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Topic: Does this mean I should not give up hope? (Not a reading request)
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MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 313
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Registered: Nov 2013
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posted July 08, 2014 04:58 PM
  
Alright, so as some of you may know, up until a couple weeks ago, I was hooked on a man named N. I even asked about him every single time a reading opportunity came up. However, I decided to move on a few weeks ago because I felt as though I had poured too much energy into something that went crashing down as he was not ready to have a girlfriend. I've been trying to date for the past 4 weeks and God knows this time is like nothing I had experienced before. Basically, guys send me a message, I reply and then nothing! They disappear. I don't hear from them again. I've been using online dating for years now so I know people on there are flakey. But c'mon! ALL the men I replied to never replied again. Same in real life! Men ask me for my number and never call! Damn it! I used to have men at my feet. Like seriously! I've been using online dating websites for years and my inbox used to be full all the time due to men over-replying to my messages. I used to go on dates all the time. Same with real life encounters, men would always call me again and again. This happened even when I was so desperate to get N back. Ever since N and I dated and parted ways, my dating life has been a big zero. The worst part of it all is that I'm really ready to date again and I'm feeling happy about it! I don't get it. I used to get 100 messages a day no matter what time of the year it was. Now, I have zero replies even in real life and I'm not the one initiating convo. I've been trying for weeks. I'm ready to meet new people! I'm in need of some fresh air  Is this a sign I shouldn't give up on him or what? This is super bizarre. It's never happened to me. IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
Knowflake Posts: 227
From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 08, 2014 05:09 PM
I believe the sign is that you have NOT given up on him. Whether you should or shouldn't has more karmic implications than the sky has stars. And I do not pretend to know any answers. I do know this one by heart though. If I have not thoroughly given up the energy I attach to someone else in a lustful way.... I cannot move on. And everyone around me senses that. The same as desperate people around you.... no one wants to date them because they can sense the desperation. I am not saying you are desperate... I am saying that when we hang an energetic out there... it lingers like a bad fart... and whether we know it or not... others can tell.Whether you stay on course or change... is on you... but you should thoroughly cleanse your energetics either way. And I hope I was not unkind. I mean no disrespect.! IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 313
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Registered: Nov 2013
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posted July 08, 2014 05:15 PM
Thank you for your constructive post! Thing is, I know that it is meant to be, it will be. I'm not stressing about the situation anymore. He's free to do as he pleases and so am I. I don't think I've felt this open to dating and love in about 3 years. I've made some serious progress and whatever is meant to happen will eventually happen. I will move forward with or without him. Sure, I still have a soft spot there for him, but I am not desperate to get him back nor am I desperate to date to try and forget him. I don't compare men to him like I used to. I don't want to forget him, he'll always have a place in my heart. I'm not in denial, nor am I hurting. I've finally healed. I just want to enjoy my life like normal twenty-something adults. Me wanting to date new people does not come from a place of desperation but mainly a will to explore new horizons and learn more about what I want and don't want in a man. What happened with him happened. I spent way too much time dwelling on the past. I want to enjoy new experiences IP: Logged |
tphoenix5
Knowflake Posts: 227
From: USA
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 08, 2014 06:54 PM
I hope you did not think I was suggesting you were desperate... I was using that as a mere example. That is all... we have all had friends we went out with that have desperation written all over them. You do not, in any way, sound desperate... just need to clean your aura a bit... that is all..i was trying to say...IP: Logged |
St@r2013
Knowflake Posts: 931
From:
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 08, 2014 11:55 PM
Maybe it's a sign that you shouldn't use dating sites. Perhaps a better way for you to meet guys is through singles parties, speed dating, trips, through friends etc. I don't think it's a sign that things aren't over between you two. Don't think the universe would want you to be stuck like that. But yeah, I'd try different ways to meet guys. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4879
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 09, 2014 02:26 AM
I do hope things get better for you Mineagain. I wish you best of luck.
On a different note, I am going to move your thread to Sweet peas in the rain forum where I believe your thread is better suited to be at.
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DeepFreeze
Knowflake Posts: 2229
From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted July 09, 2014 02:41 AM
I agree with tphoenix5 also.
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