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Barbiegirl19
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posted June 24, 2014 05:16 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ariestaurus:

Again, as PJ pointed out ,he identifies himself as a male on his driver's license. Yes, he says he is a gender non-conformist, but his issue isn't with the fact that is says "Male" on his driver's license- it's that he isn't allowed to wear make-up as he normally does. This issue is about make-up- the picture is just of his face so the way he was dressed for the picture wouldn't matter.

Look at the before and after pics.. Do you really see such a huge difference between pic 1 and pic 2?

And you're worried that criminals would do the same? As if Charles Manson would have escaped from the police if only he'd had a bit of lipstick on in his driver's license pic!!!


I know and understand what she said. I can read. I'm not talking about him being just male. The whole idea is he's obstructing the way he looks naturally. That's the whole argument LOL. If Manson were legislated under you and PJ's argument than yes he would have.

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DeepFreeze
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posted June 24, 2014 05:20 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok, this is my final time, as clear as I can make myself. Then, if you disagree. I agree to disagree then. If this doesn't make sense, then I got nothing.

It's still an unusual thing for men to wear make-up. It's not common. Not yet. Some may so it's becoming more common and needs accepted. Well, I seldom see a man wearing make-up that I'm aware of. There's one at Wal-Mart that works there I think. Just.. not very many. Certainly less than 1% from what I see personally. I'm sure there are areas of higher ratios of men who wear makeup. I've traveled quite a bit of the country and I just don't see it. It's uncommon.

The point is... if he has makeup OFF in the picture. If he is arrested, suspect, whatever. If his identity is in question. Regardless if he wears makeup everyday. If there is ANY question, they can always request him to take it off to better identify him. If he has makeup ON in the picture, but not on when he's trying to be identified. They can't go, "Oh, could you put makeup on sir so that we can make sure it's you?" It's easier just no makeup. You see?

This individual may not look very much different with or without, but some people may look very different. What you allow for one, you have to allow for all. It's much easier without adding in that potential complication.

In fact, if I were in charge and I saw some woman with very heavy make-up, I'd have HER remove it too.
The point is to look very natural. It's easier to just remove that, than to play guessing games with an ID picture. Or give someone another edge in creating a fake ID.

It just saves a lot of hassle with law enforcement across the country. It's not about this boy, or his "rights". It's about making the system as simple as they can. Even just a case by case basis is inviting trouble.

Just for pete's sake.... take it off for an hour or two that you need to get your license. Big deal.
People complain about their pictures as if it's going on some dating website. It's your state issued id. I look like some kind of crazed serial killer in mine. I truly do. (damn pluto)
lol

To all that disagree, no problem.
I highly doubt any of us will change our minds but I guess we can all plant the seed of thought, right?

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MetalAphrodite
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posted June 24, 2014 07:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MetalAphrodite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What I don't understand is why make up is supposed to be strictly female.

It's an exert on power and authority, and the abuse of such. Because of that kind of drama, that's the only reason I think it should stay home, as indicated from the first page.

However, I don't believe make up should be limited to any one gender. From what I saw on google, he applied his make up tastefully and with care. It wasn't an outrageous transformation or anything of the sort.

The more I think about traditional and stereotyped gender roles, the more I feel those labels should be obliterated.

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted June 24, 2014 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wanted to wear sunglasses and hat in mine they said no.

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PixieJane
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posted June 24, 2014 09:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Fun fact about Manson, his license may have had his height wrong (he probably lost a lot of weight between when this pic was taken and when he was arrested) and I believe this was his last license:

Contrast with his mugshot:

I'm pretty sure most of us agree that his adding lipstick wouldn't have made anymore of a difference. And people had more rights back then than they do today (it's arguable whether police brutality is better or worse).

Just pointing out for anyone interested.

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KarkaQueen
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posted June 24, 2014 09:23 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
cuz blacks in the 60s were totally happy with rich houses and families and political and social rights.

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DeepFreeze
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posted June 24, 2014 09:30 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Anyone is free to read my post. lol

It's not about rights at all. I, nor the government or dmv gives two mouse craps if this kid wears makeup. Just not in the id picture.
It's not that difficult.

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Barbiegirl19
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posted June 24, 2014 09:30 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
cuz blacks in the 60s were totally happy with rich houses and families and political and social rights.

LOL.

Weren't you just screaming(not literally, you wrote as if you were lol) at Doux for being "ignorant" supposedly, Pixie Jane? wow

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KarkaQueen
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posted June 24, 2014 09:33 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
LOL.

Weren't you just screaming(not literally, you wrote as if you were lol) at Doux for being "ignorant" supposedly Pixie Jane? wow


Pixie Jane said, "And people had more rights back then than they do today (it's arguable whether police brutality is better or worse)."
Then I replied tongue in cheek, "cuz blacks in the 60s were totally happy with rich houses and families and political and social rights."

Don't see how that's ignorant. And I don't remember yelling at Doux*

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Barbiegirl19
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posted June 24, 2014 09:37 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Can't you read. The second paragraph wasn't intended for you LOL. I understood what you were saying.

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted June 24, 2014 09:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Manson actually looks like a nice, lovable guy in his D.L. photo.

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KarkaQueen
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posted June 24, 2014 09:43 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
Can't you read. The second paragraph wasn't intended for you LOL. I understood what you were saying.

