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Topic: Dissociation
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MetalAphrodite
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posted April 08, 2014 02:57 PM
  
Do you experience dissociation with painful experiences?Like memories being wrapped in fog or even knowing the facts of stuff that had taken place, like reading a story, but not feeling any emotional connection? Or maybe even like it happened to someone else? How do you deal with this? IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted April 08, 2014 03:11 PM
I always try to confront painful experiences head-on because I strongly believe they will catch up with you later if you don't (probably when you least expect it). However I don't see much point in dwelling on them once you've experienced the pain, so yes, a certain degree of dissociation afterwards is wise otherwise we'd all be quivering wrecks for most of our lives!  IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted April 08, 2014 03:32 PM
I have been numb since I was a teen. I still am but I think I am coming out of it. I have been forcing myself to do so by forcing myself to really express what I feel and all this has been helping me get out of it.Trauma does it  ------------------
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Violets
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posted April 08, 2014 03:49 PM
I've experienced this, and I agree that it's due to trauma. People don't dissociate due to normal mishaps or even grieving throughout life, from my experience. I dealt with it by accepting that it wasn't time for me to deal with that experience yet, and allowed myself to be human. As I gradually deal with it now and address my feelings (for a year and a half this was with a very good therapist), I am still aware that it's not something I get to decide to "push". The feelings get brought up when something triggers them, and I deal with them as they come up for me. Personally, this stems from a traumatic event that happened well after childhood. IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted April 09, 2014 12:13 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I have been forcing myself to do so by forcing myself to really express what I feel and all this has been helping me get out of it.Trauma does it
I think that confronting our feelings is always good, assuming that we can deal with those feelings, or have someone to help us deal with them. Personally, I know that when feelings come up for me, I shouldn't ignore them. I try to take as long as I need (a hot bath or right before bed) to really allow myself to *feel* that stuff that I've been hiding from myself. It allows us time to really be present with those feelings that we've kept ourselves safe from, to forgive ourselves and others if possible, and to release. That's how I deal with it, but it's taken me a very long time. IP: Logged |
MetalAphrodite
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From: Zanguin :3
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posted April 09, 2014 07:50 PM
I was sexually abused when I was younger. When I tried to tell someone about it, they backhanded me and told me to not talk about these things.When I was raped at 18, I noticed a few years later I could not recall the memories themselves. I could tell the date when it happened because July 4th was the next day. I met my long distance boyfriend the end of last month. I was very torn up about leaving. When I was already some distance away, I looked for my memories with him. They were wrapped in white fuzzy fog. When I tried to deliberately clear the fog, I felt my whole body tense up. We've been arguing for the past few days and I feel the walls completely shut down on those memories. I know they happened, but I don't want to feel them. I think I'm afraid to love him, and not be by his side. IP: Logged |
MetalAphrodite
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posted April 14, 2014 07:40 PM
I've been doing research and found that I'm specifically exhibiting symptoms of dissociative amnesia. It's been really hard for me. I'm going to be looking for a therapist that practices cognitive therapy. I'm mentally and emotionally drained right now, and for the past few weeks, let alone months @__@.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted April 14, 2014 07:44 PM
I got a program on the internet that really helped me. I can't remember the person's name but it gave me hope.------------------
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MetalAphrodite
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posted April 14, 2014 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I got a program on the internet that really helped me. I can't remember the person's name but it gave me hope.
Do you know what search terms you used to find the program? I feel hopeless like this. I don't know how my brain chooses what is traumatic to me. For example, I know I was traumatized, but how does that connect to my having to leave my partner back in Paris? I also started uncovering a lot of memories that I blocked off. I looked over the past stuff and was shocked, but can't remember being so affected. My partner is rough with me mentally and emotionally. He believes I am tougher than I am legitimately and that doesn't help at all :-/. I feel like I'm whining with no desire to change, but I want to change. I don't know how to go about it. Or maybe I do and I'm just letting fear tell me that I'm not ready. I am ready. I am so ready to knock this crap back to whatever mental hell it was created from and then fart on it, then flush it down the toilet. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted April 14, 2014 09:45 PM
I think I have them and will look tomorrow. I really liked the lady. She had it. She was a psychologist and answered her phone and spent time with you so I bought the program.------------------
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MetalAphrodite
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posted April 14, 2014 10:41 PM
Thank you, Ami. I would really appreciate that.IP: Logged |
Ayelet
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posted April 15, 2014 12:00 AM
I think it's only natural that when a trauma like rape surfaces you would leave a man behind... It seems hard to me to have a relationship with a man after you have memories in which you were so severely hurt by another. You should gather as much support as you can at this time. Your boyfriend should be understanding and help you, certainly not criticise you. But perhaps he cannot.. You should have a good therapist and the support of close ones. I wish you to be done with it...IP: Logged |
mirage29
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posted April 15, 2014 12:37 AM
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mirage29
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posted April 15, 2014 01:42 AM
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