(This was Feb. of last year).But it's off for good now. Sorry if I didn't give a proper answer.But as someone with social anxiety/avoidance issues,this took a whole lotta guts.
Wow, you have guts girl! <3
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Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 01:35 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
I love it when women make moves! It's so exciting! But then again, I prefer to be chased than to outright chase.
Somethingexcellent!!! Damn! IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 01:37 PM
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Originally posted by mockingbird:
I asked him to the movies.
(We went and I got my first peek in a projection booth b/c he knew the manager.)Two weeks later, I asked him out for drinks.
(We went and ended up talking at a diner until the wee hours.) That same night, I asked if I could kiss him.
(We did after I explained what my friend had looked up regarding our university's policies regarding relationships.) We're married now (4 years) with an 11-month old daughter.
(She's napping )
You're so lucky. The gem. I'm into (Who i work with) was also my professor a while back. >: ( I envy you!
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somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 1246
From: walking with my head in the clouds!
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 01:37 PM
Lmfao!!! WELL it could just be me because I don't like to make moves in general with anybody l o l. All my relationships past started because they were the first one to try something, I just helped them along. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 01:48 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
Lmfao!!! WELL it could just be me because I don't like to make moves in general with anybody l o l. All my relationships past started because they were the first one to try something, I just helped them along.
-__- Showoff!
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Hera
Knowflake Posts: 6011
From: Aries fantasy land ^_^
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 10, 2013 01:58 PM
I did make the move on the Taurus I was smitten with. He was just too good to pass. With my last relationships it just got easier and easier to make the first steps or state what I want/am into. Now that I'm in my 30s I suspect I won't have any problems at all with it. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 02:04 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
I did make the move on the Taurus I was smitten with. He was just too good to pass. With my last relationships it just got easier and easier to make the first steps or state what I want/am into. Now that I'm in my 30s I suspect I won't have any problems at all with it.
Taurus men are just yummy! How can Anyone pass on them?
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Hera
Knowflake Posts: 6011
From: Aries fantasy land ^_^
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 10, 2013 03:29 PM
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Originally posted by Pisces-Sweety:
Taurus men are just yummy! How can Anyone pass on them?
Haha, I know what you mean! But they're butt stubborn so I think I will, in the future. Too much fixed energy menotlikey. Tho they usually conjunct my Venus. Sigh. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 2006
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 03:41 PM
Well, this happens to me a ton.Not trying to be egocentric, what happens is the WIQ (women in question) winds up being excited to talk and it just builds from there INOW, I don't ask for phone numbers, the WIQ just give them to me..which tbh..I devalue. For myself, my #1 rule is...I have to like you, there is some quality aside from beauty that attracts me like a magnet. To be blunt, I have a high bar for being interested in someone so the first move won't help ime. There is a reason why I did not make the first move..unless of course it is just about sex for the moment. Astrology, quantum mechanics, last book you read, artistry, psychic, to me those are my sparks of interest IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 2364
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 03:47 PM
Idkk..
I don't mind, but I feel bad when I have to turn away more aggressive women I'm not attracted to because I know how sensitive they can be even if they have a lot of courage. With men they're always looking for ***** or ass. Women are different they probably genuinely like you. I usually go along with it and try to become their friends or act REALLLLLYYYYY gay.
LIKE OMG NICE LIP GLOSS, CORAL IS SO YOUR COLOR.
Nice mint clutch, GAGA CALLED IT HA. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 04:08 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Idkk..
I don't mind, but I feel bad when I have to turn away more aggressive women I'm not attracted to because I know how sensitive they can be even if they have a lot of courage. With men they're always looking for ***** or ass. Women are different they probably genuinely like you. I usually go along with it and try to become their friends or act REALLLLLYYYYY gay.
LIKE OMG NICE LIP GLOSS, CORAL IS SO YOUR COLOR.
Nice mint clutch, GAGA CALLED IT HA.
