posted June 04, 2014 03:05 AM            

I am so SICK of WOMEN wanting me to JOIN their STUPID trendy FAD to get in shape quick BUULLLSHIT!

Whenever someone decides they want to do one of these for some reason they can't just do them by their F*CKING SELF! And to people like this, I look like that to them.

I always liked running, and am glad my older sister got me into it. Started running with a friend from time to time which is cool. She wanted to, I didn't ask her, or make her. Either way I am happy running with a friend or by my self. I don't NEED to seek someone out to tell someone they should have the same stupid fitness goals as me.

A few years ago I was watching what I ate, and got back into running to blow off steam.(cause stuff was unfair and I needed a positive outlet) And that's when the weight really melted off of me. And oh boy this friend of mine wants to jump on the ban wagon with me and go running with me. Which seemed cool at first. Back in the day she encouraged me to run farther. We went A FEW TIMES and after that it was almost always "Yeah lets work out on this day" and then all she did was flake flake FLAKE! Weather she was tired, something else came up, or she just didn't feel like it.
Just the most annoying POS work out buddy imaginable..."okay we really need to work out today" I come over, dressed to work out. "you're gonna hate me...I really am just not up for it" wants to watch TV and eat food instead.

Like she ruined my fitness routine. It's like she secretly didn't wanted me to look my best.

I always waited for her, cause she acted like she wanted to. When really she just wanted to do it a few times cause I made it look fun and trendy.

When you have a POS(she's my friend but that doesn't change the facts that she was being a POS) work out buddy like that you eventually start exercising behind their back, and then realize you should not feel bad about it, and eventually say "oh yeah, I went running yesterday"

this friend IDK friend Gemini moon that is no where near being out of shape. Skinny you know. Eats fast food, but picks at it when she eats. Her sister posted on FB that she did a oh so trendy 30 day challenge. So my friend wants to get me on the ban wagon, and our other friends too.
1. Why do her workout "commitments" have to be mine?
2.I'd rather go running, dancing, or swimming.
3.Sounds like a plan that preys on people being desperate.
4. It sounds like a stupid trend
5. I already have a butt!!(for the get a nice butt challenge)
6. Nothing like a 30 day challenge to say you can look like something you're supposedly not
7. This is stupid
8. If I found something that already works for me, why is it so important that I do this
9. I already look good.
10. Shove the 30 day challenge up your own *ss!!!
11. This is what it sounds like inside the head of someone who is too nice to tell someone the way they want to get in shape sounds stupid. (to each their own and why discourage people)
12. I hate just counting and repeatedly staying in the some place doing the same moves.

The days I didn't hang out with this friend she was like "DO THEM ALSO WHEN YOU DON'T HANG OUT WITH ME."

I lied, then told her I forgot, then she would tell me I need to do them.

Ya know how hard it was to not go off on her? And just push that under...(I WAS FINE WORKING OUT BEFORE HER BS!!)

I eventually was able to calmly tell her that I didn't like them that much and would rather work out other ways.

posted June 04, 2014 03:16 AM            

And yeah if I felt uncomfortable telling my friend she was being a pain in the *ss, imagine how uncomfortable I feel saying that to his mom.

posted June 04, 2014 03:52 AM            

I am glad I will never have to navigate the maze that is female - female friendship.

I will sympathise with you on the front that any friends I do have who do things like Gyms, or fitness boot camps and such do talk about them and sometimes suggest to others. Yeah you should come along give it a go. So I do understand those types of people. I can proudly say I have never been into a Gym.

posted June 04, 2014 03:59 AM            

That caveat aside, perhaps no one has done this to me as they (rightfully) fear that if I get annoyed then I'll be an even BIGGER PITA than them about it...like these guys, I'll yell at them to RUN, RUN, RUN!!!
http://youtu.be/a8uoffERYjM?t=1m37s

And Goddess help them if they're not "up for it" or otherwise try to flake out because how I'd react would NOT end for them like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlNqKoAh3_Y

posted June 04, 2014 04:06 AM            

Sandi: Can't...I...rest...now?

