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Ami Anne
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posted September 05, 2013 08:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was just thinking about this. Randall has a code of values or LL could not have stayed for 12 years and thrived.

At many points, it was tested, as all things are, and his values made it go forward and thrive even more.

For me, as a child, I had strong values. They gave me a core and a sense of self as I walked through life.

I had so much external trauma as a child that I dropped my values to try to make my outside life work but it worked even less.

Now, I have the epiphany that the only way one can go out into life and walk through the struggles is to have the core values that don't change with the outside pressures.

I am formulating what my values are. LL has been one of my main places to help me go forward in life. That is why I love it so much.

I went from really shut down to having my own business( several businesses) and now I think I am going to have to go more out of my comfort zone to move on to the next step.

I wanted to talk about values and see what you had to say.

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Randall
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posted September 05, 2013 12:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thirteen years on November 3.

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posted September 05, 2013 12:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Blackbird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Thirteen years on November 3.

LL itself is a Scorpio. Heh.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 05, 2013 12:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Thirteen years on November 3.

Wow. That is an accomplishment of which to be proud!

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Ami Anne
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posted September 05, 2013 12:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Blackbird:
LL itself is a Scorpio. Heh.



Like you!

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posted September 05, 2013 01:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diplopoda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Thirteen years on November 3.

No wonder the main headers are maroon, with plum shades for the forum boxes. Should have guessed lindaland is scorpio

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Lexxigramer
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posted September 05, 2013 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Thirteen years on November 3.
Same birthday as me and shura;
only way younger.

I wonder how LL's chart compares to other November 3rd. birth dates?

Famous Birthdays on 3rd November

Rather fascinating.
http://www.historyorb.com/birthdays/november/3

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posted September 05, 2013 03:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diplopoda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Ami Anne
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posted September 05, 2013 04:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That is very cool, Lexx.

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posted September 05, 2013 04:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You know, it is funny. Someone will criticize me for something and say I am all wet. Then, right afterwards, someone else will tell me that they love the same thing about me.

You have to just be yourself and some people will really like you and others will really dislike it but it is all good

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posted September 05, 2013 06:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Values...? My code of values is do whatever you want, so long as you're willing to deal with the consequences. Or is that my code of ethics...?

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Ami Anne
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posted September 05, 2013 06:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
Values...? My code of values is do whatever you want, so long as you're willing to deal with the consequences. Or is that my code of ethics...?



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posted September 05, 2013 06:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I get this all the time.

I just got it today. I will write an article or talk about the charts. Someone will say,

"Why do you have to be so simple minded?"

Another person will say "Thanks for explaining the charts in such a simple way"

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posted September 06, 2013 02:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't have values per se
I just try and stay grounded balanced and healthy.

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posted September 06, 2013 03:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your code of values should come from you, yourself.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 06, 2013 11:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, T. Formulating them is hard.

Being a Christian, many people expect you to be a door mat and get mad when you are not.

This is hard because we are called to love, but you need boundaries while you are on the earth.

You don't want to let people abuse you and you not fight back out of "love".


Then, you are a doormat.

That is not really love. It is hard. I am struggling with it.

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posted September 06, 2013 01:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MetalAphrodite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Some years ago, I decided as a teenager that my personality would be based upon being a halfway house for the spiritually/mentally/emotionally weak. I wanted to be "home" for those who didn't have one.

Some years later, I realized that the general goal for all people should be to learn how to love others without loving self any less. I had mistakenly thought that I can only fulfill the needs of others by first denying my needs. So wrong. I cannot help others if my own ground is unsteady.

I value this life's experience and what it has taught me so far. I value the lessons I am currently struggling through, and as much as I'd hate to say it, I'm going to value the new trouble I will go through.

I wonder if at some point, I will be able to rest and feel fulfilled where I am. I guess I'll see.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 06, 2013 02:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Some years ago, I decided as a teenager that my personality would be based upon being a halfway house for the spiritually/mentally/emotionally weak. I wanted to be "home" for those who didn't have one.

Some years later, I realized that the general goal for all people should be to learn how to love others without loving self any less. I had mistakenly thought that I can only fulfill the needs of others by first denying my needs. So wrong. I cannot help others if my own ground is unsteady.

I value this life's experience and what it has taught me so far. I value the lessons I am currently struggling through, and as much as I'd hate to say it, I'm going to value the new trouble I will go through.

I wonder if at some point, I will be able to rest and feel fulfilled where I am. I guess I'll see.



How lovely

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posted September 06, 2013 03:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Some years ago, I decided as a teenager that my personality would be based upon being a halfway house for the spiritually/mentally/emotionally weak. I wanted to be "home" for those who didn't have one.

This is honorable, but why would you do that? I'm just trying to understand. I can't be that person for those people (although they are drawn to me) because they are draining. The ones that come into my life don't get better, but I get better and that's when the shift happens.

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posted September 06, 2013 05:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Diplopoda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Can't stand liars, those that deceive themselves or unethicals that are afraid of there own shadow so hide behind masks of other people

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posted September 06, 2013 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MetalAphrodite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
This is honorable, but why would you do that? I'm just trying to understand. I can't be that person for those people (although they are drawn to me) because they are draining. The ones that come into my life don't get better, but I get better and that's when the shift happens.

Because I was lonely.

I was the type of kid who used to read the dictionary for fun, but when I kept using big words, I noticed how my peer group wouldn't speak to me. Not because I was intolerable, but because they didn't know how to interact with me.

My parents used to also put a time limit on how long I could read because they thought it was unhealthy on how much I would read.

I think there was some part of me that said if I feel like this, who else feels like the things they like to do aren't supported, not because they're anything wrong with it, but because it doesn't match the value system of the surrounding environment?

I realized many years later, after trying to help a toxic ex, who only overcame his insecurities when he saw other people draining me, and some other toxic people who would treat me as their servant, that I'm not helping anyone by being weak like this.

I think I'm a little better now and because of that, my friends are a little better with interaction. Family and friends are important to me. Trying hard to be fair to them because they mean something. Can't save everyone though and that still bothers me to a great degree :-/.

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posted September 07, 2013 10:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FruitTreeFresh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I hope to meet a religious gentleman someday who believe in love purity who love me just as much despite our vastly different background.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 07, 2013 12:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
I hope to meet a religious gentleman someday who believe in love purity who love me just as much despite our vastly different background.


Are you religious?

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posted September 07, 2013 08:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for FruitTreeFresh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
To a certain degree, yes.

Where on earth, where on earth, sighs thou. lol

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posted September 08, 2013 04:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by T:
Your code of values should come from you, yourself.

I agree, although my parents instilled some of them in me, and I kept them.

I'm not staying. I only came here to find something that Ami told me about. I've felt better staying away from the forum, but I miss the posts from T, and others.

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