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Topic: I need some romance advice
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Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 04:18 PM
  
All of the Scorpio in my chart, or Saggie easy breezy, perhaps Ceres Whatever the reason, there is a pattern forming..I'm marked for boyfriend material Currently I do not want to be a boyfriend I seriously do enjoy my female friends company..BUT it seems like the more time I spend, or the more generous I am towards them..they tend to get the wrong idea As a Christian I'm wired to listen to people and there problems and offer uplifting advice That's me, and really do not want to be just blunt and say look nothing is happening b/t us Either way..never works..next thing i know all my time is being blocked off to talk to them and just be with them/her..no matter how crudely sexual I may be towards them. All I get is a small a laugh and it's like I did not say anything at all?!?!?! Not a boast more I simply do not know what is going on IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted January 18, 2014 05:04 PM
Poor Sag...always too sexy for itself.IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted January 18, 2014 05:14 PM
Oh man, women love those sexy Scorps! Sag is super fun too. Combine that with being the caring guy interested in listening to their problems? No wonder they're chasing you down LOL. My advice: be honest, straightforward, blunt if you have to...communication is the key here...if they won't/can't accept it then you might just have to completely cut them off...one thing's for sure, do your absolute best not to give mixed signals or even hint to lead them on if you're TRULY not interested (please don't say you have a venus in Pisces!!  Anyway, that's my advice- hope it helps! IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 05:25 PM
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Originally posted by tgem:
Oh man, women love those sexy Scorps! Sag is super fun too. Combine that with being the caring guy interested in listening to their problems? No wonder they're chasing you down LOL. My advice: be honest, straightforward, blunt if you have to...communication is the key here...if they won't/can't accept it then you might just have to completely cut them off...one thing's for sure, do your absolute best not to give mixed signals or even hint to lead them on if you're TRULY not interested (please don't say you have a venus in Pisces!! Anyway, that's my advice- hope it helps!
I've tried this..it does not work I hv Venus in Scorpio, it's more like "
I really really like talking with you, you are smart, you have insights...and not only do you care..you are kinda good looking" Now the next move is rather simple...and I won't darken this forum by saying it out loud.. Even then tho "..so uhm is whipped creame and condoms involved?" Completely glossed over...like it was never said or had -0- impact when said I cannot cut them off, they normally are in a bad place, to just cut her adrift is just not how I do things Christians are meant to show love IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 05:27 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Poor Sag...always too sexy for itself.
Not so little one, Saggie's tend to just do things and let others react to it IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted January 18, 2014 05:32 PM
Those reactions may not be what Sag wants, is what I meant.So..my teenage Sag son was hanging out in the park with us when a parade of girls walked past, too slowly for his liking, and giving him eyes. He got up, went over to my Libra son and said: "You see that?! THAT is the kind of thing you have to watch out for. If you want to stay a bachelor...and all good men are bachelors...you have to IGNORE things like that!!"  True story. IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 18, 2014 05:36 PM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
Not so little one, Saggie's tend to just do things and let others react to it
^So why don't you, then? Act like a Sag, that is. If people start constructing delusions about you, it is *their* delusion, *their* problem. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 05:40 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Those reactions may not be what Sag wants, is what I meant.So..my teenage Sag son was hanging out in the park with us when a parade of girls walked past, too slowly for his liking, and giving him eyes. He got up, went over to my Libra son and said: "You see that?! THAT is the kind of thing you have to watch out for. If you want to stay a bachelor...and all good men are bachelors...you have to IGNORE things like that!!" True story.
THAT is so funny, bottom line is Saggie sunds..have to beat over the head w/a stick that she likes you Us Saggie men are SOO oblivious...poor women who are into us..It's more like "hey I noticed you, you are very cute...and no, I won't do that w/you...I barely know you...
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Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 05:47 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Padre35:
[b] Not so little one, Saggie's tend to just do things and let others react to it
^So why don't you, then? Act like a Sag, that is. If people start constructing delusions about you, it is *their* delusion, *their* problem. [/B][/QUOTE]Ah, Hera..y'all women are far far more passionate...once that motor starts...good luck with that one Y'all females will just go all in..want to take walk...fine..hope yo4 are not busy for the next 2 hrs ..I require someone to talk to 2 hrs later..knee swollen uhm yeah..beer run time.."OMG u bought me a pack of smokes..pray for me..." IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 18, 2014 05:51 PM
I don't understand why you have to make it about you, lol. Just do your thing. Must you analyze the whats, hows and whys to death? I can only conclude a part of you is enjoying the situation, otherwise a flighty Sag would've gotten outta there 10 minutes ago. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 18, 2014 06:32 PM
That's a problem alright. Once women like ya you can't do anything to change their mind. Maybe you could tell them you are gay.  IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted January 18, 2014 06:39 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
a part of you is enjoying the situation,
^ agree with that. To me it sounds like you know what's going on and you like it. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted January 18, 2014 07:23 PM
IMO Like AG - you attract and hang out with too much Libra-ness.
I'm sure the girls who want to be in a relationship with you have Libra somewhere in their chart.Or... actually -- Taurus & Cancer are also "like that"..