Quinn: Did Cleopatra rest when she was inventing mascara? Did Neferiti rest when she was posing for statues? Did Helen of Troy rest when she was doing whatever it was she did? Beauty never rests! NOW, SWIM, YOU COW, SWIM!!!

Sandi: What?!

posted June 04, 2014 04:22 AM            

I went shopping w/ his mom to buy the weights whatever cool...

On Monday she tells me "you gained all your weight back, I'm gonna get you to do my (trendy quick fix notice results in a week) workouts with me"

HOW CHARMING!! And for someone to TELL ME that I gained all my weight back when they don't have a f***ing clue how much I use to weigh before they met me.

A simple feel "free to try this new workout with me" would of been fine!

There are still people out there that try to shove down people's throat that skinny is the only kind of attractive there is.

You know cause she is skinny, and I noticed that she is biased and everyone should do everything like her.

Yeah I gained some! But I am nowhere close to what I used to be. All that has happened is that I can't squeeze into a size 5 right now. Can still fit into 6 sizes and small and medium clothing.

Thanks God she did not have any girls.

She even tells her boys "no fat girls" My guy basically told me that he is turned on that I am not skinny. (TO EACH THEIR OWN, I'm not saying all guys think like mine, keep that in mind)

I basically let her know that I am pretty happy with my self and that I came a long way. She did not believe me that I went from a size 14 to a size 6 (I'm five foot one btw and in my 20's)until I showed her old pictures.

My guy did not want to get in the middle of this. Damned if he takes my side, damned if he takes his mom's side(which he wouldn't cause I weighed more when we started dating.)But his mom is capable of throwing fits, and he lives with her. But would speak up when she was completely talking out of her @ss acting like a fitness know it all when he is a marine. I basically let her know that I got back into running. And I'm currently going once a week(it's a start). Then she was like "That's WHY you gained weight! Only exercising once a week will make people gain weight!"

Anyways I did the girly weight get a toned stomach in a week bs with her. I don't mind trying new things I guess. Don't get me wrong I like his mom and get a long with her...
But yeah I basically found out she is on this workout phase/craze because when she goes to her boyfriend's house and swims in his pool she doesn't like the way she looks.
I told her she looks great, and that guys are less critical than we are. Then she says "until a better looking woman walks by"

Her thinking is that WARPED!!
She goes on like women are always competing with each other and you gotta keep up.

I don't think I can put into words how messed up and sexist and double standardy THAT IS!! To say that all men are like that, she insulted her boyfriend and her son by saying that. And that we have to PUT UP with men being that way, and it's our fault if a guy is that shallow. But who am I to tell my boyfriend's mom this? So I just...

I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend she said this...cause I know he would be ****** at his mom, and really what good does that do? I think I would only bring it up if she gets really out of hand.

But yeah when I don't do them with her she wants me to do them on my own...not this **** again....

But yeah as you can see I do not like where her motivation is coming from. If that works for her fine. I do feel sad that she thinks that way, I met her boyfriend once and he was a very nice gentle matured guy, I think he likes her because they share chemistry and humor. Not because of only her looks. But I do not appreciate her trying to make her insecurities be my insecurities too.

posted June 04, 2014 04:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Swift Freeze:
Bahaha, thank you for the morning laugh.

I am glad I will never have to navigate the maze that is female - female friendship.

I will sympathise with you on the front that any friends I do have who do things like Gyms, or fitness boot camps and such do talk about them and sometimes suggest to others. Yeah you should come along give it a go. So I do understand those types of people. I can proudly say I have never been into a Gym.

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posted June 04, 2014 04:40 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Not sure what this is. I looked it up but the website wasn't that informative and I didn't feel like digging for more. The same site has claimed so many pages that I'd guess it's a way to make money (because they had to pay Google big bucks for that) but I didn't see how. And then when I clicked on Recipes (to see if they were selling food) it (like many other pages) were unavailable. So I'm lacking context here.

That caveat aside, perhaps no one has done this to me as they (rightfully) fear that if I get annoyed then I'll be an even BIGGER PITA than them about it...like these guys, I'll yell at them to RUN, RUN, RUN!!!
http://youtu.be/a8uoffERYjM?t=1m37s

And Goddess help them if they're not "up for it" or otherwise try to flake out because how I'd react would NOT end for them like this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlNqKoAh3_Y

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posted June 04, 2014 01:23 PM            

You have a lot more patience than I do, because mother of my man be damned, I would not respond so nicely. I'm a certified fitness professional and the last thing I would ever do is critique people's bodies because that takes away from the whole point of exercising- being healthy!

