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Topic: Family Drama
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FireMoon
Knowflake Posts: 1610
From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 12, 2014 09:42 AM
  
edit... basically I'm trying to face where all of my issues originate from and it's not pretty lol. My mom is such a toxic (dare I say evil) person and my dad is completely checked out... doesn't even have his own personality apparently. Anyway it's not important but I'm really trying to move on once and for all from all unhealthy relationship patterns and my family isn't making it easy...IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 53818
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 12, 2014 10:16 AM
I have parents like that. I struggled my whole life( or from 14 on) to get my mind free of them. I think I have made progress.1. Don't let anyone to tell you to rush it( Hi Cata  ) 2. You will take all the time you need. 3. If you want it badly enough, you won't stop until you get traction. 4. In the end, it is within us and only we can extricate it but this took sooooooo long for me to see. That is my 2 cents. ------------------
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FireMoon
Knowflake Posts: 1610
From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 12, 2014 10:33 AM
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Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 519
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 12, 2014 10:41 AM
You can do it! I believe in you  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-gQLqv9f4o A peptalk from kid president. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 3204
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 12, 2014 10:59 AM
Wow, FireMoon...your mom and my mom should get together and go bowling or something. They sound like they could be twins. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck. And yes, if you just keep going with it, eventually you will gain traction.  IP: Logged |
Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 519
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 12, 2014 11:19 AM
Your family issues seem really complicated and intentionally hurtful, and for that I'm sorry. It sounds draining, and if you want to give up on family I think it is your prerogative. I have known one such person (a little removed) in my family, and redemption is possible however. Though it might come much later in life (in old age, for example, when they become more dependent on you). It's a journey. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 3204
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 12, 2014 11:43 AM
It's interesting to me that a few of the threads here lately have brought up feelings for me that I thought I had moved on with.IP: Logged |
Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 483
From: London, UK
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted April 12, 2014 11:55 AM
Sibyl your relationship with your father is almost exactly how mine was with mine. It's more difficult when you're growing up, even as a young adult, but when you get to a certain age and they are sort of declining (in health mostly) then it's easier to find compassion to accept them warts and all and just move on. I made a point of telling my father a few times before he died of cancer that I loved him, even if sometimes I actually hated him and his attitude towards me when I was younger. You just have to be yourself. If you're capable of being loving to OTHER people, then you can demonstrate it to those you've had issues with too. They can either reciprocate or ignore you, but that's ultimately up to them. It's not your fault if they don't. It gave me a clear conscience anyway. To be called a "worthless piece of sh*t" though (as Firemoon mentioned was her experience) would, for me personally, be a total dealbreaker. I'd want to get away asap. I don't understand why ANY parent would want to call their child this. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 3204
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted April 12, 2014 01:16 PM
Sorry, I edited out most of my posts. I don't really like to talk about the details of my childhood woes, but they do tend to follow us around until we're able to get through the many layers. I still have many layers to dig through, personally. But I've made gigantic leaps as far as that progress goes, so...I wish you well, FireMoon. And I can relate very much indeed. IP: Logged |
FireMoon
Knowflake Posts: 1610
From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 12, 2014 06:59 PM
Thank you guys for all of your responses, I appreciate it... And I completely understand Violets, sometimes I write things here and then regret it lol but yeah I have a lot of layers to work through too and it's difficult to talk about the details. But just wanted to say thanks again and I'll come back to respond more in depth later today probably...IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 10034
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 12, 2014 07:41 PM
Hey FireMoon, I hope you find peace!
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Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 519
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 13, 2014 06:08 AM
I agree with you one 100 %, Jo B IP: Logged |
PlutoSurvivor
Moderator Posts: 689
From: USA
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 16, 2014 11:55 PM
Sometimes you have to step away from your family, temporarily or permanently, to heal. They can't make it rough on you if you are your own authority. Don't give your authority away - don't keep going back for more of the same crap. Get the message and tap into your own power, which you can never lose, and create something new and better for yourself, with or without them.
Y O U matter most. Sending hugs... IP: Logged |
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