So maybe those three signs: Libra, Taurus and Cancer. The kinds of girls who would be "best" for you, on this front - you probably wouldn't like for other reasons.. because they would walk all over you - case in point - me and Hera. Aquarius is probably the only sign who could really work for you... but not "any" Aquarius.
If she's Aquarius with a Cancer Moon and AC - forget it!
I mean like a REAL Aquarius lol IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 18, 2014 07:40 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
IMO Like AG - you attract and hang out with too much Libra-ness.
I'm sure the girls who want to be in a relationship with you have Libra somewhere in their chart.Or... actually -- Taurus & Cancer are also "like that"..
So maybe those three signs: Libra, Taurus and Cancer. The kinds of girls who would be "best" for you, on this front - you probably wouldn't like for other reasons.. because they would walk all over you - case in point - me and Hera. Aquarius is probably the only sign who could really work for you... but not "any" Aquarius.
If she's Aquarius with a Cancer Moon and AC - forget it!
I mean like a REAL Aquarius lol
I'm dating an Aries with Leo moon right now  IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted January 18, 2014 08:58 PM
... LoL... Ok Mcsteamy!I didn't realise you were turning into a serial dater I stir clear of dating anyone at all lol So how are things with your Aries/Leo bonny lass? IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 18, 2014 09:07 PM
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aquaguy91
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posted January 18, 2014 09:19 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
... LoL... Ok Mcsteamy!I didn't realise you were turning into a serial dater I stir clear of dating anyone at all lol So how are things with your Aries/Leo bonny lass?
Yes my whole mentality has changed and I'm getting much better results. Ugh pretty good except for one thing.
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Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 09:46 PM
Thanks everyone for your indulgenceI'd guess the real underlying issue is hanging out with some women who on the surface are perfect to a "T" I know "me" and am not sure this is good for me or them, I'm very hard to get along with b/c I've been single for so long Farmer walks with 120 pds in the mornings when there is frost on the ground in shorts and a tank top? Sure Stay up until 3 am TRYING to learn about yods and how psychic intuition works doing pushups on U bars? Yep, that is me Learning the rudiments of Pinyin, Romanian and Latin and digesting Tim Ferris's thoughts? Hand raised here Home brewing and making organic vinegar? Guilty your Honor Now some poor girl is going to step into it? Does not seem fair or right to me, yet there is no sort of FWB option, women just drill in IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted January 18, 2014 09:54 PM
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Originally posted by Hera:
I don't understand why you have to make it about you, lol. Just do your thing. Must you analyze the whats, hows and whys to death? I can only conclude a part of you is enjoying the situation, otherwise a flighty Sag would've gotten outta there 10 minutes ago.
Hera here is why u are offbase..Saggie's are social butterflies, life of the party, runs away from actually feeling emotions Or perhaps uses knowledge as a shield from embracing emotions and caring for someone other then ourselves Bachelor/Bacherloette Saggie can get along quite well..we only speak up when we care IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted January 18, 2014 10:10 PM
In my experience with different Sag men - they say they want FWB - but when they meet someone who is just like them and who is happy with FWB (e.g. a Sag or Aries girl), they feel like they're not getting enough attention. They feel left out .. and they go running back in the arms of some clingy Cancer lady who cooks them nice meals and doesn't want to let them go (although once they're there.. they start complaining about needing space again)... and the cycle goes on! lolSag, as opposed to Leo and Aries - is bordering on being insecure on an ego level. They need reassurance and they don't seem happy with women who are extra independent and who don't give them reassurance.
One of the reasons I feel things don't work out between me and Sag people is that I am not at all motherly.. and even though they say they don't want that - it seems like they do *need* that kind of feminine attention, the girl who fusses over them all the time.
I don't fuss over anyone. I can give them all the space in the world - but they just feel lonely. I'm not sure if you are exactly like this Padre ^.. but I've seen this pattern with Sag men. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted January 18, 2014 10:14 PM
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Ugh pretty good except for one thing.
LOL There just had to be that 'one' thing haha IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted January 18, 2014 10:20 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Yes my whole mentality has changed and I'm getting much better results.
 You mean we finally cured you??? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted January 18, 2014 10:24 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
You mean we finally cured you???
No. Lol IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 19, 2014 12:09 AM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
Hera here is why u are offbase..Saggie's are social butterflies, life of the party, runs away from actually feeling emotionsOr perhaps uses knowledge as a shield from embracing emotions and caring for someone other then ourselves Bachelor/Bacherloette Saggie can get along quite well..we only speak up when we care
Dude, Sags have emotions. wtf. Fiery ones, too. If you don't, look somewhere else, not to your Sun. I simply do not understand why you make such a drama out of this. So you don't wanna date: don't date. It is that simple. What do you want to accomplish with this type of threads, do you want us to encourage you to date those physically flawless beauties, totally gaga over you? Over your own will??? Who do you take us for?  IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 19, 2014 12:10 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
You mean we finally cured you???
I don't know how you girls have the patience to keep trying, tbh. IP: Logged |
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