posted December 19, 2014 08:12 AM
A few nights ago I was talking to a neighbor of mine and he mentioned that he does not feel one bit sorry for drug addicts and went on to say why. Basically he says it's their own choice to do drugs. Here he is though an alcoholic himself who drinks on a nightly basis (he admits he's an alcoholic, a functioning one). He comes from an older generation in which that line of thinking is commonplace. I guess alcoholics are excused but drug addicts are not, to him.Recently and a few times over many years I've been attacked by someone online saying that I am an alcoholic. Apparently trying to make me feel bad about something they think I am. I am not, but I do drink and I don't feel guilt around it. That has taken honesty and self awareness on my part. I know what I'm dealing with and this person doesn't. I do not and would never feel bad or guilty about it, because I understand it too much. I won't go too deep into my personal life because that's not the point of the thread, but I have dealt with it firsthand in many ways and i know a lot about it, so I would never ever do something like that to someone who might be addicted to drugs or alcohol. It's a horrible, insensitive and dangerous thing to do to someone who suffers with this. Even worse when someone does it because it makes them feel better about themselves.
The point of this thread is to raise some awareness and hopefully help people who do demonize addicts to understand more and why they should stop. I"ve noticed many times throughout my life how people with little understanding of addicts will try to demonize them and it reminds me of how uneducated many people today still are.
I thought this would make a good topic of conversation and a way to help educate the masses and people who might be contributing to addicts problems and compounding them because they know even worse because they don't understand the reality of the disease. (and I know many don't believe it's a disease)
Below is a good article I just found. Anyone is welcome to share their thoughts or experiences. I'd love it if people added to the conversation with facts to help stop the stigma associated with people who struggle with addiction and their disease. I know it will take time for people to really wake up to the truth, but as a whole, i think we are slowly getting there.
Thanks.
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The stigma around addiction hurts everyone
It’s time to end the stigma around addiction.
When Phillip Seymour Hoffman died Feb. 2, a few caring people reached out to express their concern for me in light of the news. You see, like Hoffman, my brother died with a needle in his arm. Every time I hear about a heroin overdose, I’m slammed with memories of my brother and forced to face unresolved feelings about his death. This high-profile case was the most difficult example yet because it made it crystal clear how much work still needs to be done in educating people about addiction.
The very day he died, people were saying that Hoffman’s death was his own fault, that he was stupid for doing drugs, and that he got what he deserved.
*******(twitter comments were inserted here and can be read at the link below)
It wasn’t just strangers. Someone I know and respect posted on Facebook that “suicidal celebrities” like Hoffman “stuck the barrel of the metaphorical gun in their mouth before pulling the trigger.” My friend took umbrage with people saying Hoffman was taken from us too soon. “Bull – he wasn’t taken, he went. … It is a consequence of one’s own actions, after all.” It is hard not to internalize these words—just replace “Hoffman” with “Becky’s brother” and you may see why it stings.
After my initial reaction to the post (shock, disgust, anger), I left a short comment that I hoped explained my thoughts, yet belied the true depth of my feelings.
“I don’t want to get into this too much, but as the sibling of someone who died by heroin OD, I’ll just say you may be oversimplifying things a bit and sound a wee bit insensitive. Drug addiction (and for that matter, suicide) aren’t as simple as a ‘choice.’ They are both symptoms of deep psychological problems that are almost never a ‘choice.'”
Here are some facts:
*Drug abuse is a diagnosable brain disease, according to the International Classification of Diseases and Health Problems (World Health Organization) and the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (American Psychiatric Association).
*At least 15.3 million persons in the world have drug use disorders (World Health Organization). That’s more than 15 times the number of people who are diagnosed with breast cancer worldwide each year (Susan G. Komen Foundation).
*37 percent of people who abuse alcohol and 53 percent of people who abuse drugs also have at least one serious mental illness (Journal of the American Medical Association).
*61 percent of individuals with bipolar disorder also had a substance abuse disorder, more than five times as likely as the general population (Journal of the American Medical Association).
*Drug and alcohol abuse kills more than 100,000 Americans each year (National Institute on Drug Abuse), and 100% those who die were someone’s family member.
*Drug abuse is a treatable, but not curable, chronic disorder that can result in death. That makes it similar to diabetes, asthma, and many other diseases. Yet, while no one would blame an asthmatic for his condition (“he should just take control of his breathing”), demonizing people with substance abuse problems is commonplace.
It is true that people who abuse alcohol or drugs harm themselves with their own behavior. Their actions also hurt those around them. They can be selfish and manipulative and lazy and mean and all of the other stereotypes you’ve heard or perhaps even said. If you’ve never suffered from addiction yourself or witnessed its effects firsthand, that may be the entirety of your understanding of this illness. If so, be grateful.
No disease is as simple as a list of symptoms. Behind any illness is a human being, as flawed as any other, who is feeling real pain and trying to find a way to survive and maybe even thrive despite the diagnosis. Those suffering from addiction may have different symptoms than someone who has cancer or lupus, but their battle is just as real. They are just as real, and the people who love them are just as real.
Addiction is not easy, as anyone who has experienced or witnessed it knows. For those unable to admit they have a problem, it’s a daily battle within their own head and with the world around them. It’s a roller coaster of emotional and physical highs and lows between hits. For those able to admit their problem, it’s a struggle of trying to quit (and then stay sober) while dealing with pressure and judgment from family, friends, and society. It’s also living in constant fear of the disease returning.
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The stigma around addiction harms not only those suffering from the disease, but also leaves their families plagued with guilt and shame. While no one would lie about a mother battling cancer, it happens all the time in the secret world of addiction. When someone dies from drug or alcohol abuse, the family members often suffer in silence, afraid to reach out for support for fear of being judged.
I may not have the power to change the stigma, but I can speak my truth without shame: My brother died from a heroin overdose. His death wasn’t his fault, he most certainly wasn’t stupid, and he didn’t get what he deserved. I blame his disease for his death, but I don’t blame him or myself.
I’ve spent the nearly 2 weeks since Hoffman died thinking a lot about how we demonize addicts and the unnecessary pain it causes them and their loved ones—people already riddled with an almost unbearable load of awful feelings. I may not persuade you to change your beliefs about addiction, but I do hope you’ll at least stop to think before laying blame, asserting guilt, or casting judgment. Perhaps you’ll even put yourself in someone else’s shoes or, better yet, sit and talk with someone dealing with addiction (either themselves or a family member) to learn more about the realities of the disease.
I also urge you to read these two brilliant articles on the subject: “Philip Seymour Hoffman and the Tragedy of Addiction,” by Kristin Iversen (Brooklyn Magazine), and “Philip Seymour Hoffman is Another Victim of Extremely Stupid Drug Laws,” by Russell Brand (The Guardian). They do a fine job of teaching us a little about empathy and isn’t that, after all, what it really means to be human?
Finally, if you are so inclined, please join my fight against the stigma and leave a comment with your story of addiction. Putting a face on this disease is the first step in making a profound change in perception. Thank you.
http://www.beckymollenkamp.com/the-stigma-around-addiction-hurts-everyone/