D'oh. The lack of punctuation is what threw me off lol

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted June 24, 2014 09:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Where I live, men wearing make up is very rare indeed.

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Randall
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posted June 24, 2014 09:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Why don't we ask women to remove their make-up in a DL photo? I understand the state having regulations, and that's one of the reasons why the courts are there--to facilitate changes in the laws. If I were a practicing attorney and licensed in that state, I would take the case. I think I could win it. It might even go to the state Supreme Court.

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted June 24, 2014 09:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In that case, let's just let the men wear it if they want
I don't want to show off a pic of myself without makeup every time someone asks for ID.

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MoonWitch
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posted June 24, 2014 09:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonWitch     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If a woman looked too much like a man would they make her grow out her hair and put on lipstick?

I mean, society doesn't think it's "normal" for a woman to be bald. Would they make her put on a wig in case her hair grew out so they'd know what she'd look like in 6 months?

If a woman was wearing too much unnatural makeup they wouldn't make her take it off so the 'natural as possible' idea doesn't really fly either.

I have male friends with multi-colored hair that are glued up into spikes that can't be removed without shaving their heads. That's not 'normal'. Is the DMV going to tell them what hairstyle they should have?

Ugh... conformists bug me. Yes, there should be basic laws to protect the public from a-holes but when the government tries to dig their noses firmly into every.single.aspect of daily life it's just too much. It baffles me why some people are willing to put up with it.


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Barbiegirl19
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posted June 24, 2014 09:49 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
D'oh. The lack of punctuation is what threw me off lol

Oh.. I said her name though 0_o LOL

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DeepFreeze
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posted June 24, 2014 09:51 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Randall:
Why don't we ask women to remove their make-up in a DL photo? I understand the state having regulations, and that's one of the reasons why the courts are there--to facilitate changes in the laws. If I were a practicing attorney and licensed in that state, I would take the case. I think I could win it. It might even go to the state Supreme Court.

I would ask them to remove it. Seriously.
I'd just have it be a well known requirement.
On the website, etc etc.

No makeup. Along with the other stuff. I don't think it's right that they allow anyone to.

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posted June 24, 2014 09:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
LOL.

Weren't you just screaming(not literally, you wrote as if you were lol) at Doux for being "ignorant" supposedly Pixie Jane? wow


That has nothing to do with this topic. Target the debate or whatever, don't target me personally.

And again, I posted the pic for general interest only. And I still say it's debatable how the law is today and back then, so much has changed that it's almost like apples & oranges. This boy would have more rights back then when it came to being arrested anyway (though he'd probably be too terrified to look like that given societal hate, especially in South Carolina).

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Barbiegirl19
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posted June 24, 2014 09:52 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ He wouldn't be that way back then..He'd be stoned to death or some other tortuous death they did back then.
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Originally posted by Randall:
Why don't we ask women to remove their make-up in a DL photo? I understand the state having regulations, and that's one of the reasons why the courts are there--to facilitate changes in the laws. If I were a practicing attorney and licensed in that state, I would take the case. I think I could win it. It might even go to the state Supreme Court.

I highly doubt that. It's a DL picture, it's not harming or altering his rights. He can still go wear makeup and dresses after it. Male prostitutes, strippers and cross dressers do it without a problem why can't some bratty 16 year old? It's all just adding to the gender and sexual orientation wars they want. There are ALOT more important things going on in the US and in the world to worry about. If I were a practicing attorney in his state and went against you I'd beat you

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MoonWitch
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posted June 24, 2014 09:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonWitch     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, I suppose if people conform and do as they are told there are no wars...

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posted June 24, 2014 09:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I would ask them to remove it. Seriously.
I'd just have it be a well known requirement.
On the website, etc etc.

No makeup. Along with the other stuff. I don't think it's right that they allow anyone to.


You are going to have most women irritated then.

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Barbiegirl19
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posted June 24, 2014 09:58 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
You are going to have most women irritated then.

I agree but if this kid is allowed to retake his picture that argument could come up and just create another issue. It enhances SOME women you can absolutely always tell when a guy is wearing it. I think some guys look absolutely stunning with it on too and that shouldn't matter but in as ID picture it is what it is.

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MoonWitch
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posted June 24, 2014 10:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonWitch     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My FB friend:

He looks like this literally all the time... for years.

Really, is the DMV going to ask him to remove his eyeshadow so he can look more natural?

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PixieJane
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posted June 24, 2014 10:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
You are going to have most women irritated then.

That does remind me of this:


quote:
For more than a decade now, the Beaumont Independent School District’s Taylor Career and Technology Center in Texas — which has the worst website you’ve seen in a long time — has offered an Adult Cosmetology class. It caters to a lot of single moms, according to instructor Cequada Clark, and she was excited for the new school year.

But she recently found out the class was canceled by Principal Thomas Amons. Was it because of budget cuts? A bad evaluation? Nope.

It’s because Amons thought one of the students enrolled in the class this semester looked gay. And since it’s illegal to bar someone from a public school because of his sexual orientation, Amons — who is, not surprisingly, a deacon at a Baptist church — decided to just cancel the class altogether


Read more: http://www.patheos.com/blo gs/friendlyatheist/2012/09/14/principal-shuts-down-cosmetology-class-because-one-of-the-students-looked-gay/#ixzz35c1BfHeG

I expect if the law comes out on the side of the boy (and it probably will) then everyone will be denied makeup, etc. Not for the sake of security, but for control.

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