posted June 30, 2014 03:00 PM            

I have Moon square the ASC which makes it harder to show my emotions in my real life.

I will tell you the story. Someone who does some work for me around my house has a hard life. I felt really sorry for her.

I paid her a more than fair wage and then I gave generous tips because I am blessed and try to bless people.

However, I realized I did not want to make this an every day thing so I gave a little less the next time.

She freaked out and said she had it coming to her--the extra money.

I paid it even though it was not right.

I feel very angry but that is not really the issue.

It is hard for me to feel angry. I turn it into guilt and into that I should feel sorry for her and not angry.

It is really bothering me.

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posted June 30, 2014 04:23 PM            

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posted June 30, 2014 06:00 PM            

I hope you'll feel better about this situation soon, Ami.

posted June 30, 2014 08:15 PM            

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posted June 30, 2014 11:39 PM            

It may or may not be so, so you should never count your chickens before they hatch.

posted July 01, 2014 07:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
It's possible that - since she is having so many problems.. she didn't realise she was being rude.
Maybe she was counting on that money for something, e.g. for rent.. and she assumed you would pay her that, since you had in the past.. and when she realised you weren't paying her that amount - she freaked out.

I think you should email her or have a conversation with her and explain that although you wish her all the best and you wanted to help her when you could.. you also have your own life and your own commitments and problems.. and that you are no longer able to give her such large tips.

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I have gone over this in my mind, Odette. I get really quiet and ask myself was it this? However, my gut tells me she thought I was a weak person she could get one over on. My gut tells me that but I still doubt myself. I suppose this is the cruz of my struggle here. This doubt.

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posted July 01, 2014 10:52 AM            

However, you MUST be tough about this. The lady I knew with the business and Aries moon had a lot of this in her life and she felt too sorry for them and they back stabbed. Don't let people like these get the best of you!

posted July 01, 2014 11:37 AM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Not sure if she really sees you as a weak person, just one with money when she doesn't have any. She would probably do the same with anyone who has money. I wouldn't take it personally. She sounds like she just wishes she had money to me and this is what motivates her to behave the way she does.

However, you MUST be tough about this. The lady I knew with the business and Aries moon had a lot of this in her life and she felt too sorry for them and they back stabbed. Don't let people like these get the best of you!

I find the best way for me, personally, to deal with this is to try to be a bit aloof and distant. I have had to break friendships with people who were nothing but bad news and I grew up with them. They got to the point they scared me and the anxiety was so great I said enough and that was it. I just stopped talking to them and got really evasive. They took the hint and my anxiety went away without them getting all vengeful and angry at me. No big show down or fight. I know it sounds cowardly but sometimes it's the only option if you value your safety.

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Yep, brilliant! I learned not to be so warm and sweet to people with whom I have business dealings.

It was great when I was aloof and just nice but not personal.

Lesson learned and at a price lol

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