posted July 04, 2013 01:18 AM            

I'm just curious and want to hear your opinions.

posted July 04, 2013 01:27 AM            

Cap rising, Saturn in the 7th.

posted July 04, 2013 01:32 AM            

Helping someone who has hurt or caused me harm in the past.

I like helping people by staying in the shadows, if I know they need help, I don't like showing my hand when am helping them. Am uncomfortable when they express gratitude. I don't know how to react.

posted July 04, 2013 02:04 AM            

I believe that people whose disposition are kind as I defined it are rare, but so are those who practice habitual cruelty (at least as long as they don't have a way to get away with it, such as the unofficial license some cops seem to have at it). I don't mean to include selfish behavior which seeks its own advantage in either kindness and/or cruelty as the behavior (good or bad) is incidental (that is a kind person has a pattern acting that way out of genuine warmth for people or animals while a cruel person does so out of malice, but a selfish person is just being utilitarian be it to do good deeds and keep one's word to maintain personal reputation and put others in debt, or cruel to get ahead for self or someone close, but it's no more personal than a game of volleyball to them).

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Am I kind? I believe so, at least I have that side of me, because I've repeatedly helped people when no one else would and often didn't even consider it a bother, and also people who aren't there such as when I went back to a park with a hammer to make sure no one was harmed by a nail or when I stopped to pick up tacks some cruel person left behind on a bike path rather than riding around them. I once resolved NOT to clean up some broken glass if the people living there weren't going to do it but I finally did it as I was worried of animals getting it in the paws and then swallowing it when they licked it off. I could fill pages of examples of this.

I often do things anonymously, too. For example, when I bought things badly needed by someone the victim of cruelty and about to lose her cat, I was very sneaky about it as I didn't want her to know it was me, partially as I didn't want her to treat me like a sap she could then try to take advantage of or otherwise rely on (my charity tends to be random and fickle and often based on how I'm doing right then, I take care of me and mine first before worrying about others), because I didn't want her to feel embarrassed for having accepted my charity, and most of all I didn't want her afraid of the "hidden price tags" of fake kindness that is more common than true kindness.

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However, others disagree with that assessment, mostly for bad reasons, such as I'm not the sucker they identify me as when they observe such kindness. So many examples I have of that, too.

Also, many don't appreciate my Sag honesty (and often take it personally when that's not how it's intended, and even have a harder time shaking it off than I do when I'm maliciously insulted). Though thing is, I frequently DO hold back what I'm thinking (especially offline with people I don't know well and yet depend on for things like my livelihood or coexisting peacefully with neighbors).

posted July 04, 2013 12:20 PM            

I find that there's a severe lack of kindness in our world, so when someone is actually genuinely kind - caring, and honest.. it makes me want to cry, no joke.

Whenever I read about people who do random acts of kindness and help others just for the sake of helping them, it makes my heart ache because it moves me so much.

I always try to be kind to people - treat them with respect and honesty.

There are times when being kind is very difficult.. But to me, it's one of the greatest qualities one can have, and everyone should cultivate it.

posted July 05, 2013 03:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Helping someone without expecting anything in return especially strangers.

Helping someone who has hurt or caused me harm in the past.

I like helping people by staying in the shadows, if I know they need help, I don't like showing my hand when am helping them. Am uncomfortable when they express gratitude. I don't know how to react.

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