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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted December 11, 2014 08:41 PM
  
I have talked about my mother on here a lot. She has very low empathy and I went through a lot as a result.That is the background, in a very simple way. I was in a terrible hole when I came on LL and as a result of this community, I climbed out of the hole to a large degree.
That is why I have so much empathy for people in bad shape when they come on here.
That is the background but brings me to my question. ------------------
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Ami Anne
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posted December 11, 2014 08:45 PM
My son works with a person who is exactly like my mother.My son really, really understood what I went through and that single person truly understanding helped me to heal a great deal. This is the question. My son realized that there was NOTHING you could do to make this person act "normal" My son is really good being liked at work. He is a great worker and a sweet person( Libra venus) and he will be very liked at his jobs. He did everything to try to be nice to this person but nothing helped. She was a jerk, nice, a jerk nice etc etc She is very disliked by everyone but the point is that I saw that my mother was hopeless too. I used to try to be really loving, really warm etc but my mother would do exactly the same. I started being cordial, not saying I love you and just being cordial, as I said. I feel really upset to be at this point. I could use some help. Thanks xx ------------------
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Lonake
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posted December 12, 2014 03:45 PM
Is she a co worker, or is she someone in management.
Where is she in the pecking order?Either way he can "can" the nice routine. She doesn't deserve it; save that for a co worker he likes and who treats him well. He does need to be respectful but it doesn't take much. Give examples of how he's tried to get on her good side? She might just be a person who sees work as work and not as a social event.
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Ami Anne
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posted December 12, 2014 04:39 PM
No Lonake, my question was not about him. He backed this person down and she is cordial to him and found other people to harass, as is usually the case lolMy question is for myself, in that there are some people with whom you can never be close because they demand you give up your soul for it. ------------------
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Ami Anne
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posted December 12, 2014 04:43 PM
I think I answered my own question. There are some people with whom one can never be close if one cares to maintain personal integrity. That was my question and I guess my answer  ------------------
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Lonake
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posted December 12, 2014 05:19 PM
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Ami Anne
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posted December 12, 2014 05:49 PM
Exactly Lonake! xx------------------
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
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posted December 12, 2014 06:10 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
No Lonake, my question was not about him. He backed this person down and she is cordial to him and found other people to harass, as is usually the case lolMy question is for myself, in that there are some people with whom you can never be close because they demand you give up your soul for it.
quote:
It ain’t no use to sit and wonder why, babe
It don’t matter, anyhow
An’ it ain’t no use to sit and wonder why, babe
If you don’t know by now
When your rooster crows at the break of dawn
Look out your window and I’ll be gone
You’re the reason I’m trav’lin’ on
Don’t think twice, it’s all right It ain’t no use in turnin’ on your light, babe
That light I never knowed
An’ it ain’t no use in turnin’ on your light, babe
I’m on the dark side of the road
Still I wish there was somethin’ you would do or say
To try and make me change my mind and stay
We never did too much talkin’ anyway
So don’t think twice, it’s all right It ain’t no use in callin’ out my name, gal
Like you never did before
It ain’t no use in callin’ out my name, gal
I can’t hear you anymore
I’m a-thinkin’ and a-wond’rin’ all the way down the road
I once loved a woman, a child I’m told
I give her my heart but she wanted my soul
But don’t think twice, it’s all right I’m walkin’ down that long, lonesome road, babe
Where I’m bound, I can’t tell
But goodbye’s too good a word, gal
So I’ll just say fare thee well
I ain’t sayin’ you treated me unkind
You could have done better but I don’t mind
You just kinda wasted my precious time
But don’t think twice, it’s all right Copyright © 1963 by Warner Bros. Inc.; renewed 1991 by Special Rider Music
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florence
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posted December 12, 2014 08:27 PM
I didn't think my mum and I would ever be friends. Because we still aren't exactly a mother and daughter relationship - in fact maybe my soul never wanted that. But anyway, we are friends of sorts and even though in many ways there are invisible shackles sensed that I need to behave xyz manner to be accepted, I know on another level I no longer need to worry about that. At some point this became apparent to both of us on some level. The point is there's hope but it's probably not activated on a logical level ... perhaps the best you can do is accept whatever you feel she rejects in you if only so she can accept that in herself.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted December 13, 2014 10:21 AM
I thank everyone for their wonderful answers. I think i saw through to the core. With a Mal Narc, if you are not sucking up to them( and by definition losing yourself) there is nothing there but AIR.------------------
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Faith
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posted December 13, 2014 11:34 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
My question is for myself, in that there are some people with whom you can never be close because they demand you give up your soul for it.
Yes to the first part, that are some people you can never be close to. I could never get along with my sister, despite figuratively banging my head against a wall for most of my life, trying to uphold a stable relationship...and once I accepted that this was utterly out of my control, tremendous peace opened up for me that I never experienced before. I believe that sometimes you have to cut ties to save yourself. Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, know when to walk away, know when to run.  ^ Song
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posted December 13, 2014 01:49 PM
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Ami Anne
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posted December 13, 2014 02:28 PM
I could never get along with my sister, despite figuratively banging my head against a wall for most of my life, trying to uphold a stable relationship...and once I accepted that this was utterly out of my control, tremendous peace opened up for me that I never experienced before.This is it. Thanks, Faith. ------------------
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