posted December 11, 2013 02:32 PM            

I'm finding it hard to wrap my mind around this and the more I read about it, the more I feel like I am plainly not understanding it on a emotive level. Like, I understand what I'm reading, but I do not see what differs someone who has it VS someone who has communications problems generally.

posted December 11, 2013 04:45 PM            

Females can have it too. Daryl Hannah has it. So does Martha Stewart. The ratio of females to males is about 1:5 to 1:8, depending on culture.

There is an ultra high incidence of Aspergers in the technical fields, and in fact the highest concentration by far is in Silicon Valley in the San Jose/Palo Alto area. Aspergers tend towards the quantitative/logical/rational skillset and generally have personalities we associate with "geeks." The group includes the typical Gates/Jobs/Ellison/Gore crowd but can also include musicians and artists.

You need to be clinically diagnosed by a specialized psychologist or a psychiatrist. You can't just announce that you have it.

posted December 11, 2013 06:52 PM            

Let me put it like this...if a kid is the least bit unusual he may be shunned and that could cause him to spend more time with his unusual interests while being shy and clumsy around others in a vicious circle. That would be all it would take for him to be wrongly diagnosed with Aspergers (and its much easier to ignore girls who typically turn their pain inward than boys and thus boys get lumped with it more). And once diagnosed it tends to stick just like any other diagnosis that can't be physically tested for. As a result it has been reclassified.

posted December 11, 2013 09:33 PM            

I was talking it over with my bf because it's a mutual online friend that he's known longer than I have, though I'm closer to him and have met and stayed with him at his home. Bf says it seems the friend is self absorbed, close minded, and stuff like that.

I'm a bit worried about my friend. I think he has some sort of social disorder because of how he interacts with others, but it would be a grave mistake for me to tell my friend this without understanding something. I would urge him to visit someone who can diagnose him if I feel that it makes sense.

He is highly intelligent and very verbose, but there were a lot of subtle cues he misses in conversations and seems to misunderstand. He was recently showing me an argument he got in and reading through it was painful because it was like he was in a whole different world where each individual point he was making did not connect to one another, though for everyone else, including me, came to the same conclusion of what he meant.

This is what I said about my friend to try and explain it:
"If it is an accepted truth that 1 + 2 = 3, when you speak to people of reasonable intelligence and you say 1 and 2, automatically, the other people make the connection of those two statements equalling 3.

The person in question says 1 and 2, but considers them completely separate entities that cannot equal 3, but says they are independent thoughts that come to a different conclusion."

posted December 12, 2013 08:39 AM            

it's been a difficult Asperger life. i don't understand the world and it doesn't understand me. don't know how i manage to find my way in this world but i'm still here. the risk of suicide is very high being 'different' mentally and sexually.

i'm still here and enjoying a beautiful life with my Gemini. perhaps Jupiter in H3 is good for something after all

posted December 13, 2013 03:23 PM            

I was listening to this in the radio with my husband while we were on a long drive, and he hits all the Aspie points mentioned, too
Including the one about finding yourself daydreaming about constructing elaborate traps. It was funny, because when that one came up I laughed and he said, "What, you don't?"
"Noooo..."
"Everyone does, I mean...I do."