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Topic: Today is my parents' 35th wedding anniversary
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charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1329
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted January 05, 2014 09:20 AM
  
and when my mom told me my first initial thought was "holy **** I am so glad that will never be me!!" Don't think I am the marrying kind.... IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 3033
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted January 05, 2014 03:34 PM
Sometimes that makes for the best long term couples, having ones own things and not climbing all over the other partner can be for the best over time.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 6622
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Registered: Oct 2011
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posted January 06, 2014 12:00 AM
What's the beef with marriage? IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1329
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted January 06, 2014 02:22 AM
quote:
Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
What's the beef with marriage?
One part having grown up around them and their daily arguments and using me as a punching bag or mediator and one part feeling as if I will lose complete sense of freedom-which is wrong, I know-and that feeling makes me claustrophobic. I have yet to meet anyone that has understood my deep desire for autonomy or parallel existens within a relationship.
They say they do but when involvement gets deeper so does their obsession with keeping me "under control". My sense of "freedom" would be: not having to explain, verbally, everything that I say, do or think as of I were a complete alien. I like when things flow. And I am progressive so discussions about yesterday's discussion will not work for me. And I also like to travel alone and go out to bars/restaurants alone for a bite for the simple reason that I "research" people and their behavior.
(I'm into psychology..and patterns) This does not seem to work for most men I've met. So, why is marriage for me when I need so much alone-time? IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze
Knowflake Posts: 533
From: One World
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted January 06, 2014 08:21 AM
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Originally posted by charlie:
So, why is marriage for me when I need so much alone-time?
Who told you it was? Don't let other people tell you what you do or don't want/need. ------------------
Learn lots. Don't judge. Laugh for no reason. Be nice. Seek Happiness. Follow your dreams. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 6622
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posted January 06, 2014 09:03 AM
quote:
Originally posted by charlie:
So, why is marriage for me when I need so much alone-time?
Just asking.
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 8087
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 06, 2014 12:53 PM
Lol my parents are getting there.
they didn't even celebrate their last 3 anniversaries lol.
Good for them.O Don't even get me started on unmarried couples that celebrate their anniversary.
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