posted December 27, 2014 08:49 PM            

I have been talking about the same man ever since I created my account on LL. It's getting exhausting and I'm quite disheartened.

I met him two years ago and I haven't been able to look at any other man since. I have been praying God to help me find another man with better qualities but nothing has happened. I pray everyday to find a man who will share my values and treat me right.

Every single man I meet has the same name as this guy or comes from the same state. It's funny considering the fact I'm not even located in the US.

He keeps haunting my dreams. I can't even get a break at night. I thought he was "The One" the first time I saw him but the embarrassment he put me through was enough for me to stop dreaming about a future with him. I've been single ever since I met him when I used to be able to find a man to date pretty quickly before I met him!

How did I lose my luck in love like this?

Why does the Universe keep sending me men who remind me of him? I don't understand. Why hasn't the Universe sent me a better man despite my prayers? Doesn't the Universe listen? I used to be able to move on from one man to another very very quickly. My "obsession" never lasted more than 3 months!

I'm tired. This is draining. I've lost hope and quite frankly, wish I had never met him. I need some help.

posted December 27, 2014 09:11 PM            

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posted December 27, 2014 09:27 PM            

Thank you very much for your response. Please find the synastry below.

I really appreciate your kind help.

(He's outside)

posted December 27, 2014 09:59 PM            

His Chiron conj your ASC must feel VERY intense. Has he shared intense pain with you. It is a very intimate aspect between you.

Maybe, you could tell me more how it feels to you because I have not seen it in synastry

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posted December 27, 2014 10:01 PM            

He brings you both love( Venus) and his own victim side( and we all have one)

It is very, very intimate. You feel like you have your own private world with Nessus/Deja.

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posted December 27, 2014 10:03 PM            

You are very, very deep with each other. You prolly felt really close, really fast like you found your soul mate and it would never end.

Chiron is very weird. It seems to do the above and then break up over a little nothing and then it does not seem to come back.

That is what I have seen in doing charts.

What do you think?

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posted December 27, 2014 10:19 PM            

Everything you said is very accurate.

He was able to share certain intimate details of his life pretty much right off the bat. We had an instant connection and it felt as though we knew each other before we actually met. We got close really really fast. I didn't know what hit me at all. I trusted him instantly and I believe he felt the same about me. The instant connection was very powerful.

He indeed had a "victim" side which he shared with me and I also witnessed his "victim" act whenever something went wrong. One thing is I can feel what he feels or thinks even from miles away. Back when we were dating, I'd be thinking of something and a couple minutes later he'd text me about that very same subject. Same when we were physically together, we'd say the same things at the same time, talk about the same topic at the same time.

We definitely had a special "intimate" connection which felt like a "private" world/bond. I had never encountered something like this before. Everything was so deep, on my part at least (because he never truly showed any sort of attachment to me).

There are so many things I dreamt of at night which later happened exactly like in my dreams sometimes weeks or months later and we're not even in touch (haven't been in almost a year).

It is true that I felt like I met a true soulmate. I thought he was my soulmate which is the reason why I haven't gotten over him and no one can measure up. The very first time I saw him, I genuinely thought I was going to marry him. It was so intense and then it just disappeared as quickly as it started. Something very insignificant caused this connection to crumble. Looking back, it doesn't make sense. We haven't spoken since. I'm not sure if we ever will?!

posted December 27, 2014 10:33 PM            

I would not understand it if I had not lived it. I have lived everything I write about lol

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posted December 27, 2014 10:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
It DOESN"T make sense. Chiron does not make sense, not does Nessus/Deja.

I would not understand it if I had not lived it. I have lived everything I write about lol

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Yes, I've been trying to find reasons why but it just seems as though I woke up one day and realized it was just a dream. This is very strange.

In your opinion, I should try to move on because it's over for good?

It's painful. I've tried to move on, I'm desperate at this stage. I've tried meditation, avoiding dating like the pleague, going out, moving away .. nothing worked.

Do you think I'm the only one who hasn't fully moved on or is this strong mark impacting both sides the same way?

posted December 27, 2014 10:44 PM            

I had a relationship like this that took me 3 full years to get over it.

I can still think of him and he will reappear. The connection is so strong.

I cried myself to sleep for a year.

I went through soooo much pain but now, I can see that it was not real.

It was not HIM. It was my pain.

He represented love to me and I craved that love but it was not real.

It was a mirage.

Don't quote this. I may delete.