It sounds like she has a lot of self-worth/body issues and is projecting onto other people. Just do you- there is no right or wrong way to be active.

Edit: this is also why I left the fitness industry and am more research bound. I got tired of the body shaming, extreme health fads, and pressure to 'look super fit.' There was always competition at my work- who could eat the 'cleanest,' lowest body fat, getting plastic surgery, weight loss, etc.

posted June 04, 2014 01:41 PM            

So I HATE it on that rare occasion when I decide to have a Snickers bar, or a burger or something, and someone decides to comment on it in that 'tsk tsk' voice. "Whaaaat? You're having thaaaat? What about your figure? That's not good for you."

posted June 04, 2014 08:50 PM            

Plus his mom knows that I am going to quit smoking soon...and that's how she treats someone who is going to quit smoking? Even if I wasn't, how trashy!

Yeah I'm hoping this phase of hers dies out soon. I do not like that she wants to project her insecurities on me. Yeah she "be trippin" every so often. If I tell her she is wrong, or my guy does...I don't think I want to know...

But if she keeps telling me I'm not good enough...or goes on about how if there is a more in shape women men will drops ya like you're suddenly out of style, and go after that women...ALL MEN. And it is up to us to compete and beat other random good looking women and keep our man! I might eventually blurt out.

As long as I like how I look, and my guy does, and no one asks me if I'm knocked up...I do not give any flying f*cks what other people think. Only I, or a doctor can say that I need to loose weight.

posted June 04, 2014 09:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Then she says "until a better looking woman walks by"

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And that's when I say, "That's okay, I'm just with your son until a richer man walks by."

Not everyone can handle my sense of humor, however.

posted June 04, 2014 09:45 PM            

I was thinking something along those lines...haha

posted June 04, 2014 09:46 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
I generally eat pretty healthy food when I'm at work and people notice that ---

So I HATE it on that rare occasion when I decide to have a Snickers bar, or a burger or something, and someone decides to comment on it in that 'tsk tsk' voice. "Whaaaat? You're having thaaaat? What about your figure? That's not good for you."

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When I was waiting with kids for a ride and eating a very rare candy bar (and from a health food store so not that sweet) and holding a pizza we were going to take home I caught several women glaring hatefully at me.

I asked the girl (entering high school) if she knew why that was and she said it was because I was in top physical shape (athletic, not to be confused with scarecrow thin) with no flab on me and yet here I was with kids (not that I gave birth to them myself), holding a pizza, and eating a candy bar. The worse the women my age and older glared at me the more out of shape they tended to be (most of them were picking up a pizza, too).

posted June 04, 2014 09:47 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
Invariably, it's the person that has burgers and burritos every day for lunch and that makes it MORE annoying.

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And I know a guy that has ceased being polite to those who smugly ask him why he gets a diet soda with say a burger & fries as if the only possible reason is because he's trying to lose weight. It's not, he's hypoglycemic and can handle fast food, but he can't have a regular coke as it would send him into shock (thus, diet), and he gets tired of people with idiotic assumptions thinking he's the idiot.

posted June 05, 2014 09:33 AM            

Another thing I thought of I'm wearing a size extra small sweater right now. (a size I never thought I would wear again) And I'm getting told to loose weight!? wtf

And she wants me to make sure we do these everyday. I think that's f*cked up. If she wants to do that goal herself fine. But to tell other people to do the same...I don't know how to tell her to f*ck off and get a reality check. Like dictator much. Yadda yadda it's a way for us to bond. But sometimes I have other things I'd rather do with my time after work sometimes, cause I'm not paranoid and feel I have to constantly look perfectly in shape.

