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Topic: Anyone just up and left their life?
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charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1584
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 11:32 AM
  
Cut contacts and relationships because they drained you? Stopped talking to parents and/or family members?
How did it and how does it feel? Do you regret it? Are you happier now?I am thinking everyday of just saying goodbye to my parents because their interpersonal BS is making me sick and they spare no expense on making sure (or not caring) to put me in the middle of their battles. Most of my friends bore me to death right now too and I am sure that feeling is quite mutual. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 9235
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 12:22 PM
Yes.I stopped talking to my parents for year not because I was mad just because I wanted to be detached from people...Idk I did occasionally send text messages just so she knows im alive.
A lot of times I fantasize about being an orphan drifter... idk with family there are expectations... I mean I love my parents but I feel like it's more natural it's not like I choose to love them... I don't really like that..
I like having the choice, you know? However I don't think my scorpio moon mother ever really forgave me for that..
I can see it in her eyes.... theres slight gaze of contempt especially when I tell her I'm going to be busy for awhile..
In our synastry her pluto squares all my personal planets.
She's extremely emotionally attached to me vs my siblings So yes I do regret doing that because I feel bad for hurting them and that was rather immature and selfish of me.. In my defense I was really trying to be emotionally independent from others..
I think this is essential for everyone.
I always tell my young friends going to college NOT to room with hs friends..
You need to detach from familiarity
I mean it was really hard... My environment had a lot of love and affection. I had sisters that that use to spoil me and two parents that doted on me..
and a s.o that use to do everything for me..
I was so use to being emotionally dependent on others..
Like I could not function with out someone telling they loved me. It was not easy for me not to receive constant affection everyday... Like i use to feel depressed because no one cuddled with me for one day..
I was pathetic..
now... I'm like a completely independent person..
I don't need someone else to make me feel happy and loved. I think there's something incredibly beautiful about that  IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1584
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 01:08 PM
I am extremely autonumous (sp?) and have never liked close relationships or doting BUT I do enjoy this and keeping in touch with txtingor emails. I have this fantasy that I will move to China or India and sit there with my laptop and browse Lindaland, chat with friends and do yoga all day long. That seems to ME to be the ultimate happiness. Peace and solitude among humans I do not know....IP: Logged |
Xiiro
Knowflake Posts: 1748
From: San Diego CA, USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 12, 2014 05:00 PM
When I was around 20, my boyfriend at the time and I dropped everything and road tripped around the US, living out of our car. The intention was to find another state to live in, but we liked traveling so much we just kept going until we ran out of money.We ended up living in WV for a while before we started having relationship issues and broke up. WV isn't really my kind of place, so I moved back to CA. The whole time we were on the road, we didn't contact family or friends and we left without telling anyone we were leaving. My parents didn't seem to care and his parents had passed away when he was young, but my friends were a bit pi$$ed. At one point I also left my job and life to go live in a Buddhist monastery. complete shifts of reality are an amazing feeling for Jupiter/Uranian people and something I recommend at least once.
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PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3866
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 12, 2014 05:30 PM
I did, but I had others I could be with and/or I'd moved somewhere else far away. I think if anything my moving away from Mom made it possible for us to get along at all. I've heard of a lot of people who were happier after they moved away and cut certain people off (it's very difficult and occasionally dangerous to remain where you are after you've done that) while also heard plenty of people who hated themselves for not doing that. IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1584
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted February 12, 2014 05:33 PM
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Originally posted by Xiiro:
When I was around 20, my boyfriend at the time and I dropped everything and road tripped around the US, living out of our car. The intention was to find another state to live in, but we liked traveling so much we just kept going until we ran out of money.We ended up living in WV for a while before we started having relationship issues and broke up. WV isn't really my kind of place, so I moved back to CA. The whole time we were on the road, we didn't contact family or friends and we left without telling anyone we were leaving. My parents didn't seem to care and his parents had passed away when he was young, but my friends were a bit pi$$ed. At one point I also left my job and life to go live in a Buddhist monastery. complete shifts of reality are an amazing feeling for Jupiter/Uranian people and something I recommend at least once.
Ah, Uranus.....55% prominent in my chart and very hard to please lol IP: Logged |
BellaFenice
Knowflake Posts: 62
From: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 12, 2014 11:58 PM
Yeah, I kind of have. My friends or so called 'friends' have changed dramatically over the past few years. My pluto conjunct saturn transit has really woken me up and made me realize its better to let go than hold onto something that isn't working. I've moved around a lot the past few years and I cannot believe how much I've changed.Can't say I've ever cut out my parents/family, but I have become much more reclusive, not sure this is something I need to be worried about or not. IP: Logged |
12muddy
Knowflake Posts: 1465
From:
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 13, 2014 03:57 AM
I cut off contacts with my parents for a few year, I needed time to regroup at that time. We've never talked about it. My parents were like meh if she doesn't need us, that's cool, if she needs us she'll come back lolAs for my friends, I don't see my best friends often. N my other friends kinda know me so yeah I can drop in n out whenever I want. I always let them know my contacts info so they can contact me if they're in a tight situation. I haven't done that with romantic relationships. Overall if you feel like you have enough you can just take some time off. Let them know that you're alive tho hehe
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Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 286
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted February 15, 2014 11:20 AM
I moved countries and left everyone. Still keep in touch though, but it's on my terms.  IP: Logged |
Karmic Soul
Knowflake Posts: 138
From:
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted February 16, 2014 06:58 PM
Yeah, I’ve done this before. I'm an introvert, so it's always been important to me to be able to come and go as I please (so to speak). People (including myself) have not always understood that. I also have a desire to be as independent as possible, and I have been single more often than not during my lifetime. (I’m 40, btw.) Once, I took a road trip out of state w/o telling most everyone, because I needed to get away and clear my head. No one knew where I was, or what had happened to me, and many of my friends were unhappy about that. I've also been known to take extended periods of time to myself, usually when I have my own stuff to deal with. When that happens, it's usually b/c I can't deal with everybody else's crap and still expect to figure out and/or effectively deal with my own. Other times, interacting with people just plain exhausts me.
Another time, I pulled away from one of my closest, most long-term friends for an extended period of time b/c I felt overwhelmed by her negativity, etc. I needed to deal with my own problems, and I had developed resentment toward her. During that time, I felt strongly that she was being selfish and controlling and not respecting our friendship or me as a person, so I just wouldn’t respond to her for a long time. I wasn’t sure how to approach the situation, so I just plain ignored it. Things finally came to a head, and we ended up working things out, but that relationship and its boundaries desperately needed to be redefined. Although it was hard and, initially, neither of us handled it as well as we could have, it bettered our friendship.
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 38164
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 19, 2014 09:31 PM
A few times when very young. IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 38164
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 24, 2014 11:35 PM
Too rooted now. IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 38164
From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 05, 2014 08:49 PM
Roots are not a bad thing. IP: Logged |
Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 286
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted March 05, 2014 08:53 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Roots are not a bad thing.
If they don't limit you. I used to be completely rooted. But it started to hinder my growth so I repotted myself IP: Logged |
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