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posted December 28, 2014 07:42 AM            

This connection is so strong that maybe one gets caught up in it thinking it's true love.

This whole Chiron aspect ruined everything before it even started. This constant "what if" thought is just as exhausting.

posted December 28, 2014 08:29 AM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
*I thought he was "[i]The One" the first time I saw him but the embarrassment he put me through was enough for me to stop dreaming about a future with him.

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Hmmm, this struck me as significant. Just because you feel a strong connection with someone in some ways doesn't necessarily mean they are going to be any good for you.

I had such a connection with someone 15 years ago and we lost touch for complicated and uncontrollable reasons which I won't go into right now. Took me several years before I got over him the attraction was that strong, I was even trying to find someone like him (no-one else matched up). I did move on eventually though and funnily enough I found the old flame last year on FB and we resumed contact by email. But we are just friends now, I think he wants more however I believe we didn't "happen" the first time round for a reason and I'm more wary now.

There WILL be other fish in the sea that you will feel strongly about.

posted December 28, 2014 09:53 AM            

I have many articles on the strangeness of Chiron relationships. I can put some up for you, if you want.

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posted December 28, 2014 10:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
You are so welcome, Mine. Astrology can make sense of the unexplainable. That is one of it's true beauties.

I have many articles on the strangeness of Chiron relationships. I can put some up for you, if you want.

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I would really love to read articles about Chiron in relationships. It seems as though it destroys situations in an instant and the parties are left wondering "What just happened?". You don't get any closure and you're left wondering "Why".

You wake up one day and it's all gone completely.

Sure, every single relationship is meant to teach you something but sometimes the pain that goes with it is unbearable. It all seemed too good to be true and it was gone in the blink of an eye.

posted December 28, 2014 10:09 AM            

I will put up the articles for you.

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posted January 04, 2015 05:06 PM            

1) You are still emotionally attached to this man and haven't been able to move on, so therefore there is no "space" in your psyche for another man to enter.

2)Although you say you want someone new to come in and "replace" that one, you are simultaneously telling yourself that no one else is going to match up...thereby effectively cancelling out your request. Hence no results.

Also, it might help you to examine the relationship you had with your own father,
eg , did you have a father? Did he leave?
How did the parenting you had as a child make you feel about yourself etc etc.
Believe it or not, these things have an important bearing on the types of relationships we attract..

posted January 05, 2015 01:28 PM            

I don't have a bad relationship with him at all. He's always been very involved. I can't say my relationship with my father is the reason why I can't get over this man. If anything, given how great of a role model my father is, I wouldn't want to get involved with a trainwreck.

I've always been an independent woman capable of getting over men rather quickly. Quite frankly, I've never gotten attached to any man except this man. I'm very career oriented and I've always turned men down because I didn't want to waste time and preferred to focus on my career.

The only "damaged" relationship I have is the one I have with my mother because I suspect she's bipolar/narcissist.

posted January 05, 2015 01:39 PM            

However, bottom line, if you are super sensitive and everything hurts like a harsh wool sweater on bare skin, it is the Unaspected Moon imo

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posted January 06, 2015 03:34 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I actually did have a good relationship with my father as I was growing up. We're still quite close and he gives me a lot of good life advice. He listens to me. He paid my way through college and is still of great help.

I don't have a bad relationship with him at all. He's always been very involved. I can't say my relationship with my father is the reason why I can't get over this man. If anything, given how great of a role model my father is, I wouldn't want to get involved with a trainwreck.

I've always been an independent woman capable of getting over men rather quickly. Quite frankly, I've never gotten attached to any man except this man. I'm very career oriented and I've always turned men down because I didn't want to waste time and preferred to focus on my career.

The only "damaged" relationship I have is the one I have with my mother because I suspect she's bipolar/narcissist.

This man reminded me (a lot) of my father to a certain extent (maybe because they're both Pisces).

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Ah. Then it's your relationship with your mother. The relationships we attract contain elements that reflect dynamics from our earliest relationship in life - that with our parents..
Because you had a good relationship with your father, you obviously have confidence with men, and no trouble attracting them, as you say..
But then, something else enters the picture..
It must be to do with your mother, and what she unconsciously passed on to you, eg certain beliefs about yourself, behavior patterns, etc.
The people we attract can reflect characteristics/dynamics with/of either parent.
It's like a mystery or puzzle that we have to solve.
God (or The Universe)keeps sending the same types...until we have worked out the answer.
The clue is always to do with our parents ..and how we related to them (-or not,eg your relationship to your mother)