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Topic: If you know a person above 40...
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 9778
From: Death Star
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 18, 2014 07:43 AM
  
...who's never been in a relationship and you're close with them enough to know, are they happy with their lives?------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted May 18, 2014 07:57 AM
Know some. As far as I can see they seem content and happy. They told me that it's just one of the many ways to live ya life. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 18, 2014 08:54 AM
Being happy doesn't depend on anyone else, I think, but it is sad to live the whole life without knowing love  IP: Logged |
SunMoonStars
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted May 18, 2014 09:01 AM
Not having been in a relationship does not necessarily mean being without love or not knowing love... (And being in one does not always mean there is love).IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 18, 2014 09:01 AM
I know one and he's very unhappy. That doesn't mean much though.. He's just one person.
He has a Pisces Venus so he's more into Disney than you would be Cappy.. lolIP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 18, 2014 09:12 AM
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Originally posted by SunMoonStars:
Not having been in a relationship does not necessarily mean being without love or not knowing love... (And being in one does not always mean there is love).
Yeah, obviously, but I don't know how we can know love (loving, sharing your life with a person) without being in a relationship????? I am talking about romantic love, not family or friend love. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 18, 2014 09:13 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
I know one and he's very unhappy. That doesn't mean much though.. He's just one person.
He has a Pisces Venus so he's more into Disney than you would be Cappy.. lol
Wait...Cappy's into Disney?? I wanna know everything about Cappy, she's part of my harem. IP: Logged |
7thGuardian
Knowflake Posts: 1479
From: Transylvania
Registered: May 2012
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posted May 18, 2014 09:30 AM
It's not the same for men - as it is for women. Though, for some women over 40's - cats seems to be a feasible recipe for happiness:  
 The more - the better at facing the loneliness... i guess.
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 9778
From: Death Star
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 18, 2014 09:40 AM
I'll settle down with a doggy  quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
He has a Pisces Venus so he's more into Disney than you would be Cappy.. lol
Shhh, you're ruining my ice queen image! 
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I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy.
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Doux Rêve
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posted May 18, 2014 10:17 AM
Lol @ 7th. Looks like me in a few years. Kidding, I don't have time to take care of lovely creatures (only to look at their pics on the web, hehe). --- I don't think age is the issue here.
If you feel in your heart that you'd like to share your life (or even a part of your life) with someone, you will be unhappy deep down, no matter what rationalizations you may come up with. If you genuinely don't feel the desire nor the need to have a S.O, then you could be okay, although you may have other issues on the side which could make you unhappy. I tend to think that most people need a S.O. to be fully satisfied in life, but I can understand that everyone is different and what works for X may not work for Y. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted May 18, 2014 12:34 PM
I hate the cat thing! I love my cats, and my dogs! why doesn't anyone mention dogs?Animals are the best, but it doesn't cut it when you're lonely for a partner. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 18, 2014 02:19 PM
The first gif gives me a panic attack lolIP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted May 18, 2014 02:46 PM
I do not see age as a factor in happiness or lack of it.
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Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted May 18, 2014 02:52 PM
I'm over an over 40 male, single and as happy as I have ever been and in the best physical shape of my life and just graduated from college and playing around with some business ideas.
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 9778
From: Death Star
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 18, 2014 03:42 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
I do not see age as a factor in happiness or lack of it.
This thread is not about age. It's about never ever being in a relationship.
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I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy.
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Dancing Maenad
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posted May 18, 2014 04:12 PM
Well I do know 2 women, but one has been in relationships (and quite a few of them! Aries Venus mind you), the other one, no idea. Point is, one is in her early 60s, the other one in her late 40s and they're both happy doing their own thing, traveling by themselves, living a man-less existence.
I am in my 30s and am happy to be single, but I have been in relationships and want to be again, in the future.
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~the raving one dancing in the nude~ IP: Logged |
Violets
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posted May 18, 2014 05:33 PM
Gahhh! Stop with the Cat Lady pics!
I'm going to pretend I never saw it...
  If you're not interested in a relationship, I think that's fine. Or whatever makes everyone happy. I don't think Cappy will turn into Crazy Cat Lady.  And a dog always sounds nice to me, although I think I would prefer chickens. They sleep outside (in a coop, obviously), give you eggs, and mind their own business while still being very cute. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Knowflake Posts: 9885
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 18, 2014 06:33 PM
Yes.Furthermore, I've known those who have been in relationships who were more bitter and disillusioned and thus miserable over how it turned out (whether they were still in the said relationship or not) whereas the one who never bothered wasn't so scarred. However, much of the rest of society tends to bug them about it unless they restrict themselves to a select group of friends. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted May 18, 2014 07:20 PM
Not exactly the feel good story of the year, but cappy might like it:  IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted May 18, 2014 07:44 PM
Congrats, Padre. I hope you celebrate that achievement (graduation) accordingly. I'm thinking of going back to school myself. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 3996
From: Asheville, NC, US
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posted May 18, 2014 07:53 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Yin:
Congrats, Padre. I hope you celebrate that achievement (graduation) accordingly. I'm thinking of going back to school myself.
Thanks Yin! Long long process, with some minor stuff tucked in along the way. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted May 18, 2014 09:23 PM
I have a cousin who's mid-late 40s and hasn't had a relationship or been out of his parents house.
But he's autistic or something....
He's nice and easy to talk to but shy and keeps to himself mostly. Craaaaazy clean freak. He knows if a picture has been moved, no joke. Now, to ease anyone such as cappy or those concerned for her... Or whatever the case. I know a woman who was single for many years. People suspected her of being a closet lesbian,just afraid to tell us.
But, around age 22 or 23 she got with my friend Brian. They married in 2005, have a daughter and a business.
Some people are just selective and don't need "a relationship", they just need the right one. IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 9778
From: Death Star
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 19, 2014 06:10 AM
Pixie  quote:
Now, to ease anyone such as cappy or those concerned for her... Or whatever the case.I know a woman who was single for many years. People suspected her of being a closet lesbian,just afraid to tell us.
But, around age 22 or 23 she got with my friend Brian. They married in 2005, have a daughter and a business.
Some people are just selective and don't need "a relationship", they just need the right one.
Only 5 years in the beginning of her adult life and when dating shouldn't even be a priority. Thanks for trying though ------------------
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 12914
From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted May 19, 2014 06:30 AM
I know a few older men who have never dated or had a girlfriend. One guy I am sort of friends with is 41 and admitted to being a virgin. None of these guys seem to be really happy about their perpetual singleness but they seem to cope with it well enough. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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posted May 19, 2014 07:17 AM
quote:
Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I know a woman who was single for many years. People suspected her of being a closet lesbian,just afraid to tell us.
But, around age 22 or 23 she got with my friend Brian. They married in 2005, have a daughter and a business.
Some people are just selective and don't need "a relationship", they just need the right one.
I don't see why people would think there's something wrong or out of ordinary with someone 22 years of age who doesn't have a girlfriend/boyfriend, since most young people at this age are focused on studies, not relationships. It's not like we're in the 18th century anymore, to be considered a "spinster" if you don't marry by 25! geez! Most people I know didn't have a really serious relationship until 25!
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