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Topic: Your Code of Values
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 08:04 AM
I was just thinking about this. Randall has a code of values or LL could not have stayed for 12 years and thrived. At many points, it was tested, as all things are, and his values made it go forward and thrive even more. For me, as a child, I had strong values. They gave me a core and a sense of self as I walked through life. I had so much external trauma as a child that I dropped my values to try to make my outside life work but it worked even less. Now, I have the epiphany that the only way one can go out into life and walk through the struggles is to have the core values that don't change with the outside pressures. I am formulating what my values are. LL has been one of my main places to help me go forward in life. That is why I love it so much. I went from really shut down to having my own business( several businesses) and now I think I am going to have to go more out of my comfort zone to move on to the next step. I wanted to talk about values and see what you had to say. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 32472 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 05, 2013 12:27 PM
Thirteen years on November 3.IP: Logged |
Blackbird Knowflake Posts: 219 From: Texas Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 05, 2013 12:48 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Thirteen years on November 3.
LL itself is a Scorpio. Heh. ------------------ My natal chart IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 12:52 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Thirteen years on November 3.
Wow. That is an accomplishment of which to be proud! ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 12:53 PM
quote: Originally posted by Blackbird: LL itself is a Scorpio. Heh.
Like you!
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Diplopoda Knowflake Posts: 612 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 05, 2013 01:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Thirteen years on November 3.
No wonder the main headers are maroon, with plum shades for the forum boxes. Should have guessed lindaland is scorpio IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer Moderator Posts: 3134 From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Feb 2012
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posted September 05, 2013 02:42 PM
quote: Originally posted by Randall: Thirteen years on November 3.
Same birthday as me and shura; only way younger. I wonder how LL's chart compares to other November 3rd. birth dates?Famous Birthdays on 3rd November Rather fascinating. http://www.historyorb.com/birthdays/november/3 IP: Logged |
Diplopoda Knowflake Posts: 612 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 05, 2013 03:44 PM
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 04:20 PM
That is very cool, Lexx.------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 04:21 PM
You know, it is funny. Someone will criticize me for something and say I am all wet. Then, right afterwards, someone else will tell me that they love the same thing about me.You have to just be yourself and some people will really like you and others will really dislike it but it is all good ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 2727 From: vodka fine, I'm so divine Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 05, 2013 06:24 PM
Values...? My code of values is do whatever you want, so long as you're willing to deal with the consequences. Or is that my code of ethics...? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 06:44 PM
quote: Originally posted by somethingexcellent: Values...? My code of values is do whatever you want, so long as you're willing to deal with the consequences. Or is that my code of ethics...?
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 05, 2013 06:46 PM
I get this all the time. I just got it today. I will write an article or talk about the charts. Someone will say, "Why do you have to be so simple minded?" Another person will say "Thanks for explaining the charts in such a simple way" ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 5336 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 06, 2013 02:49 AM
I don't have values per se I just try and stay grounded balanced and healthy.IP: Logged |
T Knowflake Posts: 10101 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 06, 2013 03:17 AM
Your code of values should come from you, yourself. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 06, 2013 11:38 AM
Yes, T. Formulating them is hard. Being a Christian, many people expect you to be a door mat and get mad when you are not. This is hard because we are called to love, but you need boundaries while you are on the earth. You don't want to let people abuse you and you not fight back out of "love". Then, you are a doormat.
That is not really love. It is hard. I am struggling with it. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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MetalAphrodite Moderator Posts: 1435 From: Registered: Jul 2012
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posted September 06, 2013 01:41 PM
Some years ago, I decided as a teenager that my personality would be based upon being a halfway house for the spiritually/mentally/emotionally weak. I wanted to be "home" for those who didn't have one.Some years later, I realized that the general goal for all people should be to learn how to love others without loving self any less. I had mistakenly thought that I can only fulfill the needs of others by first denying my needs. So wrong. I cannot help others if my own ground is unsteady. I value this life's experience and what it has taught me so far. I value the lessons I am currently struggling through, and as much as I'd hate to say it, I'm going to value the new trouble I will go through. I wonder if at some point, I will be able to rest and feel fulfilled where I am. I guess I'll see. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 06, 2013 02:43 PM
quote: Originally posted by MetalAphrodite: Some years ago, I decided as a teenager that my personality would be based upon being a halfway house for the spiritually/mentally/emotionally weak. I wanted to be "home" for those who didn't have one.Some years later, I realized that the general goal for all people should be to learn how to love others without loving self any less. I had mistakenly thought that I can only fulfill the needs of others by first denying my needs. So wrong. I cannot help others if my own ground is unsteady. I value this life's experience and what it has taught me so far. I value the lessons I am currently struggling through, and as much as I'd hate to say it, I'm going to value the new trouble I will go through. I wonder if at some point, I will be able to rest and feel fulfilled where I am. I guess I'll see.
How lovely
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hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 5468 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 06, 2013 03:36 PM
quote: Originally posted by MetalAphrodite: Some years ago, I decided as a teenager that my personality would be based upon being a halfway house for the spiritually/mentally/emotionally weak. I wanted to be "home" for those who didn't have one.
This is honorable, but why would you do that? I'm just trying to understand. I can't be that person for those people (although they are drawn to me) because they are draining. The ones that come into my life don't get better, but I get better and that's when the shift happens. IP: Logged |
Diplopoda Knowflake Posts: 612 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 06, 2013 05:31 PM
Can't stand liars, those that deceive themselves or unethicals that are afraid of there own shadow so hide behind masks of other people IP: Logged |
MetalAphrodite Moderator Posts: 1435 From: Registered: Jul 2012
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posted September 06, 2013 06:18 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: This is honorable, but why would you do that? I'm just trying to understand. I can't be that person for those people (although they are drawn to me) because they are draining. The ones that come into my life don't get better, but I get better and that's when the shift happens.
Because I was lonely.I was the type of kid who used to read the dictionary for fun, but when I kept using big words, I noticed how my peer group wouldn't speak to me. Not because I was intolerable, but because they didn't know how to interact with me. My parents used to also put a time limit on how long I could read because they thought it was unhealthy on how much I would read. I think there was some part of me that said if I feel like this, who else feels like the things they like to do aren't supported, not because they're anything wrong with it, but because it doesn't match the value system of the surrounding environment? I realized many years later, after trying to help a toxic ex, who only overcame his insecurities when he saw other people draining me, and some other toxic people who would treat me as their servant, that I'm not helping anyone by being weak like this. I think I'm a little better now and because of that, my friends are a little better with interaction. Family and friends are important to me. Trying hard to be fair to them because they mean something. Can't save everyone though and that still bothers me to a great degree :-/. IP: Logged |
FruitTreeFresh Knowflake Posts: 218 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 07, 2013 10:26 AM
I hope to meet a religious gentleman someday who believe in love purity who love me just as much despite our vastly different background.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47269 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 07, 2013 12:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh: I hope to meet a religious gentleman someday who believe in love purity who love me just as much despite our vastly different background.
Are you religious?
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FruitTreeFresh Knowflake Posts: 218 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 07, 2013 08:30 PM
To a certain degree, yes. Where on earth, where on earth, sighs thou. lol IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 5659 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2013 04:13 AM
quote: Originally posted by T: Your code of values should come from you, yourself.
I agree, although my parents instilled some of them in me, and I kept them. I'm not staying. I only came here to find something that Ami told me about. I've felt better staying away from the forum, but I miss the posts from T, and others. IP: Logged |