posted February 02, 2015 12:49 PM            

OK, I will explain.

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posted February 02, 2015 12:52 PM            

Well, my son starting working with an exact copy of my mother and they are rare.

He never met one before and I came into contact with one, only, prior.

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posted February 02, 2015 01:04 PM            

She asked me what was her "demeaning" voice. I told her to try to use it and she would find out lol

At any rate, she figured it out cuz she has not used it since--about 2 months.

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posted February 02, 2015 01:06 PM            

Anyway, my father always stood up for her and tried to make everything OK and basically blame the people who had problems with her, rather than she.

Hence, he made other people feel as if it were their fault.

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posted February 02, 2015 01:08 PM            

She called me up to try to get me in the middle and I took his side.

I said she was sadistic and I was not going to make it better for her by lying.

He, finally, just stood up and told the truth.

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posted February 02, 2015 01:09 PM            

I have HUGE guilt around her. I blame myself for everything.

I don't know. That is what is going on. I am so upset.

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posted February 02, 2015 02:17 PM            

So, good job, Ami. I know it's hard.

posted February 02, 2015 02:52 PM            

In as much as I would like a perfect family: 1. I am too old and the dream is dead and 2. I have accepted that other people have their own crosses to bear, and they do what is right for them. In knowing that and understanding that now, you have to do what is right for you and speak your truth. If that means telling your mum that you do not agree with her, then in my opinion, you have done the right thing. I think accepting negative personalities only makes you sadder to be honest (from experience).

I understand that you feel guilty, because you feel like you are losing her; but do you think that you also feel sad because you've never been able to address what she has put you through your entire life? I know that if the day comes and I am reunited with my siblings, the days in which have been apart have helped me to understand what I need to say.

posted February 02, 2015 03:59 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Later my Mercury conjunct Mars may step in.
Hope you have your steel toed boots on becaue I might be stepping on some toes. LOL

You can stop me now, if you want. LOL

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LOL

If it is harsh advice, maybe let it go. Thanks

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posted February 02, 2015 04:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Whatever you can be honest about gets you in touch with your deepest self, and in turn opens you up for healing.

So, good job, Ami. I know it's hard.

We fight sometimes, but I mean this.

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Thank you, Faith. I know you have a sweet heart. I could always feel it, even when we fought lol

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posted February 02, 2015 04:02 PM            

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Originally posted by ikja:
Family tension is never easy. Since the age of 12, my family has been FAR from what I have wanted it to be. My siblings got angry and moved on with their lives and I was left behind - now we don't really speak to each other. It is pushing 12 years between me and my sister and nearly 1 year between me and my brother.

In as much as I would like a perfect family: 1. I am too old and the dream is dead and 2. I have accepted that other people have their own crosses to bear, and they do what is right for them. In knowing that and understanding that now, you have to do what is right for you and speak your truth. If that means telling your mum that you do not agree with her, then in my opinion, you have done the right thing. I think accepting negative personalities only makes you sadder to be honest (from experience).

I understand that you feel guilty, because you feel like you are losing her; but do you think that you also feel sad because you've never been able to address what she has put you through your entire life? I know that if the day comes and I am reunited with my siblings, the days in which have been apart have helped me to understand what I need to say.

It saddens me that you feel sad, but you are in control of whatever happens next between you and your mum and whatever you do will be the right decision for you (and your peace) xxx

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Thank you, I. I hate to say this cuz it makes me sound so bad but I think it is because I have no more excuses lol

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posted February 02, 2015 06:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I know you have a sweet heart. I could always feel it, even when we fought lol

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Thank you. You also have a sweet heart.

See you in our next fight....

posted February 02, 2015 06:13 PM            

I can relate ~ There is bad blood between me and my sister and it feels like...well, it drives at the roots of practically everything I am. Her Cancer sun-moon-Mercury conjunction forms a cardinal grand cross with my sun-Jupiter-Pluto t-square.

And it's always been, "Who do we blame this colossal mess on?" She is schizophrenic, but I could never let myself off the hook and say, "Her problems are her problems." Or stop blaming myself for not being able to fix her, and fix us.

Maybe because my Pisces moon is trine hers.

posted February 02, 2015 07:31 PM            

Enjoy the moment

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posted February 02, 2015 08:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
^^ But before that time comes, I want to say...

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Aww my heart is really touched, Faith.

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posted February 02, 2015 09:14 PM            

Just...

posted February 02, 2015 09:16 PM            

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posted February 03, 2015 04:08 PM            

I will give an update today. My father went back to being a 100% wimp again. I talked to him on the phone and I asked him, point blank, if it was just too hard for him to stand up after a life of being beaten down. He told me he wanted to think on the question lol

I don't know.

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posted March 07, 2015 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
I know this is a bit of an old thread, but I just wanted to say I am sorry you are having a tough time with family Ami, but considering some of the experiences you've recounted on LL, I can only hope that you have remembered that resilience within you, again.

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Thank you, V!

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