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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48588 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted October 09, 2013 08:44 AM It is weird that this just came into my heart. I have not talked to my mother or father in 5 months. It was not easy. It haunts me that I am abandoning them. I really have been obsessed with it. However, I felt a strong sense that I should not contact them for my own well being. Today, I just realized that you do need to OPEN the door for someone to enter your heart. It is a volitional thing to open one's heart and a volitional thing to close it. When one is not liked or treated badly, one will always be hurt a bit, as one is human and has feelings. However, one does not have to be an open door letting all sorts of breezes in when one can simply close the door. ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
teasel Knowflake Posts: 5687 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted October 11, 2013 01:42 PM What if you feel like you can't keep that door closed? I've been really hurt, and a part of me usually just wants to see things get better, you know? But now you understand why I told you something before? It's not running away when it's unhealthy. IP: Logged
Zander916 Knowflake Posts: 891 From: I visit a lot of planets, but the Sun is my home. Registered: Aug 2013	posted October 11, 2013 02:29 PM Online, I tend to open up more than I should. Somehow feeling safe with anonymity. It's a mistake for me though. "In real life" I'm very very good about it. (My parents are divorced) One parent is much much more judgmental than the other. I have perfected the art of appearing open, but not actually being open. Indifference is a tool and a barrier that is tough to break. It doesn't leave any obvious weakness as to where the best point of attack is. Often people just leave it alone. It can also still come across as an opinion (that I don't really care) when that in fact may not be true and the fact that it's not truly an opinion. Omission is another one that I use. What they don't know they can't use to hurt you. Most of the time I simply won't let be known things that care (much) what they think about it. (speaking of people in general and particularly the more judgmental of the two parents) IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48588 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted October 11, 2013 02:59 PM quote: Originally posted by teasel: What if you feel like you can't keep that door closed? I've been really hurt, and a part of me usually just wants to see things get better, you know? But now you understand why I told you something before? It's not running away when it's unhealthy. Of course, Friend. There is a balance ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 48588 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted October 11, 2013 03:03 PM I was talking to my guitar teacher today. He is like Randall, mature and wise. He said his biggest freedom was when he didn't care what people thought of him. It is not a totally black and white thing, I am sure. However, I think you have to be beaten up enough that you don't care. You end up having a "Screw you" attitude. I have escaped because I felt like I did not know how to cope with life. I didn't know what to do. I couldn't feel and your feelings are your compass. Now, I have a business and I give all the credit to God. I have had people screw me like the girl who paid for 3 things with an e check and cancelled after she got them lol I have had people try to mess with me. At the beginning I was not as strong as I am not and I still am not that strong but getting kicked around helped. I really could not have done this without a few mentors. You really cannot break out of this kind of thing alone. You need a few people who are your cheerleaders. ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged

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