posted September 23, 2013 11:33 AM            

She can say things like "you're so fat" "don't think you are any better than anyone else.." " oh, you're sick? HUH get a f ucking grip of yourself" etc etc etc etc and etc This is not even an exaggeration...

The older I get the more impatient I am getting with her and I am finding myself having to look LONG and HARD to not unleash what she has no idea is under surface! (I am very good with words..) We are talking about 36 years worth of pent up anxiety, verbal abuse and insanity here.

Sadly, my dad is sick and tired of her too. He has stood by her for over 35 years, supported her, and all she does is complain, nag and come with sarcastic and biting remarks. He works 6 days per week at the age of 65 so that he can support her sorry self.

No, I can't just forgive her because I am at that point in my life where I am sick of other people's bs.

posted September 23, 2013 11:45 AM            

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Well, what do you want to do?

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posted September 23, 2013 12:10 PM            

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posted September 23, 2013 12:24 PM            

I hope you choose your well-being.

posted September 23, 2013 01:08 PM            

My mother is a Virgo, I am a Pisces...

That darn beeeatch was so critical of me my entire life, till she got too old to do so, now finally listens to me and my stories of my "paranormal" stories of my grief, anger and stress life has dealt me.

She never touched alcohol, she rarely does now, but the emotional abuse started at an early age and, like I said, only let up in her elder years, she is 77 and I 51.

At a very young age, I remember thinking "what the heck is she talking about?" I am not the person she says I am (while my Gem brother was heralded) and I love my multi millionaire brother to death, but he got all the kudos, while Pisces baby played witch in the woods.

And at very young age I also remember knowing it does not matter what she thinks of me....

I have been knocked down my entire life, till recently by my mother, my step-dad in my teens (my bio dad left my life when I was 4) and another Virgo who I happened to fall in love with.

Charlie: you have to know within yourself what others say to you is their messed-up heads speakin out loud. It is usually projection, like the bully thing: "I dont like me so I am REALLY not going to like YOU!"

All I can tell you is find and retain your sense of self, and get away from her ASAP.

Her darn Scorpio energy (and I told myself I wont do this anymore, connect with anybody or anything due to the recent event s in my life) but she is a friggin player, a master manipulator...she wants power and she does not have it, personally, so she turns to the drink, to escape what she lacks.

Been there done that.

Find yourself....and do not let her define who you are~

blessins, hon~

t~

posted September 23, 2013 01:12 PM            

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I am here, Friend. I just saw this and I can't write right now, but I will be back. Don't any of you mean bullies bully her

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huh?

I am so anti negativism now as per my recent experiences..

Why would you even invite "bullies" into this?

I see no opportunities for bullies to take hold of this thread....

No reason to draw attention to self, no reason to knock her down..

posted September 23, 2013 01:35 PM            

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posted September 23, 2013 03:48 PM            

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Fair enough, Ami...thank you for addressing~

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posted September 23, 2013 03:56 PM            

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She's an alcoholic and extremely mean. Probably doesn't help that she's about 95% Scorpio...

She can say things like "you're so fat" "don't think you are any better than anyone else.." " oh, you're sick? HUH get a f ucking grip of yourself" etc etc etc etc and etc This is not even an exaggeration...

The older I get the more impatient I am getting with her and I am finding myself having to look LONG and HARD to not unleash what she has no idea is under surface! (I am very good with words..) We are talking about 36 years worth of pent up anxiety, verbal abuse and insanity here.

Sadly, my dad is sick and tired of her too. He has stood by her for over 35 years, supported her, and all she does is complain, nag and come with sarcastic and biting remarks. He works 6 days per week at the age of 65 so that he can support her sorry self.

No, I can't just forgive her because I am at that point in my life where I am sick of other people's bs.

Advice? Similar stories?

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If not, I can relate to your post. My mother seemed to want to destroy my self esteem. I have the asteroid Nemesis conj my Moon. Another girl with the same kind of problem did, too.

My mother DID destroy my self esteem. I don't mince words. Why talk if you talk crap lol

I lost my sense of self. I have child conjunct deja like you do. This aspect is abuse in all cases I have seen and the abuse seems to be what you are citing above.

Mine was like that, too.

I cut off contact with my mother 6 months ago. I am a Cancer moon and mars and so family is everything to me but I cut off contact because her life system is crazy.

She is a therapist so backs up crazy with this which makes it crazier lol

I cut contact because she gaslighted me. Do you know what this is?

Well, she would not own it so I said I never wanted to talk to her again.

Every day I pray and ask God if I should call. I wait for a sign and seem to get a strong No, so I don't.

My natal chart is easy until you put hers next to it.

IQ did the synastry for me when I first came on LL and he said it was bad.

Honestly, I am still in denial about how bad because I am still numb but it is getting better slowly as I have my own successes and my own failures.

You have to screw up and still have some safe people who won't throw you away.

That is a key ingredient to healing. There are so many but it is so very slow

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posted September 23, 2013 06:45 PM            

That said my dad is a Sag and he was bitingly sarcastic right back and sometimes laughed at Mom's attempt to be mean to him (which infuriated her). They're divorced now and never talk.

posted September 24, 2013 01:04 PM            

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charlie: I don't know, I really don't. Preferably limit conversation to next to none but traditionally it's not what's done in my country.

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Hm, then do it! Can you do it? Screw traditions. You live in the US? I'm pretty sure people cut off from their parents every other day in the states hahaha. If the relationship is caustic, then you have every justification to remove yourself from it.

posted October 05, 2013 02:22 AM            

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The older I get the more impatient I am getting with her and I am finding myself having to look LONG and HARD to not unleash what she has no idea is under surface! (I am very good with words..) W

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