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posted August 21, 2013 06:40 AM            

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Can a woman be a man's one and only and his everything?

Is it so that you must be his everything so that he will not fall eyes on other women and to the point that he will give up or go against his friends to be with you?

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posted August 21, 2013 06:47 AM            

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Yes to the second, no to the first (at least I've never seen it).

Hell, I'm a straight, married woman deeply in love with my spouse, and *I* notice boobies when they walk past (and I use "boobies" rather than "breasts" intentionally - DDs in something swoopy attract attention...DDs in a turtleneck, not so much).

A polite man, however, will endeavor to make it not rudely obvious.

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posted August 21, 2013 08:12 AM            

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Re-reading, could you clarify your second statement?

Are you asking if that's an ideal relationship or if it's possible?

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posted August 21, 2013 08:21 AM            

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I am not willing to ask of a man what I am not willing to ask of myself.

Having said that, the one I am with now has helped me cure some of my insecurities by making me ask less of the mate and worry more about the traits I project.

It's hard to trust someone when others have screwed you over before. Just try to keep an eye out for warning signs that indicate a potential partner is up to no good .

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posted August 21, 2013 09:11 AM            

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Definitely. Heck, there are men who abuse and harm their own children for the right woman (one man I know described the horrid abuse his adoptive father did to him to satisfy the father's sadistic wife and he apologized repeatedly to the boy later knowing it was wrong, but he'd do ANYTHING for his wife).

I don't think it's very healthy, however (no matter which gender it is) and I'd be deeply disturbed if I realized I'd become someone's entire universe.

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posted August 21, 2013 09:19 AM            

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Oh, and just for fun here's a brief scene about a guy wanting to become totally devoted:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hkfiGFLTJA

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posted August 24, 2013 09:42 PM            

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That's a lot of pressure to put on a woman.

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posted August 24, 2013 09:52 PM            

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I wouldn't go against or give up friends - particularly friends that I had prior to the relationship. Post-relationship friends, possibly.
If it were something like an ex-gf that I'm still friends with. I wouldn't really like it, but I would certainly understand and do it without fussing.

To be his everything? I guess it depends on the man and what his needs are. Some are much more demanding than others. Some have "fundamental" needs while others have more "superficial" needs with varying importance.

Looking at other women. I look. I pretty much can't help it! But I don't obsess about it. I look, see it, they're gone and the moment it done. I don't think about it any more.
However, as was said, I am definitely not obvious. In a 6 year relationship she only caught me once. LOL
She didn't like it either but it was just once. That's not bad!

Personally, cheating only crossed my mind once. I'll be honest. But at no other time have I even considered it or thought about it.

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