posted September 06, 2013 03:28 AM            

Things go so-so, which you feared they would, and you end up being called " you stupid f ucking, horrible, c u n t, I never want to see you again" etc etc etc etc etc

I walked away feeling sad but said absolutely nothing which of course made friend even angrier

posted September 06, 2013 04:03 AM            

Follow up: it depends. If that friend was really precious to me I'd call, kiss and make up or if they wanted I'd have a proper talk with them. Basically I'd try to contact them. After 4 weeks and after exhausting every possibilities, if they still didn't answer I'd stop trying.

If that "friend" wasn't that precious to me, I would just ignore her.

I had a similar fall-out with one of my friends (she's a buddhist and she exploded in my face coz I eat meat).

posted September 06, 2013 06:23 AM            

she should have respected your initial reaction to be honest. Specially that another living thing is involved.

don't feel guilty, from your other posts it is clear you don't need any more stress in your life, and probably that is why you didn't just say a polite but firm no from the start.

i can't say anymore as, like other said a bit too vague, but she doesn't sound like the nicest person on the planet herself tbh.

posted September 06, 2013 07:57 AM            

if they are, just move on. nothing can be done anymore and this friend of yours has already made her mind up that she's done no wrong at all, even though she kind of dragged you into this.

posted September 06, 2013 10:50 AM            

I would have done the same, just walked away. If someone is that upset they are not going to listen to what you have to say anyway.

posted September 06, 2013 11:17 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
You have a friend. Said friend asks you for a favor and you respond by saying "hmmm...not sure it's a good idea because haven't done such and such for over 8 years and what you're asking me COULD potentially be dangerous (animals are involved). Said friend convinces you by saying "you'll do great, you always were a natural!", so you cave in.

Things go so-so, which you feared they would, and you end up being called " you stupid f ucking, horrible, c u n t, I never want to see you again" etc etc etc etc etc

I walked away feeling sad but said absolutely nothing which of course made friend even angrier

How would you have reacted and what would be your follow-up?

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One thing I would say is always trust your gut. Your gut told you what to do and you violated it, which we all do.

I am pretty good now. If a person comes to me and wants a chart done, as happened recently, the person seemed fine but my gut told me that this person would prolly have me do the whole chart and then at the end start complaining so I would give her her money back.

How did I know? I didn't but I had such a strong gut feeling that I would not accept her fee for doing a chart.

I just KNEW she was gonna be trouble even though I had no outside indicators.

You went wrong here and should learn a lifelong lesson from it, as I did.

As far as the person, throw him to the curb. Life is too short and there are many people who won't treat you that way.

We all have gotten screwed like this in order to learn.

That is my 2 cents

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posted September 09, 2013 07:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
& actually .. I could also forgive her if she is on medication (like depression pills) or has just stopped taking a particular drug - or quit smoking or something along those lines.. because in those kinds of situations people can be unbelievably cranky and act very out of character.

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posted September 12, 2013 04:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
What are you going to do?

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posted September 12, 2013 05:15 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:

I have decided to end the friendship. Why? It's quite simple actually. I have spent my entire life being "nice" and very forgiving when in most of those times I haven't wanted to forgive at all, but I did forgive so that the other person wouldn't feel too bad. Now I simply have little to no energy left and I quite frankly WANT to be angry over this! I felt publicly humiliated being called the C-word multiple times out loud and in front of my friend's boss of all people. And sad. I would never have said and done anything like this so why should I accept it from a friend?

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she did cross the line with calling you all that in public to, to something you were reluctant to join in.

(though honestly from how uncomfortable it is to any poor passerby who saw this....her words reflected on her, and not on you)

but yes good for you for standing up to yourself.

posted September 12, 2013 10:03 AM            

Red flag came up.

posted September 12, 2013 10:16 AM            

Then they did not like the results, that is THEIR problem, not yours.

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posted September 17, 2013 01:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
How are you doing, Charlie?

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I met said friend for a brief moment during a local get together this past weekend; I was with another friend that had driven 6 hours just to see me. What I got was, while staring blankly, "wow, you seem distracted, I'll leave you alone..." and 15 minutes later I received 5 txt messages explaining in detail how rude I was.

posted September 17, 2013 03:52 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I met said friend for a brief moment during a local get together this past weekend; I was with another friend that had driven 6 hours just to see me. What I got was, while staring blankly, "wow, you seem distracted, I'll leave you alone..." and 15 minutes later I received 5 txt messages explaining in detail how rude I was.

All in all I felt absolutely nothing ala inflicted Virgo placements galore so needless to say I think this is a done deal.

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UGH! is that woman suffering from a demonic possession or something, i like how it's all 'your fault' even though she did everything!
if i was in your place i'd never want to see her again, or speak of her or have anyone mention her...i'll end this here before i say stuff no one should.
but yeah happy she's out of yourself, and from now on put Charlie first before anyone else, specially people like that!!...and stop calling her a friend even if sarcastically.
(on the other hand talking about sarcasim wouldn't blame you if you sarcastically send her a message thanking her for apologizing to you one the way she went off at you in public when she knew that you didn't want to do it in the first place, as that shows a person real mettle )
yes i'm the expert at tongue and cheek when i put my mind to it, and want to make sure no one messes with me
you're better off without this rabbit boiling *itch!

posted September 17, 2013 06:22 AM            

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Originally posted by NoRainNoRainbows:
UGH! is that woman suffering from a demonic possession or something, i like how it's all 'your fault' even though she did everything!
if i was in your place i'd never want to see her again, or speak of her or have anyone mention her...i'll end this here before i say stuff no one should.
but yeah happy she's out of yourself, and from now on put Charlie first before anyone else, specially people like that!!...and stop calling her a friend even if sarcastically.
(on the other hand talking about sarcasim wouldn't blame you if you sarcastically send her a message thanking her for apologizing to you one the way she went off at you in public when she knew that you didn't want to do it in the first place, as that shows a person real mettle )
yes i'm the expert at tongue and cheek when i put my mind to it, and want to make sure no one messes with me
you're better off without this rabbit boiling *itch!

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Yeah...not sure what it is but people exhaust me in general lately and for some reason I see their true selves so much clearer than I ever have! Maybe it's age? 5 years ago I would have fought for the friendship thanks to my "peace and love for everyone" attitude but I don't have the energy anymore.

Thank you for all your kind and funny posts!! I appreciate it very much.

posted September 17, 2013 09:07 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:

Thank you for all your kind and funny posts!! I appreciate it very much.

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