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Topic: I want off this rollercoaster
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 10, 2013 04:20 AM
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12muddy Knowflake Posts: 994 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted November 10, 2013 04:55 AM
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 49689 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 10, 2013 07:19 AM
You can talk here, SWeetie. Is this the older guy or am I confusing you with someone?------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 10, 2013 09:27 PM
Ugh I usually end up regretting these late night venting threads lol but thanks for both of your replies!IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7732 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 10, 2013 09:35 PM
Why regret? say what's on your mind.IP: Logged |
FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 03:02 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Why regret? say what's on your mind.
Sorry I haven't even checked back here recently lol but ok I suppose I'll try to summarize... I made a thread a while back about a violent incident that happened with someone I was dating (not just a heat of the moment type of thing, it was pretty dangerous/threatening) and basically it was a traumatizing experience, and I know I never really processed it in the right ways... Honestly it put me in a dark place for a while, and I kept in contact with this person after as some sort of misguided attempt at "understanding", or having a sense of control I guess... It's hard to talk about because I feel like I'd made a lot of progress in life and was pretty self-reliant overall, so to become so unhinged over something like this isn't something I'm eager to admit But it's made me face some of my deepest fears/wounds surrounding the idea that abuse is "normal" in relationships, and I guess on the plus side it's forced me to gain a better understanding of myself in the process. I want to heal from this and let it go once and for all, because the whole downward spiral thing is getting old lol Sooo those are my thoughts... Thanks for listening IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7732 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 03:28 AM
Aw, I'm sorry. Hopefully you can heal from all of that and get away from that person. Abuse is definitely not normal and nobody should tolerate it, this is something I have tried to tell my sister. Feel free to speak your mind on here, we'll listen . Atleast I know I don't mind IP: Logged |
FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 03:48 AM
Thanks, and I agree...The worst part is it's not just me being emotional, I know he will do the same thing again in the future to someone else, if not worse... This was made 100% obvious to me when I recently found out he sent his male friend (who he was "play fighting" with) to the hospital where doctors thought he was going to lose his eye from being punched/kicked in the face I know I need to just walk away and let karma take care of itself, but it's all just very toxic and f***** up, and I feel like he should face legal consequences, but pursuing that road may only make things more complicated... IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7732 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 03:53 AM
quote: Originally posted by FireMoon: Thanks, and I agree...The worst part is it's not just me being emotional, I know he will do the same thing again in the future to someone else, if not worse... This was made 100% obvious to me when I recently found out he sent his male friend (who he was "play fighting" with) to the hospital where doctors thought he was going to lose his eye from being punched/kicked in the face I know I need to just walk away and let karma take care of itself, but it's all just very toxic and f***** up, and I feel like he should face legal consequences, but pursuing that road may only make things more complicated...
Sounds like he should face consequences, I could see how it might complicate matters though. Whatever you decide to do you should stay away from him, we don't want you to get hurt again.
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 04:04 AM
Yeah honestly he has threatened me and I'm not willing to call his bluff... That was the final straw though. It's disturbing to know someone can get away with so much sh** through intimidation, but sometimes that's just the way it works I guessIP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7732 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 04:07 AM
quote: Originally posted by FireMoon: Yeah honestly he has threatened me and I'm not willing to call his bluff... That was the final straw though. It's disturbing to know someone can get away with so much sh** through intimidation, but sometimes that's just the way it works I guess
If you dont mind me asking Do you work with this guy or go to school with him or something? Are you forced to be in contact with him for some reason?
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 04:18 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: [QUOTE]Originally posted by FireMoon: [b]Yeah honestly he has threatened me and I'm not willing to call his bluff... That was the final straw though. It's disturbing to know someone can get away with so much sh** through intimidation, but sometimes that's just the way it works I guess
If you dont mind me asking Do you work with this guy or go to school with him or something? Are you forced to be in contact with him for some reason?[/B][/QUOTE]Nope... it's just been self-destruction and stupidity on my end lol. Honestly one of the worst experiences of my life IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7732 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 04:24 AM
quote: Originally posted by FireMoon: Nope... it's just been self-destruction and stupidity on my end lol. Honestly one of the worst experiences of my life
Fight the urges. I have faith in you ! Lol
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 04:34 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: [QUOTE]Originally posted by FireMoon: [b] Nope... it's just been self-destruction and stupidity on my end lol. Honestly one of the worst experiences of my life
Fight the urges. I have faith in you ! Lol[/B][/QUOTE]Haha thanks, I will! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7732 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 04:40 AM
quote: Originally posted by FireMoon: Haha thanks, I will!
But seriously , it's not good lol .If you ever need to talk, you know how to reach me IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx Knowflake Posts: 1030 From: Mountain Gate Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 13, 2013 04:46 AM
Your Transit said not to pursue that road, it is up now.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 49689 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 13, 2013 06:49 AM
I think I did your chart and I think you have a Nessus prominent. If you want to put it in Beginners Astrology, you can. You can ask any questions or discuss anything.I have made a MILLION mistakes. I still do. The problem is that the only way I learn is through the fire. Actually, I just wrote an article on just this. I will put it up in the Beginners Astrology for you, if you want to put up your chart. Mistake wise--I bet I have you beat! ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 05:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: But seriously , it's not good lol .If you ever need to talk, you know how to reach me
Thanks aquaguy And yeah I definitely agree.. He still tries calling me and claims he just wants to be "friends" (partly how this got dragged out for so long- we actually were friends long before we started dating and things got so crazy) but I've made it clear there's no reason for us to be talking anymore. I also wasn't planning on meeting anyone new anytime soon, but I've actually sort of been dating someone recently (who is a completely normal and sane human being lol) so I'm hoping he will finally get the message and back off... quote: Originally posted by Ellynlvx: Your Transit said not to pursue that road, it is up now.
Thanks for that report Ellynlvx, I appreciate it!! IP: Logged |
FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 05:28 PM
quote: Originally posted by Ami Anne: I think I did your chart and I think you have a Nessus prominent. If you want to put it in Beginners Astrology, you can. You can ask any questions or discuss anything.I have made a MILLION mistakes. I still do. The problem is that the only way I learn is through the fire. Actually, I just wrote an article on just this. I will put it up in the Beginners Astrology for you, if you want to put up your chart. Mistake wise--I bet I have you beat!
Thanks Ami, it is unfortunate that some lessons only seem to stick by going through them the hard way, but that's life I suppose... Nessus doesn't aspect my personal planets with a tight orb at least, but it does square my Neptune conjunct DSC (which is an aspect I hate all on its own lol) I'll put my chart in the beginners forum, thanks again! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 49689 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 13, 2013 06:15 PM
OK SWeetieI will put my newest article up for you, if you want, too. ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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FireMoon Knowflake Posts: 934 From: Minnesota Registered: Mar 2012
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posted November 13, 2013 06:36 PM
quote: Originally posted by Ami Anne: OK SWeetieI will put my newest article up for you, if you want, too.
Ok sounds good! IP: Logged |