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Topic: How Co-Dependent Are you?
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 02, 2013 04:27 PM
  
I had a weird epiphany of this. I am not going to share it, until I hear from all of you.
I look forward to any comments!------------------
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MetalAphrodite
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From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted December 02, 2013 04:59 PM
I was taught to ignore my needs and sacrifice to the greater good of everyone else. As time wears on, I've been involved with very selfish partners that take and take while I give and give. Then I gave birth to my daughter and I thought, wtf these niggas be spending my energy at(haha, eloquent, I know ;p )? Where are they taking my love? What are they doing with my time? Hell, I might have pulled the blanket from others to give more to my daughter, but I'm not sure if my love for my daughter continues my journey in codependency.I am less codependent than I was yesterday. My daughter is visiting her dad for the third trip since he and I divorced. Last year, I thought I was going to die without her. This time, my mom has dressed teddy bears in her clothes and I cry myself to sleep at night holding them and wishing they were her. With my boyfriend, I've stopped with being "nice" and started setting my limits. I went to Detroit a couple of weekends ago and was able to listen to the Steve Harvey radio show where he was giving out relationship advice. He said that it's good for a person to set boundaries, otherwise you have random people that come and visit you and poopoo in your yard lol. Before, I was afraid that I wasn't enough as a woman and a partner. I've realized with my past relationship that I am more than enough and he wasn't ready for what I was offering. This current guy wants what I have and is making adjustments to try and be with me. He's stubborn as hell. I love him and I realize I don't have to love his issues. I don't have to play doctor or stuff like that, that he needs to work on himself for himself. So do I. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 50083
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted December 02, 2013 07:54 PM
Thanks MAI could never want anything or need anything as a child. I had to take care of my mother's needs. I was free when it came to education and creative things like music. These things were my refuge. ------------------
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MetalAphrodite
Moderator Posts: 1629
From: Zanguin :3
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted December 02, 2013 08:14 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Thanks MAI could never want anything or need anything as a child. I had to take care of my mother's needs. I was free when it came to education and creative things like music. These things were my refuge.
In my culture, as the oldest child and oldest female, I had to learn how to suppress what I wanted for the needs of others. All of my siblings are grown, the last one turning 18 earlier this year. I'm more rougher with them when it comes to their spoiled attitudes about certain things VS real life.Like, if they whine about having to pay for a bill, I ask them who will pick up that cost? Our parents, who are already paying everything else? Me, when I have a child? How many things are they not paying that they should be grateful for that they are not under that burden? And even when we crawl out from under our rock of martyrdom, we are still responsible for deprogramming that part of us that likes something but finds it difficult to justify a practical use for it. Idk, maybe it's just me, but it feels good to allow myself to buy something because I wanted it. I work hard for what I have, why can't I get something I can enjoy? I'm an artist by trade, but I haven't got my mind together yet to turn this into a practical venture. I love to sing because it's the quickest way to download universal love for me.
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