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Topic: Does anyone have a working trick in how to tell between "in love" and "infatuation"?
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charlie
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From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 11, 2014 09:46 AM
  
Question is self explanatory. I have a trick determining whether I REALLY like a pair of shoes or a bag and once that is established I bring forth wallet but with men? That philosophy not worky very much...maybe I have always been in short or longer infatuation phases and never been in love? I am thankful for all mature advice! IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 11, 2014 10:55 AM
Aren't you infatuated when you're in love? I don't truly see the difference between those two. But "in love" may not equal "love". Shrug.Anyway, one thing I used to do to know whether I really, really liked someone like for real, was to imagine them being gross in some way and my reaction to that thought. If I'd get grossed out completely, then it was an indication that I wasn't fully into them. If the thought didn't bother me too much, then it was pretty safe to assume I was quite "in love" but more than just fleeting infatuation. It may be dumb but I guess it worked for my Libra Venus... (we don't like gross stuff) lol.
Or you can always ask Google. http://www.wikihow.com/Know-the-Difference-Between-Love,-Infatuation-and-Lust
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Ami Anne
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posted June 11, 2014 11:11 AM
It may be dumb but I guess it worked for my Libra Venus... (we don't like gross stuff) lol.My son is the same way. I did not really understand that until I got more of an idea of the Libra venus, then I had to change my humor  ------------------
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Violets
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posted June 11, 2014 11:23 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
My son is the same way. I did not really understand that until I got more of an idea of the Libra venus, then I had to change my humor
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charlie
Knowflake Posts: 1895
From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 11, 2014 11:39 AM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Aren't you infatuated when you're in love? I don't truly see the difference between those two. But "in love" may not equal "love". Shrug.Anyway, one thing I used to do to know whether I really, really liked someone like for real, was to imagine them being gross in some way and my reaction to that thought. If I'd get grossed out completely, then it was an indication that I wasn't fully into them. If the thought didn't bother me too much, then it was pretty safe to assume I was quite "in love" but more than just fleeting infatuation. It may be dumb but I guess it worked for my Libra Venus... (we don't like gross stuff) lol.
Or you can always ask Google. http://www.wikihow.com/Know-the-Difference-Between-Love,-Infatuation-and-Lust
What kinda grossness are we talking here?? O.o my mind can go places.. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted June 11, 2014 12:06 PM
I’m not sure either. But when I love someone, I accept them completely, their “good” aspects, their “bad” aspects. Even if they suddenly turn ugly, mad etcetera etcetera I’d still love them. But I’ve realized that my love withers away with time. That being said, once I love someone, even after we part, I still accept them completely as they are. When I’m “infatuated” with someone, I only get attracted to certain parts of them. For example, I get attracted to their appearance but dislike their persona, or I get attracted to their persona but dislike their appearance, I may love their eyes but hate their lips etc. I only love them in bits and pieces, not completely.And I don’t think whether you really love someone or not is determined by the duration of your relationship with them. You may love someone only for a week, but that’s still love IMO. You may spend years with someone, but still may not love them. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 11, 2014 12:12 PM
Yeah good points, anonymi.
But sometimes you can be infatuated with a person in their entirety, but still not truly love them. I think.Charlie, It doesn't matter what kind. Just something that you're naturally grossed out by. It doesn't have to be extreme, mind you. Just find whatever works for you... IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted June 11, 2014 12:16 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Yeah good points, anonymi.
But sometimes you can be infatuated with a person in their entirety, but still not truly love them. I think.
What is true love ? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 11, 2014 12:20 PM
Noooo not that question, ugh.When you want their happiness as much as you want your own... or something selfless like that. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted June 11, 2014 12:27 PM
Martyrdom isn’t always love, but yeah, I get what you mean.IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted June 11, 2014 12:44 PM
I don't want to define love itself. But, ONE thing may be to imagine yourself saying it to that person. Really get into it in your head. Imagine that you are going to tell them tomorrow or later today, and/or they will you.
Does it feel natural? For me... It pretty much just rolled off the tongue saying goodbye on the phone - extremely natural.
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 11, 2014 12:59 PM
"Time."IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
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posted June 11, 2014 01:47 PM
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
"Time."
Perfect!
As much or as little as it takes...
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IV XXIV
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Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 11, 2014 05:41 PM
YouTuber Shane Dawson said he imagines this person throwing up, and asks himself, "Would I catch their throw-up in my hands?" It's quite weird, but I get it. I don't know why you'd have to catch someone's vomit, though lol. I just imagine worst case scenarios; during ugly fights, will I still want to be with you? Or will I just up and leave? If you're sick, will I be turned off, or will I want to stay and take care of you? And I normally just tell if I love someone by saying, "Would I cheat on them with *insert my celebrity love here*?" It's terrible, I know, but if I answer "no", then it's pretty much a done deal. I'm in love. But, a short and sweet answer would be what Ellynlvx said.. Time. It's got an ugly way of showing you someone's true colors, and if you can still love them when you learn the sun doesn't shine out of their a*s, then I'd say you're in love. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted June 11, 2014 05:42 PM
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