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PixieJane
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posted March 27, 2014 02:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's a form of insanity:
http://www.cracked.com/article_20999_5-terrifying-ways-being-in-love-chemicall y-impairs-you.html

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Love does things to a person -- you know this well if you've been in love, or within a hundred feet of a friend who is. Frilly-collared poets would have you believe that it's all part of love's magical spell, but luckily science has weighed in on the subject to let us know that love triggers all sorts of weird chemical and physical changes inside our brains and bodies. And once you know about these changes, it actually explains a lot

Those links are worth exploring, too. For example, one of them was this:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/3804545.stm

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They have found that feelings of love lead to a suppression of activity in the areas of the brain controlling critical thought.

It seems that once we get close to a person, the brain decides the need to assess their character and personality is reduced.

The study, by University College London, is published in NeuroImage.

The researchers found that both romantic love and maternal love produce the same effect on the brain.

They suppress neural activity associated with critical social assessment of other people and negative emotions.

The UCL team scanned the brains of 20 young mothers while they viewed pictures of their own children, children they were acquainted with, and adult friends.

The team found that the patterns of brain activity were very similar to those identified in an earlier study looking at the effects of romantic love.


I already knew some of this, but some of it was new to me, too.

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I'm so cappy
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posted March 27, 2014 05:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Saint Valentine is the patron of the mentally ill for a reason

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Xodian
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posted March 27, 2014 05:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Xodian     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So its just a not so indusive way of being drunk . I am down with that considering that I don't drink and would really want to know what it feels like minus the Brawls, the Hangover and offcourse... the DUIs.

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted March 27, 2014 06:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This reminds me of a movie called Labor Day where this woman falls in love with an escaped convict holding her and her son hostage and he goes and writes a letter to his father and leaves it in the mail box for him to find before all three take off to Canada so the father can stop them.
The son knows what could happen since his mother is in love and his friend already told him what can happen. They lose all reason.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 27, 2014 07:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You know what is interesting? How beautiful people get when they are in love.

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posted March 27, 2014 09:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Xodian:
So its just a not so indusive way of being drunk . I am down with that considering that I don't drink and would really want to know what it feels like minus the Brawls, the Hangover and offcourse... the DUIs.

Only if you're lucky. I got the living hell beat out of me when I was 13 by a 16-year-old because her boyfriend sexually harassed me, and she didn't care that I obviously wanted nothing to do with him, she was in love and that completely distorted her senses so she was unable to see anything wrong with what he did or bear the thought that there was any rival (since it couldn't be his fault in her psychotic mind then it must be mine, as explained in the links). And she's not alone. Plenty of males and females have been known to resort to violence in their possessiveness, jealousy, and may even resort to suicide and/or murder if they feel their love unrequited, forbidden, threatened, or betrayed as the pain or other side effect is so intense. And that can lead to reckless driving (or even sabotage of a car in certain cases), btw, though restraining orders are more common. In an extreme case one woman in a fit of psychotic love not only lost most of her friends (as she worshiped a guy that everyone else could see through) but was prepared to kill her beloved dog for him (something I doubt alcohol would've done to her).

And you have to drink A LOT before your judgment gets that impaired. Many times the intoxication fades within 2 years and it's no longer intoxicating (they may genuinely love each other anyway, but it will be a stable, sober love, or may turn into friendship, especially if one believes it's not love unless it's intoxicating and thus rejects it once the brain stabilizes) which can lead to a sitch similar to waking up from a night of drinking to find yourself in bed with someone you'd have never touched without the intoxication (and you may find yourself with a child you didn't really want, especially if falling in love made you fall for a player you couldn't see through). And like alcohol it can sometimes be a terrible hangover, especially if there's any betrayal involved (and sometimes even just rejection). And the hangover, once it comes, can seem infinitely worse than a mere hangover, it's more of a wound that goes to the very soul and in extreme cases it can last for YEARS (though weeks to months are more common), one that can kill. Here's an example of the high of love and the hangover that followed (autobiographical):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6ctwWvpr28

And that's not counting how easily upset people tend to be when in love with great highs and terrible lows, sometimes feelings of terrible insecurity if not in the presence of someone they're in love with, and it can cause terrible misery to people who merely crush on someone from afar. It can even lead to addiction.

Come to think of it, it's more like alcohol than I realized, it's just a longer process.

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MoonWitch
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posted March 27, 2014 09:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonWitch     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I guess I've been drunk & insane for over 7 years now!

That's cool - We're very happy.

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PixieJane
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posted March 27, 2014 09:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just to be clear I'm not saying love sucks (I see it as just another aspect of nature, which can range from the beautiful to terrible). But I did find that fascinating, and they're right, it explains a lot which pleases me as I like to understand human behavior and it explained some inexplicable things (and outright insanity I've witnessed) to me so that after years (even decades) of wondering it makes sense to me now, and I like to share for others who would also wonder (I'd have appreciated it if someone had shared all this with me).

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted March 27, 2014 02:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting topic, Pixie! It's like love is a spectrum of sorts. No one is saying love is a terrible thing but people can be really unreasonable when they are in love with someone.
Jealousy is the dark side of love, so is breaking the law for those someone loves even though they normally wouldn't.
Unfortunately, you have experienced this dark side, Pixie
Hopefully this kind of thing won't happen again where you are caught in the web of others jealousies.

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aquaguy91
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posted March 27, 2014 02:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think you can go too far with love like anything else. I have been in love but I dont think I have ever lost my mind like some people do when they fall for someone.

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MoonWitch
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posted March 27, 2014 04:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonWitch     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by PixieJane:
Just to be clear I'm not saying love sucks (I see it as just another aspect of nature, which can range from the beautiful to terrible). But I did find that fascinating, and they're right, it explains a lot which pleases me as I like to understand human behavior and it explained some inexplicable things (and outright insanity I've witnessed) to me so that after years (even decades) of wondering it makes sense to me now, and I like to share for others who would also wonder (I'd have appreciated it if someone had shared all this with me).

Nah - I get where you are coming from. A lot of the studies make sense, at least as they pertain to 'new love' or 'romantic love'.

Once you've been with someone for a long time, I feel that love becomes deeper and about a lot more than just brain chemistry. I think it's probably the same with feelings towards adult children as opposed to infants and small children. But that's just my guess - I've no idea if a study would show that.

It's all fascinating, though.

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7thGuardian
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posted March 27, 2014 04:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 7thGuardian     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's true that love affects one's judgement, but generally speaking (as - there are some cases where one's love for another can turn into obsession - the maddening kind) - that's a good thing, even necessary - or more like complementary to one's state of being - since it affects us in a way that makes us less judgmental - less critical with the ones we love. Same applies to loving thyself.

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Padre35
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posted March 27, 2014 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cynicism requires no effort at all.

I do so enjoy the reliance on Psychologists (snicker) to buttress pov's reeks of desperation to make sense of a world that is essentially psychotic and unexplainable.

Very cult like approach actually.

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