I don't get why people think other people want the same fitness goals as them, and that people with lives outside of them, want to commit to that everyday. I let her know I can't come over everyday at least. And eventually in the most tactful way I'm going to have to tell her that I'm my own person with my own goals, impressing her shouldn't be more important then impressing myself(and my boyfriend) And the right guy won't make you feel like you have to compete with other women. WHY WOULD ANYONE PUT UP WITH THAT, and think it's okay for their S.O. to make them feel like that!?

And quitting smoking, figuring out school work making money. Are a little bit more of a priority right now, and going on my only vacation of the year, and enjoying it. I haven't even had time to look into buying herbal ciggs that helps quitters. And I want to have those before I go on vacation.

posted June 05, 2014 09:37 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
When I was waiting with kids for a ride and eating a very rare candy bar (and from a health food store so not that sweet) and holding a pizza we were going to take home I caught several women glaring hatefully at me.

I asked the girl (entering high school) if she knew why that was and she said it was because I was in top physical shape (athletic, not to be confused with scarecrow thin) with no flab on me and yet here I was with kids (not that I gave birth to them myself), holding a pizza, and eating a candy bar. The worse the women my age and older glared at me the more out of shape they tended to be (most of them were picking up a pizza, too).

I laughed and said maybe I needed to go back to school for a refresher on how the world works.

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I don't get it. I don't know why people notice or care about those things. I guess I'm oblivious to the world. Or I've lived in LA too long and I am used to being out of shape.

I just... really.... don't care what other people are or aren't shoving in their cake hole! OR what they are or aren't doing at the gym.

posted June 05, 2014 07:23 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:

I don't get it. I don't know why people notice or care about those things. I guess I'm oblivious to the world. Or I've lived in LA too long and I am used to being out of shape.

I just... really.... don't care what other people are or aren't shoving in their cake hole! OR what they are or aren't doing at the gym.

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At the risk of taking you too literally, I'll point out that they felt I was getting a "free pass" because I was, in their view, eating candy (they probably thought it was a sugar bomb instead of what it was, and that I had candy bars all the time), having kids (why else would the kids be with me?), and eating a lot of pizza yet I was still in shape. "IT'S NOT FAIR!" And quite possibly I was getting away with a "crime."

I'd say it's related to the women (and girls when I was younger) who were hostile to me because I was competition for the males they desired. Even if it was obvious I was not competing against them for their guy (or the one they were interested in) they would still take offense...and at times made it worse when she knew I wasn't even trying but getting it while she was putting out effort and not (I can share stories).

In short, they're very much like the mother of Stawr's guy.

Now if you intellectually understood that already but don't get why it's the big deal to them that it is then my belief is that they (*) were raised on messages (from parents, churches, toys, movies, books, even advertisements with the assumptions woven in) that their primary purpose is to find a man. Note the "primary." Men are expected to find a women but they're important in other ways as well. Women, generally, are not. Males AND females will often verbally attack a female by how well she can accomplish this (from her looks to desirability as a partner to a man) no matter how irrelevant it is to whatever brought it up. Throw in some low self-esteem (which many forces seek to erode to better control or exploit them) and I can, from an intellectual perspective anyway, understand why this becomes an all-consuming game that dominates their minds and makes them react the way those women did to me outside the pizza place or Stawr's possible future mother in law.

And yeah, it's really sad. (And so are the diets listed to get women "down to your usual weight after childbirth" as if that's so important.)

(*I say "they" but I was also raised in it, and to a point boys are raised with it as well in a similar way that compliments this social programming, what some call "mind viruses." In my case, not only do I have astrological attributes that would combat it, but I was ostracized from most girls between the ages of 6-10 which shunted me with the boys and gave me some different experiences & perspectives, and I kept a foot in boy world through the rest of my growing years.

posted June 06, 2014 07:09 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
If I were you, I would ALWAYS go running with someone who is about the same level fitness because it's safer than going alone. So many true crime stories about this particular situation so just think of it as a godsend but only if the person you are with is at your level otherwise they will run faster and it will be frustrating for you.

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posted June 06, 2014 07:31 PM            

Whether it's suppose to be funny like "Legally Blonde," "Bring it on," Miss Congeniality" etc Maybe worth watching once, but after that no need to watch them ever again.

Or just the flat out romance young love movies like the "Notebook," "Twilight," "Dear Jon"...Not even worth watching once!