^^^^ Hahahahahahaha!! You killed me! IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 5294
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted June 10, 2013 04:11 PM
Well. I am more demure. I don't think I'm the type that makes "moves" beyond a simple smile. Ambivalence is a sign for me to move on.I'm not so sure I'm into aggressive moves by the other party either. Basically, I'll tell you if I'm interested. Don't mean to sound stuck up, but I pretty much am lol And don't mean to sound arrogant (but I don't blame you if you were to think so), but I had my choices when dating. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6731
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 05:04 PM
With men they're always looking for ***** or ass. Women are different they probably genuinely like you. [/B][/QUOTE]
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Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 2006
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted June 10, 2013 05:28 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Well. I am more demure. I don't think I'm the type that makes "moves" beyond a simple smile. Ambivalence is a sign for me to move on.I'm not so sure I'm into aggressive moves by the other party either. Basically, I'll tell you if I'm interested. Don't mean to sound stuck up, but I pretty much am lol And don't mean to sound arrogant (but I don't blame you if you were to think so), but I had my choices when dating.
B/c, YTA, you are a Man, not some gutter snipe begging for attention or a piece of ass. Ditto for me, I'm not strung out looking to sleep with someone. For women in this era, that just seems weird to them..as in "..I've been obvious why is he not trying to get into my pants.."? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6731
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 11, 2013 03:58 AM
Maybe its just the sh*tty luck I have had with women , but as a man I resent and hate the traditional " man does everything" courtship ritual. Why should I always have to stick my neck out there and risk rejection? Why should I always have to make all the moves? Why should I have to plan and pay for everything? Tbh I refuse to do this stuff now. So yes I am all for women making moves.IP: Logged |
Odette
Knowflake Posts: 2052
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Registered: May 2012
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posted June 11, 2013 04:28 AM
I don't like making moves or having someone put the moves on me.
The whole thing just puts me off.I only like people who can hang out with me and be friends first.. and then if I feel an attraction it turns into something more - but I can't stand things being romantic from the very beginning.
I just don't work that way. When it comes to befriending people - I make moves ALL the time daily.. I always and easily initiate conversations with people I don't know (male or female) and if I feel like they're my kind of person I ask them to go out with me and other friends - to watch a movie or have lunch etc. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 6731
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 11, 2013 04:52 AM
I don't know why people are soo opposed to women making moves.IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 633
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 11, 2013 06:50 AM
Aqua, don't be so pessimistic! Maybe you're approaching the wrong women. Pessimism won't get you anywhere, it'll just cause you to become bitter. IP: Logged |
Lunae
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted June 11, 2013 07:25 AM
I have never made any moves to a guy since our culture is more on the conservative side but I think that the boldest move I have ever made was to confess to the guy I liked. I did it twice to 2 different guys, but the other one turned out to he gay. Lol I wasn't expecting anything out of it because I know that they don't see me that way. It was to liberate myself from the feelings I've kept for a long time. Harboring a secret love is hard, you know.Of course since my life isn't a fairy tale, I was rejected. Lol I don't know, I just don't seem to have much luck with guys. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted June 11, 2013 07:27 AM
Honestly, after having had my share, the whole concept of "getting into pants" lost its lustre and stopped getting me truly excited. After a while, a woman is a woman, no matter how beautiful.Now, when my wife-to-be asked if she could not only go for a ride but take the wheel of my car, and then proceeded to showed me she could clutchless shift and left foot brake while working the turbo, that got me very excited indeed. IP: Logged |
Lunae
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posted June 11, 2013 07:29 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I only like people who can hang out with me and be friends first.. and then if I feel an attraction it turns into something more - but I can't stand things being romantic from the very beginning.
I just don't work that way.
Same here, but I don't want to put an 'only'to it. I tend to be attracted with the 'friends first' method, though. I want to get to know someone better before I can be sure of how I feel. IP: Logged |
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